I have refuted all your points notsure
The simplest refute is that you keep believing the old light that it would be better if your unrighteous loved ones died before Armageddon.
We agree that pretty much everyone who ever died throughout history will get a chance at the 10000 yr reign unless they were really really bad?
But you still think they have less of a chance at the 1000 year reign if they are alive at Armageddon? This is old light.
We can’t disagree on who will be classed as really really bad because the new light is we don’t know. But they hint at ones in the past who we thought would not get a resurrection now maybe they will. We just don’t know that.
But what they say is clear is that there is no difference between dying before or being alive at Armageddon