“ I played the poor lost soul brother who is not sure what's happening. I still do dinners with Witness friends who try to win me back. Not disfellowshiped for the last 15 years but I should be!”
Yes this is better than hard exit where you will be shunned. Once it’s been long enough there is no need to shun you, usually a year or two.
Once you are known as inactive and basically no longer an active JW then even if you were living with someone unmarried or something there is no need to announce your name so that shunning will start.
If you keep friends who are still in and get invited round then you will be love bombed. If ever you decided to go to a meeting or someone’s wedding at the KHalk or something then you will be love bombed beyond measure.
If there was a situation where someone like this had drifted away and needed help with something like moving or something then the entire cong would bring food round and brothers would come and move your furniture and sisters would come and clean both the old place and the new place.
this is why it’s better to do a soft exit rather than a hard exit where you will be shunned.
Even better is the option of JWlite. You still go to meetings a few times a year but that is all