I sympathize with what the OP went through in her life. Good that she is free now though from the mental slavery that she experienced.
In my life as a JW, most of the women that I came across in my life (including my mother, wife, and sister) were quite happy to be sitting in the congregation listening to talks, rather than give them. Many of them discussed how they felt pity about their husbands sitting through late at night for their meeting parts, elders meeting, and all.
When I was an elder, I used to go for a lot of different meetings and came home tired. The best thing for me was my wife welcoming me with refreshments. I was happy that my wife didn't have those responsibilities and she was happy about that too. She spent that time looking after my old parents and taking care of my other needs. I was always grateful that she was spared of all the pressure that I was going through.
My wife always said that while she has to remain submissive to a loving person like me, I had to remain submissive to a lot of uneducated, and rude men of authority in the JW world. Looking at my congregation, I saw that young girls were happier than the young men who were constantly being pressured to climb up the organizational ladder and being called upon for a lot of hard work.
To be honest, in the JW organization, I have seen more unhappy men than unhappy women.