One of my little brothers was also getting negative advice from the elders once he turned 15. Our parents were jws so all of us are born in the religion and we had to deal with all the WT crap. I never got baptized and left the house at 18. But my brother was feeling the pressure to get baptized, to reach out for pioneering, and Ministerial Servant. My parents thought they were doing my little brother a favor by letting the elders take him under their wing. Instead my brother started getting very depressed to the point that he was talking suicide. My parents let me know and I started taking my brother with me on Weekends.
I knew what my brother was going through because the elders did the same thing with me. So I took less than 10 minutes a week to google any article that dealt with people putting down other people and copy and paste about half a page of information and read it to my brother and give it to him and told him to just go over it for a week and we would talk about it the next weekend.
The purpose of the articles was to let my brother know that there are people in this world that tear people down and we need to stay away from them.
Every week I would give my brother a half of page of information dealing with this subject and what we could do about it.
In around six months my brother started avoiding all the elders. He made all kinds of excuses not to meet with them. He did the same with our parents. He learned how to deal with these types of people by just reading the small articles that I copy and pasted for him.
Today my little brother is finishing his degree in Civil Engineering and he never got baptized.
We have done the same with my other brothers and sisters, and so far none of them have gotten baptized.
Here is an example of copy and paste that I would give my brother. It took me less than 3 minutes to find and paste.
Why is it necessary to protect ourselves?
See, the tragedy is that if you’re told enough times that you’re not good enough sooner or later you’ll start to believe it, especially if the someone who’s telling you you’re not good enough is someone you care about or love.
People who bring you down do things that make progress more difficult or more painful. We are all trying to move forward in life and make progress. Happiness and success is what we all strive to achieve. Having someone tell us we are not good enough or that we can’t achieve anything makes our progress very difficult
You need to take control of your happiness. The only happiness you can count on is the kind you create with your own effort. This kind of happiness comes from the process of progress.