You might want to find out about resources in their community that help the elderly. I know in the state i live in there is an agency dedicated to issues with elderly people and it's great. Someone in my family got alot of help with their elderly parent this way. It's worth a shot!
mentalclarity
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Wifes parents are in a bad way.
by blownaway inmy wife's parents are in a bad way.
she went to visit and her mother has alzheimer and father has a hart condition.
they are jws and he quit his job at gm many years ago for 1975. he moved to where the need was great to wait for the end.
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This probably sounds uppity. I'm saying it anyhow
by stillin inhas anybody else noticed a pattern that is here among us outcasts?
there seems to be, on average, a higher level of intelligence here than there is at the kingdom hall.
actually, intelligent conversation seems to be looked down upon among the witnesses.. also, the simple language skills found here seem to be above average compared to those among the witnesses.
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mentalclarity
I know some very smart JWs- some professionals and some not, but very bright, well-spoken individuals. I guess I'd also have to ask what you mean by "intelligence". I've met people without any formal education who are exceptionally quick and avid learners. They might not be book smart but they make up for it in streets smart and common sense. I also know people with Phds who lack common sense.
There are alot of members on this forum but few actually post- maybe the ones that post are those that are more confident in their writing skills and find it easy to express themselves that way.
I'm sure there are many reasons JWs wake up, but I think those that are "curious" maybe have an advantage. Those who are naturally inquisitive and ask a lot of questions.
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CO working at Walmart
by the girl next door init just took me by surprise.
i remember him from a decade or so ago.
he came up with gems like, “weddings are for women, they are not necessary.” also, “if you want to be truly happy, marry an ugly woman.”.
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mentalclarity
I think this is really sad.
I don't think being a CO was such a great job. Even for those who were power hungry or whatever. It was probably alot of sacrifice - always having to be happy and encouraging no matter what/eating the food people prepared (which could be anything- especially if you are abroad). Traveling around. There was a mix of personalities for sure, but the job itself wasn't great and it just makes me incredibly sad that this is the end result. I mean, this isn't a person who didn't work-they just worked in something that turned out to be completely worthless. I just think that's a little heartbreaking.
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Is he interested?
by Sunnybear ini met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.
on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.
it was not planned, it just happened.
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mentalclarity
" I don't want to ruin what we have by making this a relationship."
That is your answer. Now, you have a couple of options. Keep on enjoying the way it is with no hope or expectation that things will change or let this relationship go. Everything else is just "fluff". -
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Im Writing An Ex-JW Self Help Book
by pale.emperor inwe all know waking up from the cult and trying to leave is a very scary and life changing experience.
for many it's traumatic and few find the transition easy.
we have to deal with families cutting us off entirely or keeping us at arms length at best, lies being told about us by the organization, ex members gossiping about us and finding ourselves in a world very different from what we're prepared for.. for this reason, i've decided to start writing a self-help book informing jws of what to expect when they leave the org.
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mentalclarity
Love the Wide Awake title!
Very cool idea - sounds alot more practical/pragmatic and less memoir than the books out there from former members.
Yeah, people have to demonize you to justify their harsh treatment. It actually proves they know they are doing something wrong and feel guilty about it. The more guilt-the more need to justify their wrong behavior.
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Another School Shooting: The Gun Violence/Mental Illness Debate Continues
by jp1692 inin the aftermath of the valentine's day school shooting in florida, i have read quite a number of articles, blogs and posts about the event.
it is disturbing--and i think inexcusable--that many people take the opportunity to use horrible tragedies such as this to push their own particular agenda.. in particularly insensitive and tone-deaf tweet, conservative political commentator tomi lahren wrote: "can the left let the families grieve for even 24 hours before they push their anti-gun and anti-gunowner agenda?
my goodness.
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mentalclarity
I'm for the idea of the gun violence restraining order. I think it gives people who know someone who is a potential risk to others some power. Reporting it to law enforcement evidently isn't enough.
I'm also all for beefing up security with armed officers in an enclosed campus. Teachers with guns? That's a terrible idea.
If we could actually have consequences for students who are not law-abiding...that would be great too. I can't understand how it's easier to buy cocaine/pot/opioids at the local high school than any sketchy neighborhood I know of.
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Reflecting On The JW Version Of You
by pale.emperor inlately i've been thinking over how far i've come over the last 2.5 years since leaving the cult.
when i first left i remember not knowing who i really was and what my beliefs and values were.
previously my values and beliefs were dictated to me the the governing body in watchtower magazines.. i'm politically active, being a member of a political party and i'm even considering running in my local election in a few years.. when it comes to religion, im an atheist who has little time for superstition and "god did it" answers to complex questions.
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mentalclarity
It's been so long since I was a JW, I often forget what I was like. Like most, I was very judgmental and self-righteous. I was also extremely confrontational because I felt it was my duty(so I wouldn't be blood-guilty, you know) to correct your erred thinking. I can only imagine how pleasant I was to be around.
The biggest change, for me, is that I actually participate in life now. I was a person who just kind of observed life passing me by and thinking all my problems were somehow going to resolve themselves with time and Armageddon coming. Now I actively go after what I want.
The other big change has been throwing away that "us" and "them" mentality. We're all part of the human race. That doesn't mean I don't disagree with some, but I don't feel the need to change their beliefs and although I'm open to hear new perspectives, I don't need you to understand mine to keep them. That cuts down on a lot of wasted energy and frustration. I do what works for me and you do what works for you. Take for example marriage, I think it's a good arrangement for some, however it doesn't work for everyone. I would have never been open to that as a JW.
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Satan is "bullying" you through family
by neat blue dog injust thought i'd share this ridiculous picture from a recent watchtower.
in recent years, the word bullying has been thrown around a lot, and often misused by instigators and subtle bullies themselves.
in this picture we learn that your loving family who wants to continue sharing a family tradition with you, who hands you a beautifully wrapped present with a smile on their face, is in fact bullying you.
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mentalclarity
This is so ridiculous. And yet something so obvious to me will be just another run of the mill illustration for a JW. I don't know whether to laugh or cry at this point.
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Solicitors Visit Update
by pale.emperor inin case you're not aware of my last two threads:.
the situation that arose in that my mother has been having secret access to my daughter and refusing to tell me how she is: https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5012900121935872/am-overreacting-here.
the build up to my solicitors visit: https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/6284953638666240/solicitors-appontment-tomorrow-advice-appreciated.
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mentalclarity
Glad it worked out for you. Hope it gets easier as time goes by
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Am I Overreacting Here?
by pale.emperor inlet's call him "dave".. dave: hello?.
dave: we dont have to tell you how she is.
dave: <her mother> has custody.
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mentalclarity
"Im only requesting to be contacted/informed about their visits and what they'll entail".
Totally valid request - talk to the ex.
Your JW mom and stepdad sound awful. Personally, I wouldn't want my kids around people who can't be civil to me. Who knows what comment they'd say about you and your daughter is very young. And wasn't there an incident where they treated her bad too? I would probably think twice about having my young child with my family and me not present if they were disrespectful no matter what religion they were.