joey jojo wrote:
Kaleb, I thought my life growing up as a JW was tedious and I particularly resented the chafing I felt at having my life dictated by the beliefs of my parents, even if some were beneficial.
It amazes me hearing about all the traditional rituals that practising Jews (and others) follow. I'm not necessarily saying it's all bad, however, to me at least, there is something disturbing about having every aspect of your life and how you spend your time pre-determined.
peacefulpete gave the perfect answer. This is why I can see peacefulpete as a professor teaching at some university somewhere.
Jews don't have leaders or pastors or popes. A rabbi is not their authority or master. The Mosaic Law does not dictate to Jews what to do with their day or how to live each moment of their lives. If life were so simple and I really had such a guide, all my daily troubles would be over.
In reality a lot of what you might be suspecting comes from what you admitted--your past experience with the Witnesses. They tend to decipher Jewish life that way because the New Testament is written using rhetoric and not genuine language. Witnesses, as you know, read the Bible literally. The Gospels tell stories of Pharisees dictating a "heavy-burdened" life for Jews.
Jews, on the other hand, live on a theological spectrum. One moment we feel like being very zealous and want to follow every one of our cultural traditions. The next day we want to be like Paul Rudd and practice his type of Judaism, eating every slice of bacon we can find. We love HaShem one moment, argue with Him the next, deny His existence the day after that, and become pious Jews the next. We can and do all this all the time.
It's why we're the Children of Israel (meaning "He Who Wrestles with God") and not Jehovah's Witnesses (those who blindly listen and obey everything that comes from the Governing Body). We are a free people, struggling with an Ineffable God that we don't know, don't comprehend, cannot see or understand, and is probably not even an entity. (Many of us don't even believe in God.)
Our God is not a "God-Is-Love" God or "Ask-and-Ye-Shall-Receive" God or "I-Can-Do-Anything" God. Ours is the God who answered the poor smuck Job who was merely asking questions: "Who are you to ask questions of Me?" Ours is the God who told Moses who asked Him for a Name: "I Am However I Wish to Self-Identify Myself As, So There! Nyah!"
We kind of act the same way in response. It's a push and pull, a tug-of-war, a love-hate relationship that works. Kind of. Well not all the time. But the bagels are good.
Some of us are very serious--but I tell you, that even those serious people have their days where they dance across the rainbow of Jewish possibilities. It's never what it looks like on the outside. "Nobody puts baby in the corner" and forces them to do anything. (Hey, that happened in a Jewish context in that movie--hmmm.)
A good read on this is the book Open Judaism: A Guide for Believers, Atheists and Agnostics by Barry L. Schwartz published in 2023 by JPS. (And that is "believers, atheists and agnostics" among us Jews, not among you non-Jews--that should tell you something.) It will open your eyes if you think you know how we Jews live and what we believe.
With that, I have to prepare for Shabbat dinner on my end. Shabbat shalom!