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  If You Got a Call or Visit From The Elders How Would You Deal With Them?

  by minimus in

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  just curious..

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  flamegrilled

  It depends on several variables:

  1) your status in the congregation and personal circumstances.

  2) the supposed purpose of the visit.

  3) the "modus operandi" of the local elder body.

  4) what you want the outcome to be.

  There may be more, but that was a quick off the top of my head list.

  All other things being equal, mainly just be polite and say nothing of consequence.

  However if they are good God-fearing men, and you have a situation they might be able to help with, then don't dismiss the possibility that they might be able to do just that. But, as with most things in life, proceed with caution.
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  Marriage Consummation - emailed question has me stumped

  by jwfacts in

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  i received an email from a jw that got married, but the wife never had sex with him.

  they were together for a period of years.

  he told the elders, but they said there was nothing that could be done.

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  It's a tricky one. Elders, CO's and service desks have an aversion to this scenario, understandably.

  The signing of the papers seals the marriage. There is no way around that. As far as then breaking it for non-con, I have seen situations where the elders breath a sigh of relief if the "performing" spouse just gets it over with with someone else. They may or may not be DF'ed depending on how big of a performance they put on in the JC. A performance is good because then the "annulment" can take place without anyone getting DF'ed. Everyone's a winner! The elders end up feeling justified in doing what they "naturally feel is right" even though the Bible doesn't really make allowance for it in relation to 21st century law.
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  The Liason commitee for Blood

  by Crazyguy in

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  three plus years ago i had an experience that started to open my eyes to ttatt and it was about blood.

  my wife was 9 months pregnant with my son and the baby was too big for us to have it at home with the assistance of a midwife.

  at the hospital we met with the doctor and it was obvious that a c section was a possibility as well, again do to the size of the baby.

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  ... so we met with a sister from the JW liaison committee ...

  I thought all HLC are men. Perhaps she was indeed a fraud.
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  The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

  by cofty in

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  yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

  we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

  they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

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  flamegrilled

  This thread was supposedly against God on the basis that if he existed he would be inconsistent with his own rules.

  Dr. Steve: [to Homer] Simpson! You're not a licensed chiropractor, and you're stealing patients from me and from Dr. Steffi.

  Homer: Boy, talk about irony. The AMA tries to drive you guys out of business, now you're doing the same to me. Think about the irony.

  Dr. Steve: [grabs Homer by the collar] You've been warned. Stop chiropracting.

  Homer: Not unless you think about the irony.
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  The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

  by cofty in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

  we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

  they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

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  flamegrilled

  Correct. Now what if I followed you round telling you about the glory of Elvis and how Elvis was wonderful and how you too should believe in Elvis.

  Wouldn't you get tired of hearing it?

  That's you that is. Simon

  Simon - Show me one single quote where I have said that God was wonderful and/or that you should believe in him.

  Baseless invented rhetoric.
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  The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

  by cofty in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

  we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

  they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

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  flamegrilled

  So it's okay to be delibrately crude and offensive just so long as you can imagine something more crude and offensive. Good point. Well you'll keep S&R happy. It is 2014 after all.
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  The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

  by cofty in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

  we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

  they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

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  S&R - you should probably just stick to commenting on which page # we've reached. All your comments that I've seen are unecessary, but at least those are accurate and somewhat informative (for those who cannot be bothered to scroll).
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  The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

  by cofty in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

  we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

  they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

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  flamegrilled

  My points were purposely crude and offensive DATA-DOG

  @anyone other than DD - So how is that acceptable, and my decision to ignore certain comments is unacceptable?
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  The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

  by cofty in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

  we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

  they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

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  Cofty - "Unacceptable" to whom?

  I am not obliged to respond to every comment. I have ignored comments that were just rude or meaningless. I have ignored comments that are simply trying to draw out responses that can be misused. I believe that I have operated entirely within the rules of the forum (unlike some of the vulgar and angry speech that has featured on this thread). So in what way is that unacceptable?
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  The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

  by cofty in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

  we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

  they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

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  flamegrilled

  Simon gets a prize, cos on this site he is god. He has power over our continued forum existence and does take action when required. And that’s as close to heaven as we’ll ever be. TG

  And if I were to form an opinion of what Simon is like as a person simply from the limited actions I have observed during this discussion I might reach certain conclusions. Would I be right?