Great post! The JW family dynamics are tremendously exhausting! Your post magnified the "theocratic politics" that weave through families, immediate and extended, for generations. Throw in some divorces and remarriages and it really is exasperating. I'm sure that many on the forum have experiences such as yours...maybe even worse. Many families are so messed up over the JW minutia of BS.
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Family dynamics and cult influence
by longgone inthe following incident is nothing unusual to any jw, but i wanted to add on to the list of reasons to never join, and sympathize with those stuck in it, and again a reminder that you can never get away from the mayhem when you have family still in.
in a recent conversation with my jw sister who i love very much, i was reminded how complex and abnormal relationships can become within a jehovah's witness family.families relationships can be difficult with any religion or none, but once we throw in the various labels and restrictions within the jw family it becomes really cultish.
no one outside it could begin to understand.
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What Was/Is The Dumbest JW Belief?
by minimus ini think the finished mystery book probably contains the stupidest beliefs ever recorded!
almost any prophecy publication but especially anything to do with revelation, is unbelievable!
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The latest belief? They keep getting crazier. Overlapping generations....period
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Major changes to convention security beginning in 2017
by Edison Trent inshort info on interesting changes to the major conventions this year: there will be a new security concept that will be implemented at all regional conventions in 2017.. similar to other major events (e.g.
festivals, concerts), there will be admittance controls in stadiums.. - at each entrance, there will be a massive presence of attendants that look at each visitor.. - there will be pocket checks at the entrance.. - suspicious persons are no longer left on the convention grounds.. - suppliers to the stadium will be intensively inspected by attendants.. - there will be a special sign for attendants that must enter the stadium before 7.30 am.
all others (even all attendants) can only enter after 7.30 am..
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exjwlemming
Maybe the "Society" can fleece some more money from the circuits and districts by selling them metal detectors at a "discounted" rate. That should be good for a couple more million.
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Which Watchtower publications did you keep?
by Schnufti ini'm currently cleaning up our bookcase and need to decide what goes into the trash.
i'll keep the watchtower books that are not available online anymore (e.g.
the brown "reasoning" book).
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I kept my Revelation, It's Grand Climax book. When I glance through it, I am reminded of how bat**it crazy this cult is. I had cut out and taped all the changes that were made between the first study and the second study. We fell for this crap and studied this dumb ass book twice...maybe three times. Can't remember. Man, I wasted alot of time of my life in the borg.
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Striking Out On My Own
by Saethydd inthose of you who know my story are aware that i'm currently disfellowshipped and living with my parents.
up until now, my plan has been to be reinstated and then fade, but recently my plans have changed.
in a conversation with my mother a few days ago and she made it clear that she would not be okay with me getting reinstated with the purpose of going inactive.
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Good for you! You made a great decision. Best wishes. Live well and never look back.
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Thinking about the faders in Russia
by Funchback inimagine that you are fading and then, one day, the government bans your religion.. you no longer should have to fake it.
your fade has now been done for you.. but, imagine the fader who now must attend bunker meetings just to maintain being part of the jw family.. for me, the ban would be my ticket out, but i imagine that some faders in russia are still forcing themselves to attend underground meetings.
for those faders in unbanned countries: would a ban be your ticket to religious freedom?.
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I feel as if fading in a banned society would be more difficult. The rank and file will hunker down and go underground with their meetings. There's a sense of camaraderie and slipping through the cracks and under the radar of the JW elder henchman would be harder. "If your not with us, you are against us." They would be cautious of those that are not at every meeting because they are weak and may turn us in. Everybody would be looking over their shoulder. The congregation would see this as a beginning of the great T. If you are not at every meeting, you will not make it through the tribulation and ultimately armageddon.
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How many in your generation are still JW???
by Christian Gutierrez inhow many in your age group are still jehovahs witnesses?
from where we are at, there aren't many left.
each year it gets smaller and smaller haha .
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3 out of 11 are still JWs.
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Are there 'ultra strict' congregations?
by jambon1 inwhen i studied as a young adult, it was in one of those congregations.
having viewed the religion as a quaint little band of christians it conpletely dumbfounded me when i was told about such rules as 1 - no beards.
2 - you must wear a suit to meetings and while giving a talk.
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I once knew an elder that thought that he walked on water. He was the self appointed JW Gestapo, always looking down his nose at others and in everyone's business. It had come to his attention, that a group of "friends," brothers and sisters, would get together on Friday night. There were anywhere between 10-15 people. They would eat snacks, popcorn, watch a movie, or play some music, make cookies, and socialize. Some of those in attendence would play cards...even play poker with poker chips. They was no money involved, but he figured that it was akin to gambling....and wrong in his eyes as Joke-hova's agent. Well, he decided to crash the event. He entered the house and raised "holy hell." He was pretty close to overturning the table like Jesus did to the money changers at the temple. He gave everyone a dressing down, checked the content of the movie being watched, counsoled them on gambling, and told them that they should be preparing for field service instead of partying. Needless to say, 2 men had stepped down from being misery servants and others lost "privileges." The fraternization was disbanded and he gave a local needs part several weeks later. He was really full of himself.
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Anyone know what the special talk is this weekend?
by charity7 innon jw so thank you for bearing with me.
do special talks happen with individual congregations or is it throughout?
i was told by my husband that i had to go with him and the rest of his family to the special talk that was happening this weekend.
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Cultivate peace in an angry world.....aka...don't sue us over our complicit sexual crimes. Be peaceful. "Jehover" will sort it out in the end. Cultivate the Cult!
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When can I let my guard down?
by hybridous inquick background:.
born-in, but never baptized.
remainder of family still (by all appearances) loyal dubs.
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You can never let your guard down. My mother was baptized in her mid forties. My dad was dunked in his fifties. My grandmother in her mid eighties! So sad.