My condolences on the loss of your dear friend, timebandit. Sounds as if she was more like extended family. She looks like she was a kind person.
You can carry her memory with you forever. I hope you find comfort in everyone's love.
ruderedhead
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Goodbye Bex
by TimeBandit inall i can do is cry.... .
in loving memory of bekkah mejia barnum fb: http://www.facebook.com/xjwbex.
she was a dear friend....
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Need advice from a female
by CADSkin inlong story short.
ive been married for 18 years to my beautiful wife.
when i was younger i had a lot of attention due to my looks which has always made me extremely uncomfortable.
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ruderedhead
Hi, CADskin! Glad you have gotten yourself healthy and in a good place emotionally. You are much more help to your family that way. Congratulations! I think I might have an idea of how your wife might be feeling. I have a very attractive husband as well, and he knows it. I have seen women flirting with him at the gym,and in public, and while he says he is not flirting back, in the past, even some of our sons friends have laughed at him when he made that claim. They have seen it, I have seen it. He has always been vain & flirtatious, but I def know how insecure it can make a wife feel.i KNOW YOU DON'T FLIRT BACK, BUT JUST THE FACT WOMEN ARE HITTING ON YOU( THAT IS WHAT THEY ARE DOING, MY DEAR), MAKES HER FEEL BAD. And women can certainly be mean girls to each other, tho it escapes me why. It makes her feel insecure and unattractive, intimidated perhaps. Even tho I am sure you are doing all you can to show her you love her, please put yourself on her shoes. You sound like a very loving husband. Even vegetarians can have bad eating habits, and eat too much, It is easy when you're home all day. Do you portion out your food, wieghing, measuring, counting calories? If you do that, she may follow your example. As problemaddict, I believe, said, food is the most important factor with weight at the start. I have also found a training facility where I work out with personal trainers with other women in group training settings. The cost is not great as it is done in groups, and I like the smaller setting as the ones offered at the regular gym can get too large,cost more, and the trainers are a bit impersonal there. This is apart from our gym, and for whatever reason, the women there are all encouraging and supportive of each other. This may be something you could look at for her. Less intimidating, no one flirting with you, it's all about her. And YES encourage your dear wife to go back to school. Even if it is only one or two classes at a time, she will feel so much better about herself. Bless your heart for loving your wife so much. I know you will find a solution. Don't get discouraged. And congrats again on getting healthy!
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I lost a good friend yesterday
by zed is dead ini am really going to miss having her as a close friend.
we both helped each other this past year, as we were both dealing with the passing of people we loved.
she was a strong part of my support group.
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ruderedhead
So sorry for your loss.
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What a Week! The Bees Got Married!
by BizzyBee inwhat a wonderful holiday season!
time with family, time for fun, and in the midst of it all - we got married!
after christmas we were in palm springs for the weather and golf, but took off for nevada on thursday and tied the knot in a sweet, simple ceremony.
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ruderedhead
CONGRATS!
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I Think My Marriage Is Over...
by cognac ini know exactly what happened... he thinks i'm going to die at the big a and wants to be with someone he can live forever with.... we have two girls, ages 3 and 1... i really thought we'd make it despite the religion, now i really don't think so... not sure what to do... .
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ruderedhead
Love Billy's suggestions on how to respond to elders possible stupid advice! i.e., if they say he hasn't done anything wrong, letting the women in his family know he feels on these matters, and also the try harder to be a better wife crap! Intelligent and well thought out responses. My first response would be to punch that fool elder in the nuts! That would be very bad, but I tend to be a knee jerk reaction type of person. Billy is a wise man! If it gets to that point, hope cognac takes Bill's words and uses them. Might make some elder think about how foolish his advice sounds!
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I Think My Marriage Is Over...
by cognac ini know exactly what happened... he thinks i'm going to die at the big a and wants to be with someone he can live forever with.... we have two girls, ages 3 and 1... i really thought we'd make it despite the religion, now i really don't think so... not sure what to do... .
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ruderedhead
I'm so sorry for your troubles, cognac. I imagine your poor heart is breaking. You have been given some wise advice here. Only you know exactly what your situation is and what will likely work best. Take to heart the advice to document everything. Keep it in a safe place he will not locate it accidentally. I know some who haven't done that, for various reasons, and they have gotten the short end of the stick . As others have said, Plan everything. Speak to an attorney without his knowing so you know your legal rights and what to expect should you decide to leave. Say nothing to him or the woman until you know what to do. Come here to vent if you need to let off steam.
Do you have the means to support yourself financially, job skill wise? If not, are you able to go back to school and get an education that will allow you to leave and support yourself? I have 2 daughters (16 & 23), and I have always told them they should be able to support themselves, as you never know if you will have to. The oldest has a bachelor's degree. You may want to start at community college, or a trade program that you can build on. Think it through, dear cognac.
All the best to you and your children.
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ruderedhead
Please go to jwfacts and arm yourself with some real truths. An intervention sounds like it might be a good idea, but you will have to be well prepared. Please take Biblestudents advice and contact Steven Hassan asap. Make sure his kids are on board and educated with all the facts as well.
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Good Reasons To Hate Every Weak And Ex-Jehovah Witness.
by AuntConnie in1. my husband's time is finite, it's wasted on spouses arguing over money, sex or family mattters with stupid home visits.. .
i hate people's constant open hand for money, it's the weak individuals asking others to pull their weight.
my family worked extra hours instead of begging the strong members for district assembly money, cat food for seven cats or tiny little rag-a-muffins weiner dogs.. .
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I think AuntConnie seriously needs professional help before she has a breakdown! I am not being sarcastic here, but believe you are in need of immediate help! You sound like someone who is at the end of their rope, and I feel for you. Please consider seeking out a professional's help soon. No one but your husband has to know. And please stop pioneering. I know not all elder's wives pioneer. Just say you are exhausted, and might need some time for your parents. You can say you will start again later. Don't take guff from anyone who is not pioneering themselves! You owe no explanations!
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need advice!
by unstopableravens inmy son is three and will not stop using his diapers we have tryed alot of stuff ,sitting him on there every few hrs etc... he knows what to do if you ask him were should he use the bathroom he will say the toilet!
but he keeps going in his pull ups, you put on underwear and spiderman get a face load of mud!.
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ruderedhead
You might not like this Mom's advice, but please RELAX! It is probably just a power struggle. And he will win this one. I raised 4, 2 boys. 2 girls, and for some reason the boys were simply more difficult to potty train. He will do it when he is ready. Don't give up, keep encouraging him to use the big boy potty. Until they reach their teens, I think this is one of the most frustrating things parents have to do. Can you offer small rewards for using the regular toilet? He picks a story for you to read to him after he uses the reg. toilet? An extra 15 minutes to stay up past bedtime if he has no accidents one day? A Happy Meal another? Whatever works for you. I'm sure you're already praising him to the hilt when he does use it. When he starts to "get it", it might help to tell others in front of him how proud you are that he is getting to be such a big boy and uses the potty like Dad! No more baby underpants for your big boy! Children love to be praised, esp. in front of others. Don't let it frustrate you. I remember when I was at a book study with a woman who had a son 5 years old. He was friends with my son, who was trained, they were both going to kindergarten in 2 months, and he was still doing his business in a diaper. He knew what to do, but refused. NEVER had to use a diaper again after he started school. He knew what to do, just chose not to!
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Are JW'S "hated" in all the world? Or...are they considered IRRELEVANT?
by Terry inwathctower 90/1/1 p. 12 par.
8 not ashamed of the good news .
while it is true that jehovahs witnesses are hated and opposed in all the nations of the earth, this is in fulfillment of what was foretold to be an identifying mark of genuine worshipers of the one living and true god.
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ruderedhead
Irrelevant. This thread madde me think about how many times you would hear from the podium at kh's and assemblies, tho, how employers simply LOVED having jw's as employees due to all their fine qualities (which lying, cheating, thieving worldly people didn't possess). Sometimes they would even go so far as to say someone had been hired over someone else based solely on the fact that they were a jw. So which is it, hated or loved?