teejay said
Want to go to a movie with a person of the opposite sex? Gotta be with your marriage mate (unless it’s with your buds of the same sex).Want to go to breakfast on a Saturday morning with a person of the opposite sex? Has to be the mate.
Want to sit at home on a Saturday night and have a nice, provocative conversation about Afghanistan or the price of rice in China (neither of which happens to be your mate’s favorite subjects)? Sorry. Somewhere in there, there better be the mate.
Get my point? If you want to do something, anything, with a person of the opposite sex, it has to be the same person. All the time.
and i say OY! if that's marriage, i'm staying single! i have many male friends now and if i ever get into a relationship again, sorry but my friends come with me. my relationship with a man will not make me drop my male friends. if i want to go to breakfast with my buddy josh and my man has a problem with that then he won't be my man for much longer. and the same goes for my man, i'd not expect him to stop being friends with a chick to make me feel more secure. that's my problem.
i do have to say, it is a scary thought at times that once i get married, i'll never have sex with another person who isn't my mate. but i think it can be done and obviously is done.
i really think it takes the right two people. and tracy's right when she says
As far as staying interested in the same person year after year, alot of that depends on whether that person continues their own personal growth, which makes for stimulating conversation...at any stage of life.i think if you limit who you allow yourself to be friends with stunts your growth as well.
personal rant time lol
i have problems with guys i meet. things seem all cool at first, they don't mind me being me, that's what made them interested in me in the first place right? but i seem to find these men that once things start to get more serious, they can't handle the real me and try to change me! don't talk like that, don't wear such a short skirt, don't hug everyone. bah! that's me! and i refuse any longer to change myself to fit into their defination of me.
anyway, teejay, interesting thread. as a single person, these threads teach me a lot and help me re-define what i want in a relationship. and what i don't want.
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