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  My Artwork.

  by Xandria in

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  http://www.geocities.com/xandria29/index.html?1027604260137.

  my webpage....it has some racey drawings so if you are easily shocked don't go.

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  Some new drawings .. don't view if you have an aversion to nudity.

  Xandria http://www.geocities.com/xandria29/index2.html?1029058444841
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  Did Anyone Watch Montel today?

  by Dia in

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  just wondering...

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  Um .. not to hijack the thread b/c this is not my intention to do so. But if anyone wants to write Montel's show.. let me know I am starting a "letter". We have a friend who knows someone within the shows producers. I cannot promise anything spectacular, but it is worth a try. Perhaps if we can get a "foot in the door" then more things can be brought to light. Let me know some ideals or thoughts. Email me... and we can proceed from there. If not there are other routes and perhaps someone I know can call in a few favors for me.

  I want to give a positive answer and a place where people can get help. So others know they are not alone.

  Xandria

  Edited by - xandria on 11 August 2002 7:29:31
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  I Screwed Up Today!!

  by Undecided in

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  my wife and i, along with her sister and friend went on a picnic today to the mountains of va. about an hour and half drive.

  on the way someone asked what day of the month is it?

  i looked at my watch and said the 10th.

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  Sigh... August the 2nd was our Anniversary. He did not forget .. in fact he has the date set on the computer, on the fridge calendar, on the bathroom mirror and so on.

  Definately, do something special for her ( and the wedding song playing will soften her up). An be sure to do the above ( with a little humor ) so you don't forget. I don't think she would want you to open a vein ... all that cleaning on the carpet.

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  New found relatives

  by Vivamus in

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  i had one of those major dilemmas this morning.

  basic question swirling through my mind was "can i wear jeans?".

  i only recently have some contact with my dad.

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  Viv:

  I can relate to how you feel some, when my father "returned" me to my mom after 5 years of seperation ( dad parentally took me against the custody my mom had). I had to get to know my mom again ( she was not the person I remembered) and know my sister and a new sister I never knew I had. She was 5 when I was returned. Just take it one day at a time.

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  "Against our will...."

  by Dia in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  we who were 'raised in it' and had no choice about becoming part of this goofy religion, let's discuss our experiences collectively.. personally, i always feel that it was like having parents who were nazi's or members of the kkk.

  almost no one can possibly understand what you've been through.

  it was so radical.. and so harmful.

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  We all have had different experiences with our parents and decisions they have made. Believe me, my parents are more in common with Wolfgirls.

  My parents were not the greatest, many bad decisions

  (Even not making a decision is a decision.) We are left to pick up the pieces and go on. Some is not easy to do, and people who dont come from a background like this dont always understand.

  I have heard many peoples opinions, example: Why didnt you leave? or Why did you allow this to happen to you? You could have gone to the authorities. What they dont understand that you were under such strict lock down (that is the only way I can describe it). You were accounted for at every turn and it was easy in some cases for parents to laugh certain issues off, when it was brought up by teachers to our parents.

  My step father was notorious for mental and emotional abuse (as well as severe neglect). Any one who did not agree with him was a Moron or the stupidest person on earth. My mother her word was law and if you dared to disagree, you were beaten into submission.

  All this has had it toll on us. We (my sister and I) are afraid of failure, to venture out and take a risk, we shrink from confrontational issues (begin to shake severely or become upset I have to walk away . (Guess it is a fight or flight program in me). I feel like I am not allowed to voice my thoughts and I am fearful of betrayal.

  My other sister, I am waiting for her to sort some things out. We talk but, it is kind of a retrospective of the past and questioning of things. She was so young then and her father (spewing junk) and not handling things . Has left a lot un-answered for her and there are still things that she has not found the strength to deal with yet. (I am still here waiting).

  Xandria

  Edited by - xandria on 10 August 2002 20:28:56

  Edited by - xandria on 10 August 2002 20:30:20
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  Pro-Life or Pro-Choice--HELP

  by Quincy in

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  ok...3 days ago, i found out that i was going to be a father!!

  good new right?

  well then she says that she is considering having an abortion...which i am totally against....so we discussed it...then she started to think that she might have the child....so she talked it over with her twin sister...and she told her to get the abortion...now she says she wants the abortion...now i am upset...not onlly does she want the abortion...but she wants me to pay for the entire thing...so not only am i going to be terminating a developing life...but i have to pay for it????

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  I just know I am going to get nailed on this by everyone. But INMHO birth control is the responsiblity of both partners the male and female. Not just the woman...

  Also I know "accidents" happen... that is why it is so important to know the stance of your partner on children, before engaging in sex. Her goals may not reflect yours. In no way should a child feel like a "mistake". Yes, it her body.. but it is both of your lives that are going to be effected. She is scared.. that is normal, you may ask her to wait a few weeks ( if she has that luxury) and then re-consider options. It is not as if you do not want to support the child.

  But you also have to look at it through her stand point too.. she is not prepared to be a mother nor feels she wants to have a child out there. You may want to speak to a counselor at planned parenthood and that way you have a mediator who will have both stances and opinions voiced. Perhaps a work out option can be found. But in the end the choice is hers.

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  August 2nd

  by Xandria in

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  another anniversary is going to be marked on that date.

  wow cannot believe 13 years have passed since i eloped to las vegas .. my goodness it feels just like yesterday.

  where did all those years go to ?.

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  Wow Golden 44 years! I know it seems like yesterday.

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  Woman forced to drink own breast milk at airport!

  by seawolf in

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  it's on o'reilly tonight!

  it's on where i live now.

  http://www.newsmax.com/showinsidecover.shtml?a=2002/8/6/92628.

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  Hello Everyone,

  I agree that the Airport Rent-a-cop (Rambo wanna be's) have gone too far!!! They have no clue on how to handle unique issues or circumstances. They have had one issue (to add to the list) of a woman who had a double mascostomy humiliated by the airport security, because a rod that was in her chest set off the alarm . They themselves have become a type of Gestapo and use tactics that are unorthodox.

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  Artwork .. Let me know what you think

  by Xandria in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  ok, this is art ( one picture is mine that i drew.

  those who know me ..know that i draw as a hobby).

  there is one picture in particular.. that looks like someone who posts on the forum here.

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  Plum:

  I am glad you like the artwork. The angel represents many things in my life and the images have many representations. I drew the legs bound but still unraveling (represents journey to be freed of many things) the upside down cross is part of the anatomy, I know black and white isn't always as clear as colored. The cross on her arm represents a reminder of religions and the betrayal, with the beliefs of man intertwined with the ritual of religion; how can it not be corrupted?

  The link above is the picture that looks like Moe in the face.

  Xandria

  Edited by - xandria on 8 August 2002 20:34:39

  Edited by - xandria on 8 August 2002 20:36:29
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  hi, im new here

  by brwneyedgrl1 in

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  hi everyone.

  i hope that you are all having a good day.

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  Welcome aboard the board . I hope you will continue to post. Many have been dubs, others have been married to a dub and others have joined the wpt ( witness protection program). Sadly,many people here have been through the dub relationship issue.

  That is why I married a "worldly" guy, much to my mother chagrin. ( I mean the first question out of her mouth was, Is he a jw ? The second was, is he black ? ( and they wondered I eloped and it took them a year to meet my husband ? ) Any way their thinking, as you have gather leads to alot of broken relationships.

  It is very rare that you find a dub relationship that lasts. They seem to self destruct.. sort of like when the stepford wives attack and go beserk.

  So once again welcome.

  Xandria

  Edited by - xandria on 8 August 2002 14:4:44