Nitty-Gritty

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  Thinking of Going Full Disclosure With Wife. Sorta

  by freemindfade in

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  2. friends

  soliciting any and all opinions.

  as some of you may know, wife is full in pioneer.

  my fade has gone from us fighting.

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  @ freemindfade "To give an example, in the watchtower yesterday there was a non-sourced idiotic statement by the watchtower. About "the majority of people who lost their virginity". I circled it and wrote next to it "Source"?

  FYI
  

  http://www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/im_sorry_i_did_not_wait/9837

  http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/dr-raj-persaud/sexual-regret-the-latest-_b_2255950.html

  http://www.news-medical.net/news/2009/05/19/Sex-e28098too-earlye28099-a-cause-of-regret-and-disappointment-for-many-young-girls.aspx

  The above feelings are expressed by "worldly" people. The WT article doesn't specify whether it's talking about those "in the truth" or those outside, but I would say it is talking about those "in the truth" according to the context. So how much more regretful would young people "in the truth" be, who are supposed to know better. The majority of those have evidently later said they regret having sex outside marriage.

  The thing is, you are "allergic" to anything JW, and so anything will spark a negative reaction in you even though in reality it is unfounded.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  
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  Anthony Morris III: "...we cannot control everything that an individual might say..."

  by cappytan in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i noticed that anthony morris iii just said on the broadcast: "while we cannot control everything that an individual might say, it is clear that over the decades protecting children from abuse is a top priority for this organization.".

  that, in my opinion, is a direct response to the richard ashe "spiritual protection not physical protection" deposition.. here's a video putting the two statements side by side.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgevpuyn7gy.

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  Just a few observation from inside a KH

  My husband was attendant one meeting (he is neither a min servant nor elder) and a family came in a little late, they don't come very often because the husband travels a lot for work. Anyway, one of her little boys (about 3) was acting up a bit and making a lot of noise. My husband felt bad telling the mom to take her child outside so in all innocence he offered to take her little boy into the foyer to let him run around a bit, and the mother in all innocence smiled and said yes sure. My husband was out there barely a second when another bother attending (min servant) went in there and told my husband it’s not a good idea, so my husband came back in and handed the child (who had stopped crying in the meantime) back to its mother. Neither of us thought anything of it until later, when it dawned on us that this is possibly because of the pedophilia issue. The brother was trying to protect my husband from possible accusation, and protect the child from possible molestation (by my husband, lol). Another instance was when a few years ago a sister wanted her eldest teenage son to study with one of her friends (pioneer elder) as she thought it was better than with his dad, the pioneer elder respectfully declined and said it was hers or her husband’s responsibility. I didn’t think anything much of it either, just thought things have evidently changed since I had friends who used to study (years ago) with others apart from their family members. Then it dawned on me this was again a protection for that boy, and for the pioneer elder, giving no room for accusation (by anybody). Evidently the org. is putting strict practical measures into place to prevent any child from being molested. I spoke a little about it with one elder friend and he confirmed that elders and ministerial servants are being trained to observe (as in they themselves) and make others follow a certain code of conduct when it comes to children and minors. I would say that the environment is being made extremely difficult for any pedophile to “thrive” in a congregation these days.
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  That’s What Happens When You Leave the Truth.

  by John Aquila in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  it never failed, when someone got disfellowshipped or left the organization, their life became shambles.

  if married, a divorce ensued.

  if the person had a great job, the company would lay-off or close.

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  It isn’t about a good life in the truth and bad life out of it. There are many faithful JWs who are poor, get cancer, suffer tragedies etc. And there are many who leave who go on to have a wonderful life.

  It’s about choices. Regardless of what you all say, everyone has a choice. JWs choose to live their life with a regard for God and with what they believe are God’s requirements. Whether you want to call that being enslaved to a cult, that’s your prerogative, and your opinion, but JWs certainly don’t view it that way. We all (JW or X- JW) have the freedom to choose how we want to live our life.
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  Candace Conti Settles

  by Nitty-Gritty in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  hot topic on topix seems to be candace conti settlement.

  but it's all quiet here.

  are you guys aware that your hero, who was not in it for the money but to change policies, settled without changing anything?

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  @LoveUni Let me see if I've got this right. You, Nitty-Gritty, hope that a young man molested a child on one occasion.

  You know exactly what I meant.
  
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  Candace Conti Settles

  by Nitty-Gritty in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  hot topic on topix seems to be candace conti settlement.

  but it's all quiet here.

  are you guys aware that your hero, who was not in it for the money but to change policies, settled without changing anything?

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  @Finkelstein Oh and to remind Nitty, the law courts in California are JW apostates.

  Would that be Zalkin?
  
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  Candace Conti Settles

  by Nitty-Gritty in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  hot topic on topix seems to be candace conti settlement.

  but it's all quiet here.

  are you guys aware that your hero, who was not in it for the money but to change policies, settled without changing anything?

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  @mf6

  Nitty, would you make these same comments if the people involved were Catholic Priests? Or are you only defending the Watchtower?

  You don't appear objective to me. Would you defend Catholic Priests this same way?

  I sure would! However you are comparing apples to oranges. The discussion I was having was about a young man (teenager?) who had (I hope) molested someone one time. You are talking about adult "spiritual leaders" who have been grooming and molesting hundreds of boys in their care for years.
  
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  Candace Conti Settles

  by Nitty-Gritty in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  hot topic on topix seems to be candace conti settlement.

  but it's all quiet here.

  are you guys aware that your hero, who was not in it for the money but to change policies, settled without changing anything?

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  @sparrowdown

  Nitty said: "Jehovah looks after the org."

  Don't tell me, the result of this court proves that?

  Was that your point all along?

  No not really. I was making the point that that is why people wouldn't lie in the Candace case. Just to "protect" the org.
  
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  Candace Conti Settles

  by Nitty-Gritty in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  hot topic on topix seems to be candace conti settlement.

  but it's all quiet here.

  are you guys aware that your hero, who was not in it for the money but to change policies, settled without changing anything?

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  @listener
  

  Wow Nitty Gritty, so on your logic we can assure ourselves that JWs are always telling the truth if it's not going to hurt them financially on a personal level. It also means that the individual JW doesn't care less about losing money for their organization.

  Well you (or someone) was alluding to the elders and publishers lying. And I admitted that yes, it is possible that they would lie, however in this case, why would they? And yes, why would they lie to save the org money? After all Jehovah looks after the org. So wouldn't affect them, however lying would.
  
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  Candace Conti Settles

  by Nitty-Gritty in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  hot topic on topix seems to be candace conti settlement.

  but it's all quiet here.

  are you guys aware that your hero, who was not in it for the money but to change policies, settled without changing anything?

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  @listener

  As I recall from the transcripts, several members of the Fremont cong. made testimonies and/or depositions. A few elders and some publishers. None of them would have to reach into their pockets and pay a dime, regardless of whether they lost or not.
  
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  Candace Conti Settles

  by Nitty-Gritty in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  hot topic on topix seems to be candace conti settlement.

  but it's all quiet here.

  are you guys aware that your hero, who was not in it for the money but to change policies, settled without changing anything?

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  @azor policy of calling headquarters for direction rather than calling the police shows that the orgs concern is not for the victims but rather their pocket books.

  That does not make any sense at all. If it was their pocket books the headquarters were bothered about, then it would be in their interest to leave each congregation to make autonomous decisions. In that way, if bad decisions were made, the headquarters would hold no responsibility at all. Then Candace and others would be suing the elders and the congregations, not headquarters. And guess how much money they would be able to get from individuals and little congregations?

  Sometimes I think that opposers have lost all their common sense and logical thinking on their journey out of the WT.

  P.S. I repeat again, no one is stopping anyone from going to the police.