Posts by exjwlemming

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Check out the JW tchotchkes on Etsy

by exjwlemming in

i'm interested in seeing what jw trinket on etsy is the most appalling to the exjw community.

go to www.etsy.com and just search jw.

just when i thought that i found the most disturbing item, another comes along to top it.

exjwlemming

I'm interested in seeing what JW trinket on Etsy is the most appalling to the exjw community. Go to www.etsy.com and just search jw. Just when I thought that I found the most disturbing item, another comes along to top it. There are nearly 10,000 items.

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Anyone pissed at their parents for raising you in the cult?

by blownaway in

my mother was not the most emotionally stable person.

she was a follower and instilled in me the idea we were better than those worldly people.

its hard to go to school as a child and you can not be friends outside of school, you can not celebrate any holidays, and you are told all these people are going to die.

exjwlemming

Yes, I am pissed that my parents introduced me to this cult. Your parents are suppose to protect you from unhealthy influences until you can protect yourself. My parents really had no need that I can see to join the JW cult. My mom was college educated with a good job. My dad was in the Marines and had a lucrative job and a good career. They were well off. They didn't have any mental issues like many that join. My mom had a good heart and let some "sisters" into her home one day. I remember as a young kid that she use to have this self help book on the shelf titled, "How to say, No." My mom couldn't say no..except to me and my sibling. Well, some "sister" was using her to fill her "time card." After being told to drop her as a study when fast enough progress wasn't being made, she disobeyed and continued studying with her off and on for the next 10 years! Likewise, my father and I were indoctrinated as well. My life was wasted away by the choices that she had made, as well as the choices that were required that I make. I could have done so much more with my interests and talents. Now, her grandchildren are trapped in this cult and they are all required to shun me. They are stuck in dead end menial jobs with a meager education. Even though, I wanted more for my kids, offered more, and could see the org for the joke that it is, the kids were indoctrinated too. The family dynamic is dysfunctional and the family destroyed due to the WTBT$. Yes, I'm pissed.

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Circuit Assembly Experiences

by Tallon in

many years ago, in the congregation i attended at the time, there was a brother who had endured bad health over many years.

as result he underwent a number of operations - a couple being life saving operations.

at one or two circuit assemblies he was interviewed on the platform where he related how he endured ill health.. for me, i felt very uncomfortable listening to his experience and, i actually felt embarrassed for him because i have never been one to speak of any health issues i had, let alone publicise it from the platform.

exjwlemming

I remember a particular assembly part that must have made most JWs feel terrible. They were interviewing a single mom of 3 boys that received dialysis several times a week, works a full time job to support the family, and was a reg aux pioneer. It made my self sparing, lazy ex feel like crap. In order to build herself up after hearing the "experience" at the assembly, she would tear me down all the way home. "You don't do enough." "You should be reaching out for more privileges." Actually, I wanted less "privileges!" Thus, she is my ex. It would happen after ever assembly. She would compare herself to some "exemplary" circuit stooge that was chosen to show others that they don't do enough and could do more. The GB are dumb as foxes. They know exactly what they were doing.

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Concerned Parent

by ConcernedParent in

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friends

i'm writing for some advice from former jws.

my family is christian, and my 15yo daughter is "dating" a jw boy.

(the quotes are because they aren't old enough to actually go out on dates... they consider themselves bf/gf and have hung out and gone places with each other, but always with parents, family, etc.

exjwlemming

I would be very wary of the relationship and the situation. Because of their young ages, there is still a great danger of your daughter becoming indoctrinated. If you try to pull her away, it may drive her closer. She needs to be educated in the dark side of JW life and not be roped in with the "lovebombing."

My ex-wife had a crush on a JW boy in high school. He was far from the best example of a JW brother. He got in fights, spent alot time in the dean's office, slacked off in school (why bother the end was coming in the mid eighties), drank alcohol, and regularly got drunk. He hid this from the congregation. However, my ex had self esteem issues and suffered through the death of a close family member. He befriended her and she became interested in the JWs. He started a study with her at school because her parents were opposed. They are from a non-christian belief system. A young sister took over the study for awhile and he became the congregation hero for finding a "sheeplike" one. They studied at school during her lunch period without her parents knowing. She was ripe for the pickings. She had severe emotional issues with the death and the mental abuse in her family. Her family life was very dysfunctional and unhealthy for a young woman. She fell for the life, hook, line, and sinker.

My unbelieving family was attending the same hall as the her and the double life brother. He offered me a Bible study and my parents encouraged me to study with him. I liked her and started to study with him to spend more time with them. Ultimately, she dropped out of college, we got married, had 2 kids, and spent about 25 years in WTland. I had learned TTATT (the truth about the truth) and it cost us our marriage. However, I am finally out but my kids (young adults) and my parents shun me and will not have anything to do with me. They are uber dubs but I have hope that one day they will wake up and see the WTBT$ for what they are. BTW, the double life brother is now a DFed raging alcoholic who destroyed his marriage. However, most of his kids were not baptized so he still gets to spend time with them. How ironic.

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who has been out the longest?

by stan livedeath in

who has been out of the cult the longest ?.

i'll start--i resigned in 1971, but attended occasionally as a non-interested husband to keep the wife sweet, untill my last circuit assembly in autumn 1980. no connection with the cult since then.

so--its either 47 or 38 years, depending on how you see it.. which begs the question--why am i on this site now ?.

exjwlemming

I'm surprised to see that some left before 75. Remember...stay alive to 75! Many jumped on the spiritual bandwagon just before 75 and hoped to ride the coat tails into a "para o dice" earth. I guess you saw through the crap before 75. Good for you.

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Overlapping Generations

by JRK in

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i remember when that came out, my mother didn't catch it in the original article in the wt.

it was in one of the review "do you remember" thingies that she caught it.

she asked me if it means what she thought it meant.

exjwlemming

The overlapping generation joke was one of the final nails in the coffin that sealed my choice to leave the org. I was never surprised that many more haven't filed out of the "kingdumb hall." Most have too much invested to leave and don't have the strength or confidence to leave. Others are lost and need direction and to be told how to live their lives. They can't think for themselves. I find that most could care less about the drivel that comes from the Warwick compound. The PIMOs, that I know, just roll their eyes and keep their heads down and carry on. The membership has become more of a social club that provides some identity for those who don't have one since they don't have anything invested outside the org. They claim to be morally superior to the rest of mankind and support the view of being a "spiritual master race." They live in their own little subculture world. Some members will leave but there will always be replacements experiencing some life changing catastrophe that fall victim to the JW propaganda and their twisted Bible interpretation. I do believe that the org will continue to see more people leave and less new converts. The downward trend will continue.

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Famous last words spoken by every jdub at one time or another

by nowwhat? in

"oh i'm not going to worry about it, armageddon will be here by then!".

-including me.

exjwlemming

"We are Jehovah's chosen people......because we have love among ourselves."

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What is the strangest book or craziest book the JWs have ever printed?

by blownaway in

what do you think the crazies or strangest book they ever printed is?.

exjwlemming

Revelation, It's Grand Climax at Hand! The artwork was really crazy stuff. Not to mention, the stretching of prophecies to meet their predetermined interpretations.

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Memorial

by whatisthis12 in

so i’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year.

he left the jehovah witness community and we have been living together for one year.

he hasn’t kept in contact with his family because he was disfellowshipped and hasn’t gone to any meetings.

exjwlemming

I'm thinking that he might be embarrassed by the whole charade and doesn't want you to "witness" it. No pun intended. I would be embarrassed.

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Watchtower Telephone Books!

by Atlantis in

watchtower telephone booksdownload1999https://we.tl/2wddq7vcwv2015https://we.tl/pfhhniienc2017https://we.tl/pjxyjtvbrx.

petra!.

exjwlemming

I wonder if we can can tell how many peeps were sent home between 2015 and 2017 during the purge when pink slips were handed out and many "were reassigned" to help with the preaching work.