Posts by TOTH

recently i have an obsession with past times, i guess it's called middle aged or old aged, anyway.. i'm sure anybody out there remembers people from their childhood or growing up and thinks not a lot about it.. i remember some good jw buddies and here's an ode to them.. i met one outside a local cafe, and we stopped and looked at each other for 45 seconds, or what seemed like forever.

because we lived in each others pockets and we got on so well.

we would sit at our ibm 286 pcs and play wing commander to the late hour, and there was no internet.

TOTH

I looked up a what I thought was free thinking jw from my time back in Albuquerque. He was funny and questioned just about everything. I had hoped he was out but found out he moved to tucson and is an elder now. I didn't bother to call.

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Do you feel sorry for those that are still in.

by jam in

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at one time i felt my jw famliy members hated me.

because i turn my back on the cult.. today i feel sorry for them and it,s not hate they.

feel.. they way i see it, first of all it,s frustrating serving a. god that you can never please, serving a god that.

TOTH

Sorry? No, but only because they are happy to be there. What can you do? Wither away fretting over someone who is blissfully ignorant? I drop hints and point out stuff but they just bounce right back to how wonderful the org is. I do wish they'd wake up though.

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"Disobedience is very costly"

by TOTH in

wow, i had some words with my father in law.

over the years i have always had such a profound respect for him because he used to speak from the heart and used the bible to express his view, but lately he has become more and more "wt-ish" with his comments.

my wife has been suffering from severe pain for years due to injuries suffered at the hands of her 1st husband.

TOTH

@ Ziddina: I have recorded with my web cam two instances where he was slurring his words and staggering around. He is only audible on the file but it is clear he was in no condition to drive. He was too sick to walk over here across the street but he DROVE? WTF!! He came over to nag for MORE pain pills and couldn't even stand up right. When he didn't get any he got mad and started back home. I offered to give him a lift or walk him back. He declined so I turned on teh web cam. All I need is for him to leave here, t-bone another car or run over a child or someone else and me not have proof that I offered him a ride. I told him that if he didn't want a ride or escort home I would call the cops. He was mad but then sat on the couch and zonked out.

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"Disobedience is very costly"

by TOTH in

wow, i had some words with my father in law.

over the years i have always had such a profound respect for him because he used to speak from the heart and used the bible to express his view, but lately he has become more and more "wt-ish" with his comments.

my wife has been suffering from severe pain for years due to injuries suffered at the hands of her 1st husband.

TOTH

@ New Chapter: I meant I respected him with regard to how he treated me from the time I met him in the late 80's.

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"Disobedience is very costly"

by TOTH in

wow, i had some words with my father in law.

over the years i have always had such a profound respect for him because he used to speak from the heart and used the bible to express his view, but lately he has become more and more "wt-ish" with his comments.

my wife has been suffering from severe pain for years due to injuries suffered at the hands of her 1st husband.

TOTH

Band on the Run, thank you for that info. I will look into that.

Viola, he is VERY much against going into a nursing home. My wife agreed years ago to not allow him to be forced into one. BUT, after talking with her aunt, his sister she now sees that it may be the only way to meter his meds and give him a chance to maybe come out sometime. I wish I could say he is like bed ridden, but he finds his way outside to "Informal Witness" to neighbors and passing strangers walking in front of his house. He is just VERY set in his ways and demands that his wife do the old school wife deal.

I also talked to my wife's baby sister over the weekend and she told me that when their dearly departed brother was on pain meds that their dad bullied him into mailing him all his pills. Citing that he had provided everything for him and now needed his help. APOLLONIUS Christ! When it reached a point where he was suffering so bad and could no longer send him any pills and besides that he was risking jail in the post office caught a shipment, the dad cut him off. No calls in or out, no visits were allowed. Nothing. Typical shunning behavior.

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"Disobedience is very costly"

by TOTH in

wow, i had some words with my father in law.

over the years i have always had such a profound respect for him because he used to speak from the heart and used the bible to express his view, but lately he has become more and more "wt-ish" with his comments.

my wife has been suffering from severe pain for years due to injuries suffered at the hands of her 1st husband.

TOTH

He is Old School...Wife should cook etc..When he cooks he just opens a can of veg all and pours it into a pan then breaks some eggs into it with butter. He never learned to cook at all from what I understand. And I think my wife WAS enabling a drug habit, but since she stopped I believe he is now punishing her for no longer doing it.

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"Disobedience is very costly"

by TOTH in

wow, i had some words with my father in law.

over the years i have always had such a profound respect for him because he used to speak from the heart and used the bible to express his view, but lately he has become more and more "wt-ish" with his comments.

my wife has been suffering from severe pain for years due to injuries suffered at the hands of her 1st husband.

TOTH

Thank you all for your responses. It IS very tough to be living across the street from him, One good thing is that he has stopped visiting or even calling much. He used to really pressure my wife to "SHARE" her pain meds with him and she would. Once he asked her for some pills the day before he was to see the doctor for refills. She offered him ten of them and he got mad and said, GIVE ME 20! And he reached into her purse to grab the bottle. She told him no...He was seeing the dr in the morning and 10 as it was was MORE than he should even take in a 24 hr period. He got really mad. Then when he got his pills from teh doc he never came to return the ten pills she loaned to him. She called a 2 weeks later and he said that he was already out of medication. She said she needed them back and he said that he was sorry but he is in more pain than she is.

I finally got to talk to his doctor and told him not that she gave him pills but that he was nagging her for some. He increased his dosage. He gets almost 200 Dilaudid, 220 Fiorinol with Codeine, and a gang of Tramadols. And he was asking her for MORE??? WTF! I explained to her that with him taking that amount (One Month Supply) in two weeks time and that if she gave him ANYTHING she could actually be giving him a fatal dose. She realized just how bad it is and stopped sharing.

Well it has been some time now and he only calls to see if she can "Help him out with pills". She always says she has none and hates lying to him. I told her that it's a fu@@ing shame that she feels like she has to lie to him. He guilts her and says that he will be dead soon and that he hopes she can live with herself being that she refuses to help him. ASS! She feels bad that he only sees her as a source of drugs.

He's 70 and has been abused by his pioneer wife. She neglects him so she can go to stupid field service. She has been a regular pioneer for over 20 years and has not seen one of her studies be baptized. Not even her kids from her previous marriage are in the wt. She is a turd with a minivan who puts her wt service before everything. We have called adult protective services three times on her and the last time he LIED and said she was treating him fine. He WHINES about how she leaves him all alone and won't fix him anything to eat so we act then he lies to teh cops and social worker. WTF...

I hope he just leaves her alone from now on. It's a shame because she loves him so much.