I'm from NYC and wondered the same thing myself. Of course, I'm guilty because I never go to the meetups, mostly because my BF never was a JW and wouldn't understand my abandoning him on a Saturday night (he wouldn't go.)
Originally from Staten Island, would pretty much kill to meet an ex-JW from Staten Island who could possibly fill me in on who may have left and who is still there that I would remember from 20+ years ago. Ironically, there is an active one here at work from S.I. that says hi to me even though I wear a cross, I remember her as being very pleasant and she still is, but I wouldn't have the nerve to sit down and ask her. I'm not up for an intervention.
I do enjoy flipping the bird at bethel whenever I drive across the Brooklyn Bridge. If I'm a passenger, I get to use both hands!
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