Wow thanks for all the experiences guys. It is clear that many of these elders obssessively try to stick to the rule book ' shepherd the flock of God. The flip side to this is that they are stumbling people to the point where they either move congregation, fade or leave altogether.
I honestly don't think they realise the damage they are doing. Many of these control freaks try to enforce their own personal robotic lifestyle on others, thus preventing the basic human 'God given' right to freedom of choice, even if it is harmless.
Such behaviour by these men PROVES beyond any shadow of a doubt that the Watchtower organisation is captive, high control group, claiming to be Christian. Yet they will say we have freedom in Christ!