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  Be a part of research about leaving the JWs...

  by TerriO in

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  hi guys,.

  some of you may remember me, i've been on here before in the past and been about on the exjws forums on and off for about 7 years now.

  you've probably also seen me advertising the xjw meet ups in london as well..... :-).

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  Done!
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  How Do You Approach New Friendships Now?

  by Bubblegum Apotheosis in

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  most of the website vistors and members have experience the wonderful conditional love (if not, why are you here?

  ), by the followers of the watchtower society.

  feel the love "that no other organization or group of men and women have experienced" or was it elusive during your tour of the religion?

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  I stopped having to watch what I say and do around my friends for fear they would report me to the elders. I can be honest with my friends and its ok if we disagree.
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  Kelle Jarka (jw elder) found guilty and sentenced Friday for murdering jw wife

  by blondie in

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  i wonder if he will be df'd....probably not.. http://www.swrnn.com/southwest-riverside/2009-11-04/news/jarka-case-murrieta-man-expected-to-be-sentenced-friday-for-murder-of-wife.

  jarka case: murrieta man expected to be sentenced friday for murder of wife.

  posted by jose.arballo on november 4, 2009 @ 2:22 pm in courts, crime, local news, news | 1 comment.

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  I was watching an old 20/20 episode on the ID channel. I had no idea this about this case. Now that I've read up a little bit it is really disturbing - AIDS, elder visits at midnight and a congregation rallying around a murderer.
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  I can't remember the 'Most Important Date of My Life!' Can you?

  by Diest in

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  i honestly cant remember the exact date when i was baptized.

  it does not bother me one bit.

  i didnt have it stamped in that shitty reasoning book/babel that i got at the time, so i guess the only place i could find it would be my cards, which are far away..

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  December 4, 2005. Natick, MA. I was 25.
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  Prelude to a disfellowshipping

  by rory-ks in

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  i was 25 years a congregation member; ten years an elder; all told, up to 18 years an appointed man; a decade or so as a full-time minister; assembly speaker, with the pinnacle giving the public discourse at a district convention.. .

  i stopped being an active member of the congregation in november 2010, but it had been brewing for several years, with the customary gradual drifting away - all the necessary mental gymnastics as my spiritual views changed and doubts set in; quitting the theocratic ministry school; ceasing to answer; sitting quietly off to the side.

  i think the straw that broke the camels back was when family worship inevitably became family worship.

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  Welcome rory-ks. I look forward to reading your blog.
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  How did you visualize Jehovah when you were young?

  by Matsimus in

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  2. experiences

  i was born as a third generation (perhaps even fourth gen. but my great great grandfather never got baptized) jw.

  i remember that when i was young, perhaps about five years old, i would think about jehovah as this big black ghost with yellow eyes.

  to me he was quite frightening, and i was constantly catious not to piss him off.

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  I could never really picture him. I just went along with whatever was in the Revelation Book - which at one time scared the hell out of me.
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  Going out with a bang

  by LittleToe in

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  after much deliberation, i decided to go "out" at the end of a public talk.

  it didn't go down too well, but at least i was able to give some of my reasons for leaving.. i've put some of the details on my homepage.

  i'll update it more when i get the time and the strength.

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  Great talk. I can't believe no one said anything - the audience was pretty quiet.
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  New to the forums.

  by ViridianSoul in

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  i looked all over for a place to introduce myself and either i'm completely blind or i missed it.

  i figured i'd just post it here.. okay.. hello to everyone.

  my name's tabitha.

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  Welcome! You'll feel right at home here.
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  I don't like "taking the lead"

  by I Want to Believe in

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  2. beliefs

  some men probably got off on the power/ego trip being a male jw gets you, but i never cared for it.

  i'm an introvert, and was an especially awkward one at that haveing been reaised in social isolation, so it was about the strangest feeling in the world when as a newly-baptized teenager (back in the day) i started to pioneer.

  i was about as green as you could get in every way but i was told i had to take the lead in the service meetings and the car group.

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  I always loved being told what to do in FS by a 13 year old boy. It made me feel so secure that a "man" was taking the lead. Also loved that you could be practically illiterate and have the worst time management skills yet still be a book study conductor, elder or ms because you had a penis.
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  LOVE-BOMBING TRAINING just before the Memorial

  by Alfred in

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  the last memorial i attended was in 2010 and i havent been to the kh since june of 2010... but when i was in, it seemed like every year, usually 1 or 2 weeks before the memorial, the service meeting would have a skit on how to behave when new faces enter the kingdom hall on memorial night.. it was always extremely painful for me to watch (and sometimes humorous) because the elder in charge of that service meeting part would usually select 4 of the grumpiest elderly sisters in the congo to do the skit.

  one pair of sisters would play the part of the "love-bombing" jws and the other pair would play the interested ones entering the kh for the first time.

  then they would switch roles and change up the script a little.. i always thought to myself: those sisters are never going to put that into practice... theyll show up late before even thinking of love-bombing anyone.

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  We were told to be on our best behavior, car pool so there would be ample parking and dress appropriately so as not to stumble new ones. And we were also told not to socialize too much after the Memorial because the second congregation ( we shared a hall) needed to arrive and prepare for their Memorial.