i felt with newer members coming on and other jw fence sitters lurking it might be a good thing to explain what many of us have had to go through in regards to being shunned, cut off, ostracized from our jw families in an unjust way .
whether we are dfed or inactive - many of us have shared this same fate and ill treatment.
for many of us- it makes us stronger, more firmly entrenched that the decision we made to exit the jehovah's witness organization was the correct decision as no organization that claims to be " christian " would ever commit such horrid atrocities or justify it !
I will try to report back on the day and let you all know what it was like. If you have anything you want me to look out for please let me know.
Thanks for the infor cantleave and nugget please let us know the high points or anything you feeel is relevant for us.
i felt with newer members coming on and other jw fence sitters lurking it might be a good thing to explain what many of us have had to go through in regards to being shunned, cut off, ostracized from our jw families in an unjust way .
whether we are dfed or inactive - many of us have shared this same fate and ill treatment.
for many of us- it makes us stronger, more firmly entrenched that the decision we made to exit the jehovah's witness organization was the correct decision as no organization that claims to be " christian " would ever commit such horrid atrocities or justify it !
What is the ICAS conference? I still don't understand some of the lingo spoken here?
are these things happening by where you live?
around here they are becoming popular.
basically it is a congregational effort to get as many people as possible to make a full day of "field service".
I been out for nearly twenty years so I don't know what the congregations are doing but I think it would be hard for me to go out in service with such a full stomach. I know I could not do it in the afternoon after so much food,
I would need a nap. Well, whatever they think works for them.
i felt with newer members coming on and other jw fence sitters lurking it might be a good thing to explain what many of us have had to go through in regards to being shunned, cut off, ostracized from our jw families in an unjust way .
whether we are dfed or inactive - many of us have shared this same fate and ill treatment.
for many of us- it makes us stronger, more firmly entrenched that the decision we made to exit the jehovah's witness organization was the correct decision as no organization that claims to be " christian " would ever commit such horrid atrocities or justify it !
I have always thought that if my sisters can do without seeing or associating with me (I am the youngest sister), I can do without them. I am just as important as they are!!
Another thing I would like to add is that when my husband died five years ago, his sister who, had shunned us both, was very supportive. In fact, her whole family, husband, daughter and two df'd sons all came to the funeral.
Some members of our family are just believers and afarid not to shun us for fear of being df'd themselves. My oldest sister told me "When I see you and don't speak to you, it does not mean that I don't love you. I
cannot speak to you because of the organization's rules." That is sad. The GB/FS are indeed Evil bastards, our family members, for the most part, are just captives of that greedy corportion disguised as a religion!
i felt with newer members coming on and other jw fence sitters lurking it might be a good thing to explain what many of us have had to go through in regards to being shunned, cut off, ostracized from our jw families in an unjust way .
whether we are dfed or inactive - many of us have shared this same fate and ill treatment.
for many of us- it makes us stronger, more firmly entrenched that the decision we made to exit the jehovah's witness organization was the correct decision as no organization that claims to be " christian " would ever commit such horrid atrocities or justify it !
I had been in the orgaization since the age of 4 (1948). I started to fade around 1976-77. Just became disillusioned with the changes in beliefs and the overbearing attitude of the elders and the sisters in the orginaztion.
I stopped attending meeting in 1976 and was df'd in early 1980s. From what I understand now, there was a purg of those whose faithfulness was in question during those years. I tried not to get df'd because I did not want to
lose my family. The JC told me I could stay in with the restriction that I could not discuss the Bible with my husband, who had been df'd for smoking. That was too much for me. I value my freedom of speech provided by the US
Constitution. I said no. I will not comply with that restriction; I will talk to my husband about whatever I want. I was df'd for apostacy. I have been shunned for about 28 years by both my family, my extended family and my
husband's family. Fortunately, three of my brothers have been out longer than I have. One of my younger brothers was df'd at the age of 17 (1968). The JC told him he had to choose between his friends and the organization. He
chose his friends. I wish I had left at an early age like he did. My brothers and I support and associate with each other. I have four sisters who shun me. We were close before I was df'd. I have several cousins with whom I was
also close who also shun me. My family members are elders and district overseers so they are very arrogant towards those of us who are df'd. I have not wasted these years. I made new friends and a new support system.
I went to the University and now have a BSN and a BA in Spanish. Although I miss my sisters and cousins, I have a good and full life. I see my family only at funerals where they shun me. Although I can say, they did not shun me
at my mother's funeral and only partly shunned me at my father's funeral. My mother's funeral was held at the KH and my father's at the funeral home where my df'd brother gave my father's eulogy. I feel that the younger
generation (used in the regular sense) will not accept or put up with the restrictions or nonsense spewed out by the so-called GB/FS. Flipper, I am glad you have your nieces and nephews to both give and receive support from.
I understand you wanting to be close to your parents. Time goes by fast and time spent with your parents is precious. Peace be with you and all. Panhandlegirl.
a few days ago i ate a corn nut that was kind of sharp.
it made a very tiny scratch on my tongue the size of a period (.).
i have a bleeding disorder so it bled for 3 hours.
I can't believe I was ever part of such a stupid organization. I would be embarrassed to let my friends know what some of these witnesses actually believe or say. If and when I cut my finger,it goes straight in my mouth. I know I
shouldn't do that because of germs, but I never imagined I was breaking God's law on not eating blood (which I no longer believe). I think they are straining at the gnat and swallowing the camal! I took contraceptive pills and other
methods to prevent pregnancy. I never even considered asking the elders about it. Who do they think they are, Catholics? There is a condition called aplastic anemia that requires multiple transfusions. I once heard a doctor say
that if a JW developed aplastic anemia he/she was in bad trouble.
i have noticed are more angrier then when i was a child in the 90's and that they seem more uptight.what changes have you seen?.
WOW! How depressing. I felt the same way in the early to mid 70s. I finally decided that if Jehovah wanted to kill me, then I guess he could kill me, but I was getting out of that organization. I had been in since the age of 4.
I went to work out in the world and was happy. Then, from what I understand now, I got caught in the Purg of the 80s. I had not attended meetings for years.I was df'd for apostacy. I didn't think conditions could get any worse. I
believe that the young witness will not take as much as we did. And as was stated, the Internet provides so much information about the organization.They have nowhere to hide! The majority of my family (large) is still in and don't
give any evidence of ever leaving.
by "shadow elder".
before i express my opinion to the readers and contributors to this website (www.ex-jw.com), i would like to explain who i am and to present my bona fides as someone qualified to comment on this website and jehovah's witnesses in general.. first of all, i am an active jehovah's witness living just outside of new york city.
being a large metropolis, new york has many kingdom halls located within the city and several more in surrounding boroughs, counties, and suburbs.
Kendall-Jackson Vintner's Reserve Chardonnay, California. Delicoso! It's five o'clock somewhere!
talking about europe and the western world....
My older sister and I walked with our arms around each other's waists until she was 19 and I was 15. I loved my sister and had slept between her and our older sister since the age of two. Both of us thought she was the most beautiful woman
on earth. It was just sisterly love. Now she doesn't even speak to me, unless she needs medical advice. Kinda funny how things turn out.
talking about europe and the western world....
Does he walk hand in hand with his wife? Do the daugher and her mother walk hand in hand? Seems odd to me, but time will tell. Time revels many things.
