My PIMI wife, at the time, was the same way after the assemblies though. The 6 hour brainwashing session completely transformed her from a ho hum publisher to a fully ratcheted JW. She get all "built up" with the experiences told from the platform, most of which are made up or severely embellished. She would come off this spiritual high to an extreme low. She felt as if she wasn't doing enough and she hated herself for it. It really f-ed with her mind and I think it made her manic and/or bipolar swings worse. They would hold some publisher up on a pedestal with their personal struggles and issues, but praise them for their dedication and work to "further the kingdom message." This is suppose to make everyone feel as if they aren't doing enough and can do more. I remember a story of a single mom with 3 boys that worked full time, regular pioneered, had to have regular bi-weekly medical treatments, and took care of her elderly parent. At the time, my wife didn't work, didn't pioneer, had good health, and did nothing all day. In order to make herself feel better, a lazy person, like her, would build herself up by tearing me or others down on the drive home. I was fully PIMO and took the verbal beat down after every 1, 2, 3, or 4 day assembly for every ride home. The GB know exactly how to push the buttons to make the R&F do more. They fizzle out after weeks or months.....in time to have another assembly and push them again. This was a leading cause in me becoming POMO, divorcing her, and being Dfed. She is still fully PIMI but without a punching bag.
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Poll: When my PIMI wife comes back from meeting. she is a different person. how many out there experience the same and why?
by goingthruthemotions inso i am trying to understand if i am the only pomo that experiences the situation where the pimi spouse comes back from a meeting a different personanlity.
it may not be obivious to the untrained eye, but i notice it and i know my sons notice it.
this last round after all the loyalty bs and armagedon bs it's like she has stayed stuck in it.
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What Did You Do With All Your Meeting Clothes?
by minimus ini literally had dozens of suits.
i still have more dress clothes than anyone i know.
i did give some suits and clothing away and to be honest, i still like wearing a nice suit.. brothers and sisters, are all your “ meeting clothes” still in your closet?
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Giving them to Goodwill is good. Giving them to The Salvation Army is better! It's like giving the borg the middle finger. Hopefully, they can sell the item for a nominal amount and use the money do some good community work for the homeless and those going through a difficult time. That's what I did.
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I am thinking about visiting Washington DC!
by Iamallcool ini have never been there!
where should i visit in washington dc while i am there?
thank you in advance for your recommendations!
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I enjoyed the National Museum of African American History (check for weekday and weekend admissions) and the Newseum.
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False oath in Russia
by neat blue dog ini'll be the first to say that the russian government is pretty terrible and overreaching in its', power but that's not what this is about.
in a recent hearing, a witness for the jws said this under oath:.
one thing makes jehovah’s witnesses unique: they do not rely on strict rules or the authority of any particular leader, instead, they try to help adherents develop a bible-trained conscience so that each individual can personally and voluntarily make decisions guided by the bible.. i'm sorry but that is just not true.
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"It is not a lie, if you believe it."- George Costanza.
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What’s The Worst Thing You Have Heard About A JW?
by minimus inthere was a guy that became an elder and he was a father of 8 children including 4 or 5 girls.
he was a little bit on the self righteous side and would counsel people a lot, especially families about how they could be better witnesses.
one day his wife dropped a bombshell!!!
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How about a teenage JW who murdered both his parents and fled to Canada. During his trial, he claimed that sexual abuse drove him to kill them. Nobody believed him...including myself. After hearing about all the CSAs, he may have been telling the truth.
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Thoughts on Sundays wt about persecution
by nowwhat? inso let me get this straight.
even though law enforcement has their hands full with illegal drugs and guns on the street, child traffickers, dangerous gangs and such.
they are going to now pool all their resources to confiscate bibles and religious literature?!
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"Religion is opium for the people." Karl Marx
Straight from Wikipedia:
Marx was making a structural-functionalist argument about religion, and particularly about organized religion.[3][4] Marx believed that religion had certain practical functions in society that were similar to the function of opium in a sick or injured person: it reduced people's immediate suffering and provided them with pleasant illusions which gave them the strength to carry on. Marx also saw religion as harmful, as it prevents people from seeing the class structure and oppression around them, thus religion can prevent the necessary revolution.
How true.
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July 4 th Independence Day... Do You Know Any Witnesses That Celebrated?
by minimus ini knew of a ministerial servant that was called out because he used fire crackers on the 4 th of july.
we had to have an emergency meeting as to his qualifications.
i remember imploring the body to not make a big issue over this and it was decided to just “counsel” him about being involved in a patriotic holiday.🤨.
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"It's not a lie, if you believe it." George Costanza. My JW mom would serve a turkey dinner on Black Friday because it technically was not Thanksgiving....and turkey was cheaper and sold at a discount after the holiday. We still had a Christmas dinners on Christmas but no gifts. JW's had Memorial Day and 4th of July pool parties and picnics. They engaged in Labor Day picnics and other practices, but on Sunday they would use their comments at the washtowel study to shake their fingers and chastise worldlings for celebrating something. I live in the upper midwest (USA). When I was in deep, they would visit a cheap ski mountain on Christmas Day or New Years Day and 99% of the people on the hill were JWs since worldies are celebrating with family....and lift tickets are sold at a discount. There are more JWs at "Devil's Head", "Christmas Mountain", Alpine, and Cascade on a holiday than at most circuit assemblies. Many were inactive and "spiritually weak" but wanted the camaraderie since they are PIMO and didn't have anything to do with their biological family since they cut them off years ago. I've been out for quite a while, but I'm sure they still do it.
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"Educated" a memoir by Tara Westover
by Gayle ini recommend this book by a gal raised mormon.
but her father was more offshoot, more anti-government, anti-medicine, anti-institutional education ( list goes on) .
she never was in classroom till 17 years old.
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My never JW wife read it several months ago for her book club. Knowing my JW background, she recommended it to me, so I read it too. It is a great book and many things are similar with the JW life. -
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Control of Microphones?
by Peeringin inhello all, first post so a whistle stop of who i am first!.
’unbelieving husband’ here married to pimi wife living in uk.
anyway on with the post.... i attend the kh this weekend with pimi wife, i’ve been a handful of times before.
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I had worked the microphones were they were corded and wireless. Walking up and down the aisle with a corded mic was always a tripping hazard since the 2 aisles were very narrow. The corded mics were on booms and the rows were short enough to reach to the center from both sides. This prevented the mic from being dropped and blowing out the speakers or a child getting a hold of it if it was passed down the aisle. Later, congregations went cordless in my area of the USA. They were still on booms if the rows were short. I moved to another congregation were the rows were very long, nearly 20-25 seats. The mic was just passed down the aisle. It was always a ticking time bomb of when the batteries would go dead in the middle of a comment and you would have to switch them out. Kids always tried to get their hands on them as they were being passed down the aisle though.
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Kingdom Hall Renovation
by geevee inhi all, quick question related to renovating k halls.. my in-laws live in another city and the two congs there are in a ten week process of completely renovating the hall.
the plaster board has been taken off, all the toilets and air cons even the roofing iron and insulation are being pulled out and dumped to be totally replaced.
it seems like overkill to say the least.
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As someone who had spent his whole career in the trades, ST ADD, DOC, and Rubadub are probably correct. The removal of drywall and insulation is a tell tale sign of mold issues. I could see the addition or removal of bearing or a non bearing wall for a typical remodel. The blanket removal of insulation and drywall seems like a mold abatement project. Mold removal requires trained people with the correct tools and personal protective equipment. You just don't rip into it with uneducated and unskilled conscripts. I hope these people have the knowledge and equipment. Some areas even require a governmental certification and licensing. Environmental testing before, during, and after the activities is sometimes warranted. It can be quite a health hazard to those working in and around. I knew of 3 KH in just my circuit had serious mold issues. So serious, that members of the congregation that were severely affected started going to different halls. Look up, sick building syndrome.