Posts by Freesoul

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Just found out my older brother has passed away

by stuckinarut2 in

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i have just found out that my brother (who was one of a bunch that shared this login) has died.. he and his wife were living in another country where they once pioneered.

i didn't see him that often.. such an empty feeling.....

Freesoul

So sorry to hear such sad news, my heart is with you.

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How to question

by Diogenesister in

hi sorry but could anyone tell me how to highlight parts of an op when posting it within my reply please?

thank you

Freesoul

In the reply box, it is the 9th button with the letter "A" with an arrow next to it. Press the arrow and click on the background colour you want and start typing.

If you want to highlight the text after you have typed it, you put the mouse on where you want to start and drag it when you want to finish, then press the the colour you want.

I hope I made this understandable.

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My wife , Son and DIL living with us ,have still not acknowledged my birthday today @ 5:15 pm , I might have to drop them a subtle hint.

by smiddy in

i know being a witness for 33 years and not celebrating b/days you do lose the habit , but i thought one of them would have remembered ?

oh well .. maybe i will just rub it in with them tomorrow .make them feel guilty , eh ?.

then again i might just start singing "76 trombones" at the dinner table tonight .

Freesoul

A BIG HAPPPPPY BIRTDAY SMIDDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm not in sure which state you are in but if we were in the same one, I was and would join you for a drink. Have a great day, maybe they are planning a surprise.

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There is No Reason to be Afraid!! ( of Freedom )

by kairos in

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thinking of leaving the jws for good is frightening.engaging a quality fade is nerve racking!there can be horrible consequences that can leave one shunned.even the most careful fade can be undone by many means and loved ones.. one must weigh the consequences of leaving with true freedom.yes, that kind.

where you always make the decisions in your own life.. no need to be reckless and wild to destruction.

be like almost everyone else in society that enjoys life to the full and looks out for their fellow.look around you at happy, friendly people in your community.

Freesoul

Everyone has to decide for them selves what they need to do. When my first husband and I learnt about TTATT he resigned immediately but it took me about 1 year and a half to fade.

My first husband left the same time as his parents but my parents are all in the cult along with my brothers and sisters.

I wanted to make sure I did not put my parents in a position where they had to choose between me and their religion because I know what the outcome would be.

About 5 years after we left our marriage broke up, and my parents were saying this was because I left Jehovah.

I raised my 2 kids as a single parent but was adamant I was not going back I did not want my children to go through the same mind f***** that I did.

My teenage kids got into all sorts of trouble that young kids get into today and I never thought I would experience so many ups and downs that I have.

But even through all the lows that I have had it is still so much better than feeling like a did my whole life being a JW. The getting ready for meetings, sitting in boring meetings, the waste of time, feeling not good enough and feeling guilty all the time, its is so mind numbing. You know what I mean.

I would rather live a life that is authentic, true and real no matter what happens, with no regrets of what I should have done.

Because I faded the right way my parents and brothers and sisters are all part of my life and my children's lives. My children are adults now and are doing so well, I am so proud of them and so are my parents.

I do not bring up religion with my family, but if my dad who is an elder tries, I have done the research and answer him back with scriptures and that usually cuts the conversations short, he doesn't want to know.

You have to decide for yourself, one day you will feel you can't stand it and the next day you might think you can it all depends on your situation, whether you are married or have children etc.

You don't have to make any decisions in a hurry. But before you take the step make sure you have support e.g., friends, where you live, what you do for work so that they have nothing that they can hang over you. And yes you can fade successful, the hardest thing for me was having to keep my mouth shut when people who were not my family tried to preach to me, I would just put a blank stare on my face and just smile.

Take care we have all felt the same way you are feeling now.

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Watchtower's Works

by Hold Me-Thrill Me in

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they take our trust our love our youth our family our friends our life our hopes our happiness our children our parents our vitality our minds our hearts.

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then they kill us.

Freesoul

They may have our families but they don't have us.

We have fought hard for our freedom, lets not take it for granted.

Long live freedom!!!!!

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My new jesus chain

by Protarded in

i was out shopping today and ran across a fantastic cross.

white and yellow gold.

i don't need to explaine the taboo of the cross.i bought the shit out of that crux necklace.

Freesoul

no justification needed

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Try Other Religions

by Sofia Lose in

sometimes i get a strong curiosity to start dabbling into other religions, other faiths, you know?

really different ones such as islam, judaism, hinduism, etc.. has anyone here looked into something else?

has your spirituality been satisfied by any other than christianity?.

Freesoul

After I left the JW's, religion was the last thing on my mind. but I think we are still made to have some type of spirituality.

Everyone has different needs, the reason there is religion is because some people need the social interaction.

I tried a christian church, the singing was beautiful and it makes me happy when I go, but I have decided i don't need to serve god by attending a church.

I have found yoga and meditation this gives me peace of mind, clarity, and I helps me get in touch with who I am, I have been doing it for the past 2 years and I love it.

One of the biggest thing that has changed for me is accepting people for who they are, we are one family and the judgement is gone.

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Advice Needed - JW Grandparents

by What Now? in

my family has been out (inactive no meeting attendance or field service) for just over two years..

weve made many changes in our lives, including with our personal appearances (tattoos, piercings etc) that are a pretty obvious sign that we arent going back any time soon.

our families went through a period of time about a year ago when they made a lot of threats that if we left the truth, they wouldnt even be able to share a meal with us, they would stay loyal to jehovah etc.

Freesoul

JW's can't help but talk about their religion and if they think they can save their grandchildren, they have to try.

I left when my kids were 5 and 8 years old, when they looked after my children I would make sure that after the visit with my parents, I will explain to my children how the JW's are wrong and to have compassion for my family as they are under mind control. and I explained to them how free we are now that we don't have to follow any man made rules.

We still need our family and I have now learnt how to have a relationship with my parents, If my dad tried to preach to me I decided to research and give him bible answers that would disprove his way of thinking, religion does not come into our discussions anymore, I think they have decided not to bring it up anymore and that I am a lost cause but I know they still love me and my family, And that all that matters.

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"Jehovah clearly answered my prayer!"

by stuckinarut2 in

so the fade is progressing well.... however, it has been noticed by the 'hounders', who i know will be "following up" with us soon i'm sure.. so i have thought of a way of shutting down the questions etc.... if they ask about things like meeting attendance and field activity, i am going to say something like:.

"oh, thanks for your interest and concern brothers.

this means a lot.

Freesoul

I was asked by a witness why I don't go to meetings anymore and my reply was: I can't really speak to you about it because I value the relationship I have with my parents (who are still JW's) to much, and don't want to be labeled. That stopped the conversation.

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The poor and deprived life of JW children.

by Esse quam videri in

i find it hard to believe that adults on this forum make such a big deal about not celebrating birthdays, x-mas, easter, halloween, etc, etc, etc.

i grew up as a jw kid and it actually made me feel good, being different from the other kids in school.

we went to meetings.

Freesoul

Oh, I grew up and got over it, I don't sit here and think about the time I didn't have a birthday party, I have got on with my life.

But I did visit my JW dad the other day, he had just turned 80 year old, a couple of days earlier, the only way I knew this happened is not because my JW family had told me, the only what I knew this is because I have my parents birthdays written down.

So when I visited my dad, who is the best dad in the world, all I said was"Oh you turned 80 a couple of days ago what a huge mile stone and it is so go that you a so healthy well done," I could tell that he was proud but he was not allowed to react.

No family get together, no family dinner, no celebration, nothing,