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  Suicidal fear of rejection.

  by seven006 in

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  the fear of rejection has once again controlled my life and my actions in an unintentional act of self destruction brought on by how i was raised to view life.

  i have come to the conclusion that i will probably be battling this psychological whirlpool of self sabotage for the rest of my life and i do not think i have the ability to completely eliminate it.

  talking about it here is a start.

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  pettygrudger

  You've hit the nail on the head w/this Seven -

  On top of that, the rejection works both ways - we get rejected & we reject. We reject any "normal" relationships that are with "worldly" because they are wrong. We are taught to stunt our affections because they are wrong and not based on what God wants.

  The JW's conditional love is what us born & bred were taught - its what we lived. Our natural affections were not "normal". I never "loved" my non-JW father - he was "worldly" and Satan was using him to pull us away from the truth. It wasn't until we were adults that we realized how unconditional his love for us was, and were able to love in return.

  My non-JW family - never knew them to love them, after leaving the JW's. My own mother - who I used to be close to - have spoken to her every once in awhile since leaving 16 years ago - but much like you - the "love" is gone. She doesn't know me, doesn't respect me and thinks I'm killing myself & her grandchildren who she knows very little of as well.

  And then we wonder why we "don't fit in".

  There are no easy answers - and you seem to have alot of them. Alot of us are in the same boat, and take much from your post - believe me!

  Thank you for sharing this - it meant alot to me - a keeper for sure.

  editted to add" I think your "friend" should get a copy of this - I think she'd like to know.

  Edited by - pettygrudger on 4 December 2002 17:38:2
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  Ozzie's Wine of the Month - December

  by ozziepost in

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  we've missed posting our wine of choice for the past couple of months because.....well......we've stuck to our favoured labels of shiraz.

  tonight, however, we've just returned from the apostates restaurant and old ozzie decided to take something new for the meal.

  i selected an italian wine this time.

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  Dearest Ozzie - would you be so kind to recommend a few good wines for me? My brother, quite adept at picking the right bottle is on holiday, and I will not be able to talk to him before the Christmas festivities.

  I need a GOOD wine (but cheap - $20.00 or so for a bottle). Merlot's & Caberet Sauvignoin are preferred - but us American hillbillies like a good old zinfadell as well (some of my family thinks Cold Duck rocks!). I also need a few good picks for christmas presents. Most of them like the "fruitier wine" although some prefer the dry as you have mentioned above. Good grief - this is impossible!

  Anyways, would you have any decent suggestions? Christoper Cross (?) I believe is one I served last year - and with rave reviews, but I can never remember what I've picked.

  Any help you could give us wine dummies would be most appreciated! Thanks!
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  Cool Things about Being a Man

  by pettygrudger in

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  1. your butt is never a factor in a job interview.

  2. your orgasms are real - always.

  3. your last name stays put.

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  pettygrudger

  Bendrr - give it another couple of years - then Hillary will be emailed your response to this post!
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  Cool Things about Being a Man

  by pettygrudger in

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  1. your butt is never a factor in a job interview.

  2. your orgasms are real - always.

  3. your last name stays put.

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  1. Your butt is never a factor in a job interview

  2. Your orgasms are real - ALWAYS

  3. Your last name stays put

  4. The garage is all yours

  5. Wedding plans take care of themselves

  6. You never feel compelled to stop a friend from getting laid

  7. Car mechanics tell you the truth

  8. You dont give a rats ass if someone notices your new haircut

  9. Hot wax never comes near your pubic area

  10. Same work - more pay

  11. Wrinkles add character

  12. You don't have to leave the room to make emergency crotch adjustments

  13. WEdding Dress: $2,000+; Tux Rental $100.

  14. If you retain water - its in a canteen

  15. People never glance at your chest when you're talking to them.

  16. New shoes doen't cut, blister or mangle your feet

  17. One mood - ALL the damn time

  18. Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds

  19. A five day vacation requires only 1 suitcase.

  20. You can open all your own jars.

  21. You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness

  22. Your underwear is $10.00 for a three-pack

  23. If you are 34 and single, nobody notices

  24. You can quietly enjoy a car ride from the passengers seat

  25. Three pairs of shoes are more than enough

  26. You can quietly watch a game w/your buddy for hours without ever thinking "he must be mad at me".

  27. Maxi pads - nuff said

  28. If another guy shows up at the party in the same outfit, you just might become lifelong friends.

  29. You are not expected to know the names of more than 5 colors

  30. YOu don't have to stop & think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt

  31. You are unable to see wrinkles in clothes

  32. The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades

  33. Your belly usually hides your big hips

  34. One wallet & one pair of shoes, one color, all seasons

  35. You can "do" your nails w/a pocket knife

  36. Christmas shopping can be accomplished for 25 relatives on December 24th - in minutes

  37. The world is your urinal
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  Xmas xchange present(s) arrived safely........

  by scootergirl in

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  i have already gotten an email from someone stating that their gift arrived safely in the mail.

  i thought it would be nice to start a thread where we can post what we got (for those nosey like me who want to know!

  ) and a thank you.. as for me, i haven't even begun yet!

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  But, I did - didn't you read my post above? hee hee
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  Xmas xchange present(s) arrived safely........

  by scootergirl in

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  i have already gotten an email from someone stating that their gift arrived safely in the mail.

  i thought it would be nice to start a thread where we can post what we got (for those nosey like me who want to know!

  ) and a thank you.. as for me, i haven't even begun yet!

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  Okay, okay, you may open the 2nd one too - but that's only because the 3rd one's taking a little longer to get to you - so there!

  Merry Xmas!

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  P.S. Is it a bad omen that my 666th post was on a pagan holiday celebration thread?!!!

  Edited by - pettygrudger on 2 December 2002 21:56:2
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  Xmas xchange present(s) arrived safely........

  by scootergirl in

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  i have already gotten an email from someone stating that their gift arrived safely in the mail.

  i thought it would be nice to start a thread where we can post what we got (for those nosey like me who want to know!

  ) and a thank you.. as for me, i haven't even begun yet!

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  pettygrudger

  LOL - okay Not Interested - there are 2 packages there - you may open 1.

  eeniee meenie minnie moe.................
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  Is Satan Equal and Opposite to Jehovah?

  by jgnat in

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  from december 15 wt study jehovah cares for you wt october 15, 2002 who is behind all evil?

  this article starts as follows: jehovah and satan are complete opposites....this contrast is pointed up in a standard reference work.

  (not quoted).

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  Gumby - I had always been led to believe that Satan & Jesus were in a sense brothers - both sons of God, with Jesus being God's "first born". Now, in the 16 years I was a witness, it was made clear to me that Satan had most, if not all, the same abilities as Jesus, with one exception - God. Maybe I'm remembering it wrong, as its been a few years, but that's how I remembered it - both Jesus & Satan - sons of God.
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  Is Satan Equal and Opposite to Jehovah?

  by jgnat in

  1. watchtower
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  from december 15 wt study jehovah cares for you wt october 15, 2002 who is behind all evil?

  this article starts as follows: jehovah and satan are complete opposites....this contrast is pointed up in a standard reference work.

  (not quoted).

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  I was always under the impression that Satan had equal powers to that of Jesus - as God's "son". Although, Jesus, with his father watching his back would come out victorious in any battle.

  Isn't this what the JW's still continue to preach? The above quoted remark I would think is in regards to "personality", not power.
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  Christmas Gift Exchange Gimme Gimme Wantme List

  by scootergirl in

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  i think it is time to stop cheerleading for the christmas gift x-change......we have quite a few names and i am really excited!

  i am crossing off names as they post to this thread...... .

  gentlyferal beckmelbourne truckergbveniceit pettygrundger talley mamashel nilfun beautifulgarbage orangefatcat been_there simon angharad heaven vickie butalbeexenawarrior mouthy animal debradoll ladylee mulan the_star joannadandy searchin50 happy2b scarlet randomtask celia siegswife caligirl waiting tinkerbell4125cc ridercoolbreeze onacruise/bikerchick ballistic windchaser flower elsewhere queer_reality kelpie revmalk funkyderek grout notinterested joy2bfree connielyne valis cowboy englishman plumkrzy lyineyes dutchie eyegirl scootergirl perry syn scully mac trotafax lovesdubs wild_thing lilacs yerusalyimbobsgirldawnmackincassiline maximumflash granny linda sortafairytale.

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  pettygrudger

  Oops - I forgot to post - my gift went out last Wednesday (11/27/02) - so hopefully should arrive soon.