Swedish Chef,
Who rejoices at being told that he is headed for hell, where he will suffer under the eternal wrath of God?
So you disagree with Eccl. 9:5 which says that the dead "...are conscious of nothing at all...?"
If dead people are unaware of anything, they can't suffer can they?
Besides, to me, the idea of a God that gave us free will is contradicted by this doctrine of hellfire. We freely chose to sin in the Garden of Eden. God says in the OT that "...I am putting before you today blessing and malediction...." There's no hint in there, to me, of eternal punishment; He's saying, there are two paths open to you and you're free to pick (Deut. 11:26-28).
OTOH, if I'm told I'm going to be tormented forever after death (btw, if I live in spirit even though I die in flesh, do I die?) and I try and toe the line because of that threat, I no longer am acting totally free. I am being coerced into "doing the right thing." This is grounds, in America, for declaring a contract null and void, the same as if one party had signed while under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Would God use "bullying" tactics to get His followers to act morally? If so, that says a lot (and not complimentarily either) about both God and his "prize" of Heaven.
Second, to me it attributes a vindictive attitude toward Him. ("If you won't live life my way, then the hell with you!") Not that there aren't plenty of times where God is described as angry. Or bloodthirsty (OK, so He had the Israelites kill the native populations of lands they migrated to, but even small children? How the hell could they lead the Israelites into sin afterwards? Young males or women I can see, but small kids!?).
The idea that "His ways are higher than our ways" (Is. 55:8) doesn't cut it for me here. Children look to their parents for examples of how to handle situations, so the parent's actions ought to be analyzable. Shouldn't God's actions be too? A God who hides behind a blanket statement that "you wouldn't understand" isn't being a good example. So, the need to bully people into obeying His rules invalidates His claim to goodness, imo.
On this one issue I side with the Witnesses.