"emotional widow in the congregation"...I noticed this in particular at conventions...the women are in the audiance with their families ( if they have any other then the man there ) He is off doing what ever duty he was assigned to. For all practical purposes, she just as well had no husband...
in a judicial matter concerning divorce based upon a cheating husband, there is always the question as to whether the woman was "putting out".... let's say she wasn't for whatever reason...how does that justify adultery? Does that change the marriage vow? ( that could work for both goose and gander ) They look for an escape clause for the guilty. IMHO