I knew a witness man who was gay and when the person at the door said they were gay, he told them he was too. ( nothing like getting on common ground ) I don't know if he ever called back on them or not. I think he wanted to. ( he liked being around other gay men ) I will tell you a sad commentary about this man ( now passed away) He said he couldn't have men friends or he was suspect and he couldn't have women friends or he was suspect. He married and it messed his head up so bad, he couldn't live with her. They remained friends until he died and in the mean time, he was living in another state from his wife and the unmarried sisters in the congregation were falling all over themselves to get his attention...( he had a small business and they would come and work for free ( under the guise of learning his trade )so as to be around him He wasn't divorced ( didn't want to ) Maybe they thought she would die and they would be a shoo in. One of said sisters was a pioneer and when he died she went to get a kitchen table from his rental and the landlord told her it belonged to him and she told him she wasn't leaving without the table because she had shared many meals with him at that table. The landlord said he would never step foot into the KH again after the way the horrid woman acted.
in answer to the questiion about the door mat, if he/she is gay, he will stay! Actually I think most would feel like they should try to "save" them.