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  one year ago

  by peaceloveharmony in

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  well a year ago, i ended a five year relationship with a man i thought i'd marry and have babies with.

  i left for lots of reasons but mainly because i'd lost myself and i wasn't really happy with him.. i moved into my own place and life has been an adventure.

  i dated a 21 yr old, that was interesting haha.

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  Harm, you shoulda went ahead and married that guy and now you would REALLY be happy. Im kidding. You Go Girl! I bet Hawaii is nice. om
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  stockholm syndrome

  by openminded in

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  check this out:.

  stockholm syndrome .

  ``they weren't bad people.

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  Thanks Valis! om
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  stockholm syndrome

  by openminded in

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  check this out:.

  stockholm syndrome .

  ``they weren't bad people.

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  openminded

  Check this out:

  Stockholm Syndrome
  ``They weren't bad people. They let me eat, they let me sleep, they gave me my life''

  - A hostage from Flight 847

  One way of describing this site would be ``strange beliefs people have and how they got them.'' A curious footnote that doesn't seem to fit in nicely on any of the other pages is a phenomenon known as the Stockholm Syndrome.

  In the summer of 1973, four hostages were taken in a botched bank robbery at Kreditbanken in Stockholm, Sweden. At the end of their captivity, six days later, they actively resisted rescue. They refused to testify against their captors, raised money for their legal defense, and according to some reports one of the hostages eventually became engaged to one of her jailed captors.

  This struck some folks as weird, and as a way of coping with this uneasiness, as they started seeing more examples they named this class of strange behavior the ``Stockholm Syndrome.''

  Notorious in the United States is the case of Patty Hearst, who after being kidnapped and tortured by the Symbionese Liberation Army, took up arms and joined their cause, taking on the nom de guerre of ``Tania'' and helping the SLA rob banks.

  The Stockholm Syndrome comes into play when a captive cannot escape, is isolated and threatened with death, but is shown token acts of kindness by the captor. It typically takes about three or four days for the psychological shift to take hold.

  A strategy of trying to keep your captor happy in order to stay alive becomes an obsessive identification with the likes and dislikes of the captor which has the result of warping your own psyche in such a way that you come to sympathize with your tormenter!

  The syndrome explains what happens in hostage-taking situations, but can also be used to understand the behavior of battered spouses, members of religious cults, Holocaust victims, household pets, and perhaps even users of Internet Explorer. I think it may also help explain the popularity of government and of the mass institutionalization of young people.
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  Interview with the JW Geek

  by Hmmm in

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  when i was a senior in high school, the principal called me in to her office to ask why i'd missed repeated deadlines to turn in my applications for colleges.

  i went to a school for brainiacs, and was above average there--yes, i was a geek among geeks.

  the principal asked me if it were a question of finances.

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  openminded

  I can relate to a lot of this. I too have excellent saliva control especially after I eat skittles. Anyway, I too graduated in 92 and my parents didnt know the difference between the ACT, SAT, or the MCAT let alone care if I took the test. Yet, despite direct discouragement from several J-dub mentors I went off to college (confused). It didn't last long though as I had little support and was too naive to understand the time I was wasting by trying to be a "good witness" by attending all meetings while working and going to school. So I got married young (to a pioneer) had a child and dropped out of school. In time I realized that all the evil worldly people I went to high school with were becoming pro ball players, surgeons, and accountants and I was shoveling shit for 10 bucks an hour with a wife and child. So I went back for an education and am currently on track to finish a BA in Business in Dec. I have had several new job offers already but so far have decided to stay with my current employer as I am in management and they are paying my tuition. I too have thrown around the idea of law school but would like to run my own business as well, so I will see.

  My little brother struggled for a while after High School too, before he figured out the value of an education and is now set to graduate college with a 4.0 gpa. And my sister just went back to school so good on her. My youngest sister who I last heard is still pioneering is battling depression and married a fellow "lover of Jehovah" who is evidently blind yet very arrogant in that way only a clueless/uneducated Jw can be be. But she is smart so, Im sure her day of awaking can't be far off I am sure.

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  Any fitness gurus out there

  by Leander in

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  well since i've made up my mind to take control of my life by leaving the borg i also want to get myself back in shape.

  a few years ago i wass 6'1, about 205 (all muscle) with less than 10% bodyfat.

  today lets just say that i need to get back into a serious workout regimine.. .

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  I find it helpful to go to the grocery store on Sun eve and buy all my food for the week (its like an investment in my health and I actually save money) this helps keep me from eating fast food and junk. I eat 3 pcs of fruit per day and I snack on granola. I alternate fish and chicken every other day for supper and usually eat a chef salad for lunch. Oh an I always eat a small bowl of oatmeal in the a.m to get my metabolism going for the day.

  Most impotant is excercise...5 days a week will get your best results.

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  Greg Stafford's New Book Has Shipped

  by AlanF in

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  today i received greg stafford's new book three dissertations on the teachings of jehovah's witnesses.

  for those who don't know, stafford has been a staunch defender of the watchtower society's teachings for at least six years, on the net and in print.

  his previous book, jehovah's witnesses defended (1998, 2000), is a milestone in pro-jw literature.. the new book is a radical departure from stafford's previous book in that he strongly questions the society's doctrines about blood transfusions, the basis for the claim of spiritual authority by jw leaders, the necessity for christians to believe the society's 1914 doctrine, and issues of "legalism" including the propriety of requiring "time" in the field ministry to be reported, and even the supposed scriptural basis for the society's ban on celebrating birthdays and christmas.

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  I know Matt Alfs. Sadly instead of having a father coach my little league games, he used to take us to Matt's house to watch really weird cult videos from the late 1800's. Oh what memories. Thanks Dad!
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  Is there such a thing as sin?

  by sleepy in

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  is there such a thing as sin?.

  my dictionary defines sin as:1the breaking of a religious or moral law;an act that does this2a serious fault or offence.. but to have moral laws or religious codes you need to have a law maker, someone to define a sin.. if like me you doubt the existance of a creator , who decides what is moraly right or correct?.

  the majority vote?.

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  I think right and wrong is much less important than doing what works for you. What is the benefit of being right if your marriage isnt working or your family sucks (and doesnt speak to you) or your guilty all the time. Forget about being right or winning the argument about being right, even though your dead sure your "right". Measure your thinking and behaivior by this simple yardstick: Is it working or not working? Youve been right long enough; try being a winner instead.
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  Deleted Because Boss is DF JW

  by VitoJW in

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  i am new here.

  tho i have lurked, this is my first real post.. i was doing "personal research" for the last 5 years, tho was helped along recently when i was deleted as an elder because i work for a company owned by a disassociated jw.

  there is no real definitive info in print, other than the infamous 9/15/81 wt, but the co held a mini-crusade and got me axed.. nothing personal,.... just business.

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  openminded

  It's obvious to me that Jehovah is mad at you. I mean with all that is going on the earth (terrorism, disease, birth defects, etc...) he is more worried about who you work for and taking action against you...you should feel flattered.

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  Colorgenics

  by peaceloveharmony in

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  click the link :).

  http://colorgenics.com/.

  a good friend is someone who will come and bail you out of jail, but a true friend will be sitting next to you saying "that was f**king awesome.

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  openminded

  This is mine. om

  You seem to be trying to sweep aside the situations (and maybe the people) that you feel are standing in your way. You are impulsive and apt to follow these impulses seeking to be involved in special or exciting happenings. In this way you hope to deaden the intensity of your conflicts, but your impulsive behaviour is leading you to take some unnecessary risks. Back down a little and remember 'more haste - less speed'.

  You are very self-sufficient and methodical. You presume to know where you are going but need to find a person who will recognise the way you are, not be too demanding and who is, as they say in Italy, 'Simpatico'.

  In spite of the fact that you believe that your hopes and ideas are realistic, it is hard for you to accept that your needs and desires are misunderstood by almost everyone within your sphere of influenceand there is no-one to turn to or rely on. Your pent-up emotions and inherent egocentricity make you quick to take offence, but as matters stand you realise that you will have to make the best of things as they are.

  You are an emotional, sincere and impressionable individual experiencing frustration and unnecessary stress. You vehemently resist any form of pressure from outside sources, insisting on your independence as an individual. You want to be a decision maker - to make up your own mind without interference. You wish to be able to draw your own conclusions and arrive at your own decisions. You detest uniformity and mediocrity as you want to be regarded as one who gives authoritative opinions. Your favourite expression could well be that 'I may not always be right but I am never wrong'. You're a perfectionist and even though you may feel that the other person's point of view may be right, you find it extremely difficult to admit that you could be wrong.

  You really like doing what you do and, more than that, you like yourself. Your attitude to work and to life is that 'If its not fun - then don't do it'. You want to be liked and respected, not for who you are but for what you are - and it seems to be working.
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  Upcoming Assembly Theme/Topics?

  by alamb in

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  i need to know the titles of any talks at this spring's circuit assembly and possibly any topics discussed.

  if anyone has gone or has spoken to anyone, please help.

  does anyone have a program?.

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  Dadelus, Scully, That is some funny stuff! om

  Here is a talk Id like to hear-

  A symposium:

  -Riding the Harlot; Justifying WTS membership with the U.N.
  *Library Cards; How to get the most out of them
  * NGO's; Jehovah's view
  * Making up the rules as we go, because our members are idiots