For many leaving is not really an option. Born-ins who have reached their mid life, have parents, siblings, spouse, children and grandchildren all in. No friends outside... the alternative is total isolation or else trying to start all over from scratch. Many deal with it by quietly believing what they want to believe, doing/not doing what they want and not allowing anyone else to dictate to them. It can be done, even if it's hard.
Phizzy said: " They have invested all their lives in something that is a scam, to admit that , and say in effect "I am just the biggest fool" takes courage and humility."
It also takes a long time to come to terms with, with many roller coaster emotions along the way.
He also said:" The rewards of acknowledging TTATT are just awesome, freedom previously undreamed of, self -respect, and many good, true friends who have travelled the same road."
This is also true.. that's why this place and others like it is so great. Even having friends on the other side of the world and only available by electronic means is still very very valuable! If I didn't have these friends to keep me sane I think it would make me go crazy!! So thanks to all you guys!