Posts by joyfulfader

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American Bible Challenge?

by TTWSYF in

i watched jeff foxworthy's new game show last week.

it was entertaining and informative.

anyone else check it out?

American Bible Challenge?

by TTWSYF in

i watched jeff foxworthy's new game show last week.

it was entertaining and informative.

anyone else check it out?

American Bible Challenge?

by TTWSYF in

i watched jeff foxworthy's new game show last week.

it was entertaining and informative.

anyone else check it out?

joyfulfader

Deborah :) I am at work so I can't cheat lol

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Plentyoffish

by sspo in

any of the ladies here on plentyoffish.com dating website?.

just interested and curious in seeing some exjw's.. username "fiat123".

what's yours?.

I have to say that I think a majority were just looking to hook up or have a fling. I have found that many of the men I am encountering are unemployed or staying with a friend or family till they get back on their feet. I have my own home and not looking for a moocher that's for sure. There must be a few hiding there but I signed off last month never to return.

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Plentyoffish

by sspo in

any of the ladies here on plentyoffish.com dating website?.

just interested and curious in seeing some exjw's.. username "fiat123".

what's yours?.

joyfulfader

Mamochan13- you are so right. I have been mentally out for a couple of years and not attended a meeting in one year. I thought I was doing really well. Happy with myself and everything. Apparently not. Looks like I'm going back into therapy *sigh*

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Plentyoffish

by sspo in

any of the ladies here on plentyoffish.com dating website?.

just interested and curious in seeing some exjw's.. username "fiat123".

what's yours?.

joyfulfader

I just found this thread after a very recent incident (last night) I had with someone i met on POF. I was bombarded by messages (many inappropriate and/or vulgar) at first when I joined 3 months ago after my close friend met her hubby to be encouraged me to try. I met a great guy but red flags came up with how he handled his relationships with his ex wives and his 3 kids. I realized that as an ex jw I don't have the skills to actually speak my mind without fearing repercussions. I am very independent but just found out how much I surpress things because of my fear of confrontation and my decades of dealing with the org. The person I met ended up having viewpoints that I didn't agree with and last night I set him down to lay it out on the table. I then realized that no one who has not been a jw cannot possibly understand the guilt and fear we experience and the walls we put up. This was my first attempt at dating but now I am wondering if the numbness I have now will ever go away...can I fall in love??? He could not understand the emotional blackmail we face and that elders actually follow you at times to see what you are up to. He accused me of being paranoid and insisted that no one would shun me ESP my parents. He didn't understand how the org weaves itself into your life and extrication is an arduous journey...he was so simplistic in his way of dealing. Just leave ur family and ur teenage daughter will be fine. None of what u r saying is reality. This experience has made me realize my numbness and my current inability to feel. I think POF can be useful but explaining why you are the way u r without having experienced it as a former witness can be hurtful and detrimental to self esteem. I will no longer use dating websites. I often felt like a piece of meat. Be careful. The good ones are hard to find.

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Favorite LAST episode to the ending of series drama or sitcom?

by dreamgolfer in

1) mine, newhart show #2 - when "bob" wakes up and and said he had a dream he was running an inn in new hampshire.

and it is suzzane pleshette next to him.

still can't get it outta my little noggin.

joyfulfader

I have to say the Monk series finale was the best. I sobbed happy tears and have watched it over and over. The recent "the Closer" series finale was pretty awesome too :)

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Anyone watch "Grimm" ?

by Glander in

i have never seen an episode but my wife loves the show.

we just heard today that our 18 yr. old granddaughter will be an extra in an episode filming now.

guess i'll have to watch it.

joyfulfader

Love the show!!!! One of the few I make sure to never miss :)

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New girl in town here for support

by joyfulfader in

hi everyone here on jwn.

i admit to being a lurker for quite some time before joining and now i am ready to post and i want to introduce myself.

i am/was 3rd generation and daughter of the po (as it was termed at the time) for most of my life.

joyfulfader

Hmmmmm...so much for avoiding the loooong paragraph. My iPad faked me out!!

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New girl in town here for support

by joyfulfader in

hi everyone here on jwn.

i admit to being a lurker for quite some time before joining and now i am ready to post and i want to introduce myself.

i am/was 3rd generation and daughter of the po (as it was termed at the time) for most of my life.

joyfulfader

Well, somehow my iPad just started allowing my to type my response in a normal fashion without having to jump through hoops to do so and then ending up with one loooong paragraph. I have to say I am not afraid of what I might find during this search. I have had nothing but good things happen in the sense that I feel validated. The doubts I had were verified as being true. I think I am more afraid of what I won't find. That being the answers I think I need to combat the ones in my head that I KNOW are not true. I am not interested in adopting another set of beliefs in an exchange. I see organized religion as a war-torn country filled with land mines ready to explode at any minute. There is no safety in organized religion as far as I am concerned at this moment in time. As a parent I knew long ago that as an imperfect person, I love my child way too much to want her to be as miserable as most people are in "the truth". I started having doubts then but shoved them under the rug so to speak for 15 yrs. My daughter was born very premature and it was then that just the little thing about not celebrating birthdays started to bother me. Then just a couple of years ago I went to a lavish anniversary party for a couple that used to be in the traveling work. During the prayer the brother thanked Jehovah for being able "to celebrate His gift of marriage". In a split second DURING the prayer my head sort of popped up in dismay...why can we have lavish parties with gifts given, honoring people (with a big cake!!!) celebrating God's gift of marriage when we can't celebrate the gift of life itself??? For some parents, each year is a milestone that they are told their child will never reach. Each year...each moment is a gift and that cannot be celebrated according to a group of men in NY but they can celebrate marriage when most get divorced...I was determined then to leave after that icing on the cake (literally and figuratively). My mental health is too precious to me and I will never go back. Am I a better person now because I left? I don't think so because I still have my own values and I like me overall. I am just now better able to be a good person to more people without the cloud of lies swirling about my head. The fog is beginning to lift.