It is a matter of what is our objective in life. A 'mature' cristian knows his role is to help. Situations may not me the same, my experience with the jw may be totally different than yours. Congretations as a whole may differ also.
The difficult part is supporting the wt programs when it is a waste of time or you don't beleive the objectives are to help individual jw, it requires some kind of personality....
It has been said many times that most jw are good people but that they ignore some facts or have been brain washed.
Many of us think that we know better than most jw, that knowledge brings a responsability with it.. You can teach by example.
It is not what the country can do for me but i can do for the country (people).
If there is more happiness in giving than receiving then many of us don't beleive it.
If you can help eldery people or anyone in need of material or moral support, the WT won't be able to stop you from doing it.
If we beleive in cristian principles then we should love our enemies (jw?) and help them if neccesary.
If we know better we won't engage in polarizing arguments.
Stopping associating with jw may not help them (what about the family?) . Shunning works both ways.
In a political party you have people at the center and also on the left and right wings.
We don't get out the country because we dont like what the administration has done or is doing, like vietnam or Irak.
True, unlike in the jw religion, we have the right to protest but inside you know it does not change anything, and most likely we never talk or write to the administration about it..
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