da haters need not apply - thanks for your support.
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Congrats bro! You did things the way you wanted and now you are in full control of your life.
You dont have to look over shoulder, and worry if you will be caught or outed. Truthfully why bother trying to do good from within for people who dont care and wont respond.
Do good by living a happy life and spending your time actually helping people who dont care about religion.
You have your whole life ahead of you! Enjoy!
as today is my day and i’m going to celebrate it.. happy 15,330th day to me!
😉.
Congrats! Funny, my birthday is this weekend and I will be 42 as well.
Enjoy your day!
following on from mrquik's thread.... who of us married at an early age to another j-dub ?
how long did the marriage last?.
how did it end ?.
We got married at 23. We committed fornication nonstop for like 4 months prior. Both put on public reproof.
2 kids in after being married 6 years.
We have been married 20 years and wish we wouldn't have had tubes tied so we cou look d have had more.
hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.
i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?
i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.
hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.
i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?
i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.
Shirley, (I am saying this in a soft voice as I type so I am not confused at trollong) one reason would be to officially no longer be a JW. Affiliation with a church can impact employment.
What about running for public office and people find out you are a JW.
If you were a member if the KKK, you could just walk away. If it was found out you were a member and you tried to state that you haven't been to a meeting in 5 years who would believe that or perceive it as credible. Yet if you have a letter stating you renounced those beliefs it is a different story.
Some people just want to officially sever ties and not have to worry about elders and others stopping by to talk you into returning.
Others want the protection da letters provide in that they do not have to worry in the early stages 9f leaving of having elders drop by every 6 months. It is just a matter of officially leaving a corrupt and disgraceful organization
hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.
i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?
i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.
HiddenPIMO, were there any people in particular you wanted to reach? A message you wanted to convey to anyone, or did you just want to officially no longer be counted among them and get on with life.
The body of the letter depends on your end goal is
hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.
i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?
i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.
Please tell me what I am saying is trollish. I think my assessment of the options mentioned by the OP are realistic and genuine.
I never said he shouldn't fade. I never said he should da or painted a rosy unrealistic view of it.
I know many people who have left with family in tow. They usually arent on the boards long because they make a clean break at somepoint.
Please point out my trollish behavior
hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.
i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?
i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.
Actually desirous of change to official leave the catholic church, mormons, and a variety of other organizations you do write a letter. I suggest you read up on that.
Mormons, Catholic Church, etc... please stop spreading misinformation. There is fanfare involved and announcements. There is also shuning. To leave an organization of almost any sort a letter of resignation or disassociation is common.
The Borg did not invent the procedd.
Longhair I agree with you. I am not saying DA'ing is the only option. It is an option that has consequences as well as advantages and disadvantages. As you said getting out and moving on is the most important aspect
The issue is the whole playing by their rules mantra that is always voiced by those who are trapped in the Borg mentality and spend 10 years mentally out but hiding and living in fear of being a genuine person.
hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.
i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?
i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.
Brighton, in your post you said that leaving the religion with a letter is playing by their rules, and how successful your fade was.
Yet, in the same post you say you:
1. Stull hang out with them
2. Live in a grey area
Somehow you think you are a good reminder to them that everyone who leaves is not dangerous when you are staying you have not left and are still a JW.
You made one post on this site and it was about finding a way to sneak around and receive lifesaving medical treatment if needed without the group you supposedly left finding out...
Please tell me who has established the rules you are living by
hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.
i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?
i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.
HiddenPimo, as a fun exercise take a few minutes to analyze something. Look at the posting content / topics of faders and those who consistently say things like, "dont play by their rules" . Then do the same for those moved on via being forced too or who DA'ed.
In most instances those that fade spend years after they have mentally left still reading JW literature. Quibbling over the latest JW news. Selling their homes and moving away so they can continue to hide out. This goes on for YEARS. For instance Brighton made a post about possibly accepting blood privately. Not all do this but the majorityIF THEIR IS ANY DESCRIPTION OF PLAYONG BY THEIR RULES THAT WOULD BE IT.(https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5927155847397376/accepting-blood-privately)
Then look at the posts of the majority who leave on their own terms and get on with life. The majority of their topics are humor, politics, and world events. They share stories of moving on, going to school, etc. You may not agree with their views but you see people who have left, and are making a go at life.
Not to say you have to do what others do, but the term playing by their rules is so ridiculous it's not even funny
