long story short, i have to go to the kh on tuesday with my mum and i havent been in at least a month now.
the reaon im going is because when i got my mum to finally let me make my own decision about whether or not i want to be a jw she made me promise that i'd go to the memorial, assemblies and if she had a talk.
she's already told me that people have been asking for me and only a few people in my cong know that i dont think it's the truth.. when i was trying to leave a couple brothers really piled on the "encouragement" and i dread to think about what it will be like when they see me again.
You go, suck it up for your Mom for now, and take pleasure in the fact that they have nothing over you. Thank them when they say they've missed you, tell them you've been living life when they ask where you've been. Be gracious so they won't be able to say how awful you've become since leaving the hall.
And ask Mom for the car keys on the way in "in case she's running late talking to the brother." Or any other excuse you think she'll accept.
thats how my grand mother responded when all of our family members came out of jw organization, either by disassociation or by disfellowshipping.. when we all started studying with jws, my grandmother too was there, but she stopped the study when the discussion over the dead happened.
she told the study conductor: i am convinced that there is only life, but no death.
because when my husband died of heart attack, i was not shaken by the incident.
Your Grandmother sounds like a thinking woman. Wish I had been as smart as her.
Rattigan 350, I can't explain it, but somehow, it seems as though there are those that somehow communicate with a loved one as they are passing from this world. When my father-in-law passed, my son told me that day that he dreamed that Grandpa came and told him he was proud of him (he had become an attorney). When he told me the approximate time, it was in the same time frame as my father-in-law's passing. He didn't know what time his Grandfather had passed. I can't think of another explanation.
so who's from wisconsin and the midwest usa.
Southeast Michigan
one of my dear loved ones called me.
she knows i am df'd and she wanted to reach out to me.
she fell away for a few years, and when she came back i had a study with her before she became active again.
Can you invite her over for coffee to catch up? Maybe you could start with asking about the meetings after you've caught up a bit on family, etc.. She reached out to you, she'll probably be willing to talk. Just sit back and allow her to do the talking while you listen. You seem like a pretty insightful woman from your posts, I think you'll know what to say. You already know you have to go slow. I'm keeeping a good thought for you. Hopefully you'll be able to slowly awaken her! All the best.
hello everyone just wanted to relate a situation that occurred a few days ago.
so i have quit going to meetings for a few months now based on some issues i have with the explanations of current doctrines.
my wife is none too happy with this but over the last few months we have had some date nights and have tentitively agreed to disagree.
You know the elders in your cogregation. Maybe you just have some decent fellows who won't rock the boat for you if you don't make waves? I know there are some good guys out there.
i wanted to express appreciation to the members of this forum.
there are resources here that are deep.
like we heard from the stage, "what is your depth and breadth of bible knowledge?
Welcome! You sound like a person with great integrity!
well... as they say on talk back radio "i'm a long time listener, first time caller"(poster in this case!).
i have been a "lurker" for several years, but never had the courage to take the step and join up...until now.. i really want to thank everyone for their insights and comments throughout the forum.
although i have not contibuted to discussions, i have benefitted very much from all of your comments and observations on all topics.
Welcome!
this is, of course, a recurrent topic that's made possible whenever a kingdom hall decides to march out on your neighborhood and street.. today it happened again in my neighborhood as a drum up for the memorial observance scheduled for monday the 14th of april.. why christ's passion and death should be observed on a monday of holy week i failed to ask this morning.
perhaps someone else might like to volunteer, but it seemed just another reason to be sceptical about the whole thing, though hardly ranking with changing ancient chronologies to get jerusalem's temple destruction 2520 years before 1914.. anyway two gentlemen in white shirts and ties greeted me politely enough at my door and presented me with a flyer about an event which they described as momentous.
they asked me if i had ever intended one and i assented.
I think you handled it perfectly well!
They are out full force, apparently! They were on my street yesterday (Sat.), and there were at least 6 women working quickly.I haven't seen them in my neighborhood in at least a year, maybe more. I didn't want to, but answered the door and quickly told her no thank you and closed the door quickly. I was on the phone and not thinking, or would have asked he rto place me on the DNC list.
yes that's right reopened mind and me have been married 40 years ago today.
we had a little party today at our uu congregation.
we brought wine for the pot luck dinner we had today.
HAPPY 40TH, Still Totally AAD & Reopened mind!
Here's to 40 more!
so im obviously out mentally....i havent da-ed but i cant care less!
but.....my co workers are encouraging me to find and join a church.
this person is particularly "wisdomonian" meaning she seems to solve and assist many an ailing indicidual in my field.
Why not look at some local churches website, find a few that you think might be a good fit for your family & your beliefs, and take turns checking them out? do you want a contemporary worship service, or traditional? Perhaps a blend? Obviously you want a church with younger families.Do you want the option of a Saturday evening service? It might take a few tries, but make sure you and your wife check out a few in order to make sure that your entire family is comfortable there.
I'm still looking for a new spiritual home, but haven't looked too hard. I'm checking out a new one in the next couple weeks, it's one that has Saturday evening services, and they do a lot of good in the community, such as offering free dinner and showers to those that need them on Sundays. I personally believe that is following Christ's example.
