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  Just wanted to share my little bit of good news.

  by nicolaou in

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  i haven't been posting here much lately, i think i only created one topic in 2018!

  but this is worth it.. i am a grandfather 😊.

  it happens all the time but damn, it feels good.

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  I'm so pleased for you. Grandchildren are such a joy - make the most of spoiling your little granddaughter at birthdays and Christmas

  CM
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  Holiday Plans

  by Kathy1978 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  anyone doing anything interesting/fun for the holidays this year?

  we got some presents for our kids and a tree.

  other than that, just chillin.

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  I still live in the same territory of my old congregation so I don't feel free to put up a tree or decorate the house, but I helped to decorate a friend's tree last weekend - for the first time in my life and it felt great!

  This will also be the first time I will properly take part in the festivities and I'm as excited as a child 😄
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  Those awkward magazines

  by Addison0998 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i’m sure we all remember those really weird, awkward magazines we were expected to place in service.

  and it was before we are had the website or the thing on the back to fall back on.

  imagine being a 12 year old girl, and having to place magazines on god’s view of pornography, sex, homosexuality.

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  I would hide the awkward magazine behind its companion magazine (those were the times when we had to leave W & A together) and feel extremely uncomfortable thinking about how I had deceived the householder into accepting it.

  I often wondered what they must have thought when they discovered the carefully hidden article as they watched me hastily running away
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  First year with baby!

  by Darkknight757 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i wanted to share a few recent pics of izabella with everyone.

  this week marks her one year since her coming home from nicu.

  she has been growing and changing so much these last few months in particular.

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  So pleased for you and that your little girl is doing so well xx
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  The JC won't tell the wife about her husband's adultery

  by purrpurr in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  still reading the shepard the flock book and came across this gem (!)....

  "13. if the husband committed adultery, he.

  judicial committee should promptly inquire of the.

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  Sadly, I can confirm that this is true in practice.

  I had been married for less than two years when my (now ex) husband had a meeting with the elders.

  He did not tell me why he was called into the back room, but subsequently had his 'privileges' removed for about one year.

  Because my husband refused to discuss the matter with me and I had no idea what had occurred, I asked an elder who was aware of the facts if he would let me know what had happened. His reply was that the matter was confidential and I should wait for an appropriate time to speak to my husband about it.

  Predictably, there was no appropriate time and my husband never told me the reason for his removal of privileges.

  It was only after I had left him, more than 15 years later, that a male friend got in touch with me and revealed that my husband had propositioned him as well as performing a sexual act in front of him.

  I won't go into the details of my ex's behavior over the years, but had I been aware of this in the early years of my marriage, it would have helped immensely in deciding whether to remain loyal or leave before the situation became more difficult.

  Elders, by obeying ridiculous and archaic rules, have been instrumental in adding to the misery and pain in many lives.
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  Explain why you are happy if you believe there is no afterlife vs when you joined JW's

  by Bad_Wolf in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  one thing that has intrigued me are so many who have left, who are wholly convinced everything in existence is merely by chance now, also claim they wouldn't want to live forever, and perfectly fine if this is the only life.

  now, i would understand that if you were raised into the religion.

  i was raised into it.

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  From a child the idea of living on and on forever frightened me. When I became an adult, that fear never left me because I just could not comprehend the idea of eternity. My coping mechanism was to look ahead only as far as the end of Jesus' thousand year reign - a finite point in the future.

  Nobody I knew seemed to experience the same feeling of dread and because we were taught that God had put thoughts of time indefinite into our hearts, I wondered why it wasn't in mine. Maybe I wasn't supposed to make it into paradise.

  I do not want to die, but at the same time, now I have left the religion, I don't fear death as much as I feared living forever.

  CM
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  Just thought I'd share. New up coming apostate

  by joe134cd in

  1. forum
  2. links

  just listened to this delightful young irish lass and just thought i'd share.

  a pleasure to listen to her.

  well spoken and presents a good argument.. https://youtu.be/qitwc2qumgs.

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  Just listened to the whole of the clip. She talks a lot of sense.
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  Unbelievable!

  by The Fall Guy in

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  2. humour

  witness: yes.

  attorney: and what were you doing at that time?

  witness: yes, it is possible that he could have been alive and

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  Brilliant 😂
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  Roll Call for the benefit of Newbies and Lurkers. In One Sentence tell why you left the Org.

  by Wasanelder Once in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  roll call for the benefit of newbies and lurkers.

  in one sentence tell why you left the org.

  not 2 sentences.

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  Realising the org cared more about outward appearance than people, followed by discovering the hypocrisy and false teachings.
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  Memorial.. To go or not to go

  by Emily1987 in

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  2. friends

  so, as some of you will know myself and my husband are in the process of fading.

  haven't been to a meeting since beginning of 2017. .

  we weren't planning on going to the memorial, but last week my mother broke down and said that we have to go to the memorial even if it's the only meeting i go to this year.

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  An old JW friend stopped in his car as he passed me walking through town yesterday. After the usual friendly pleasantries :

  He: "Do you know what's on this Saturday?"

  Me: "Yes"

  He: " Will we see you there?"

  Me: (firmly and decidedly) " No. I will not be going"

  I know its far more difficult when dealing with family and the emotional repercussions that entails , but I have found that being determined and making it clear I will not compromise on my resolve and the issue is not open for discussion works for me.

  That being said, I am always friendly and positive and its clear to anyone who speaks to me how genuinely happy I am with my life now.

  I am one of the lucky ones who has managed to walk away with minimum damage.

  My thoughts are with all those who still struggle with the guilt imposed on them by others.

  CM