Posts by silentbuddha

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Asking for help with wife

by Are you serious in

hello everyone, my wife wants nothing to do with my awakening.

every time i try explaining something she tells me she doesn't want to hear it.

i believe she's afraid of learning something she's not ready for.

I was in your shoes 4 years ago... today I am happy to say my wife and kids have all abandoned that dumpster fire of a religion. Each situation is different but like you I left abruptly and my wife was blazing angry and sad all at the same time. I tried to tell her all the things I knew and it only made matters worse.

My best advice to you is just give it time. It is neither prudent nor fair to her to force her down the path. If she is of the type that can see through the bullshit, she will eventually make changes because she knows you will be there to support her.

I would also suggest that you still demonstrate that you love her and want to be with her and that your decision does not mean you want to break up the family. Many people I know who were married and left all said that that was one of their spouses biggest fears.

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What was the biggest thing that convinced you that

by Ponyo in

.....the truth was not the truth... ?

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silentbuddha

Elders school.... finding out if a certain amount of time passes after a serious sin was committed and a person was still doing fine they received little to no discipline because there progress was a sign jahjoe was good with them

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Damon Wayans was apparently at 2017 Annual Meeting

by Richard_I in

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from this post on reddit.com/r/exjw, damon wayans was at the 2017 annual meeting.

the wayans were raised as jw's but i don't think any of them stated.. strange to see him here.

this is the same man who defended bill cosby from all the sex abuse allegations..

silentbuddha

I grew up in NJ and his family often visited our congregation in Irvington by. The father was pretty strict as a matter of fact and would pop and smack them.

They were noticeable only because it was so many of them. When they became famous all the loser sisters woulmd lie that one of the brothers had a thing for them when in actuality it wasn't tru e.

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How do the foreign language Congregations find people to call on?

by UnshackleTheChains in

ok. i had a fascinating conversation with one of my polish colleagues at work.

she knows i'm a jdub and an activist as have filled her in warts and all about watchtower.. she came up to me today explaining how a couple of polish witnesses came to her door.

she was curious as to how they knew to call on her door knowing she was polish.

silentbuddha

I am not sure if it has been mentioned yet but I remember I was unfortunately given the job of taking the lead in developing in Arabic congregation in central Florida. We actually had theories a time when we would get Internet directories and look for anyone with a name that sounded Arabic and we would purposely go and visit these individuals. We also live near the USF campus and there was a large number of Arabic speakers there as well you put the word out to local congregations if they ran its individuals and spoke Arabic then they were to forward the information on to us it was very Creepy.

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What Type of Elder Body Did You Have?

by minimus in

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i was an elder in two different congregations and both were conservative and strict, especially congregation number one.

it was headed by a former branch servant as they were called back then.

all elders were by the book.

silentbuddha

I hate to break the mold but the body I served on was hella loose and allowed alot of things that ultimately resulted in the c.o. removing two.

I was told I would be removed for not enforcing rules on a pioneer sister who was using sex toys.our p.o. later got removed because his son was weed head and the secretary was rich and let his 2 dfed kids move back in.

A pack of demons.

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Today's Text - Justifying The Increase Of Annointed Ones!

by Divergent in

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thursday, august 31. jehovah knows those who belong to him.—2 tim.

2:19.. in recent years, we have seen an increase in the number of those partaking at the memorial of christ’s death.

that trend contrasts with the decrease in the number of partakers that we saw for many decades.

silentbuddha

Every person that I know who partookwas a fucking nut job.

There was one whose name was actually Despirito..... yes.

SHE wore fishnets stockings and miniskirts and was in her 60s. Never came to meetings only the memorial.

One was a guy who was baptised 2 years and started. He had 5 kids and no job.

The other was a young girl who repeatedly had sex and committed i.morality with anything moving. One year after being reinstated age married a guy who had been appointed elder like 5 times and always got removed. One day she claims anointed and she thought she was the shut.

Another was a dude that never came to meetings, was a drunk and the elders 3 times found him lying in a ditch drunk in Tampa.

The last one was an old woman who literally murdered her husband in the 50d.

I swear to the flying spaghetti monster that you can't make this shit up

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"Secret Sins"... a catalyst for change both negative and positive

by silentbuddha in

i have been completely out for close to 5 years and i have spent alot of time with individuals who either left or are in the process of leaving.

whenever we get to talking about what made you leave or what was it that made the flip switch, the initial answer is some doctrinal teaching.

in other instances it was just sorrow or a variety of other things.. however, as you get closer to many of these individuals it was generally a secret sin they committed at the root of it all.

silentbuddha

Old Navy, Buddhism is an intriguing faith... so much so that even in my distaste for religion have a profound respect for the belief system.

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"Secret Sins"... a catalyst for change both negative and positive

by silentbuddha in

i have been completely out for close to 5 years and i have spent alot of time with individuals who either left or are in the process of leaving.

whenever we get to talking about what made you leave or what was it that made the flip switch, the initial answer is some doctrinal teaching.

in other instances it was just sorrow or a variety of other things.. however, as you get closer to many of these individuals it was generally a secret sin they committed at the root of it all.

silentbuddha

Old Navy is there a link to Pale Emperors thread? I would like to see what he has to say because this issue really touches me.

Especially since so many people I know have fallen into this trap and then slide into depression etc...

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"Secret Sins"... a catalyst for change both negative and positive

by silentbuddha in

i have been completely out for close to 5 years and i have spent alot of time with individuals who either left or are in the process of leaving.

whenever we get to talking about what made you leave or what was it that made the flip switch, the initial answer is some doctrinal teaching.

in other instances it was just sorrow or a variety of other things.. however, as you get closer to many of these individuals it was generally a secret sin they committed at the root of it all.

silentbuddha

I appreciate your ability to be able to respond without anger. I also like the viewpoint you put forth. My circle of exjws is quite small but there was this common strand that ran through all their experiences.

I also prefer talking to people who don't agree with me, it helps me to expa d my world view. Thanks bro

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"Secret Sins"... a catalyst for change both negative and positive

by silentbuddha in

i have been completely out for close to 5 years and i have spent alot of time with individuals who either left or are in the process of leaving.

whenever we get to talking about what made you leave or what was it that made the flip switch, the initial answer is some doctrinal teaching.

in other instances it was just sorrow or a variety of other things.. however, as you get closer to many of these individuals it was generally a secret sin they committed at the root of it all.

silentbuddha

I personally do not believe in the concept of secret sin. Afterall it is apparent to me that if there was a creator of sorts he has done nothing to fully inform us how to contact him or how to really do what he wants. He never talks directly to anyone so either so a secret sin seems a bit far-fetched.

However, with the JW mindset in which Jehovo is watching all the time the concept makes sense. After all He knows you told a lie, but somehow watching big breasted asian lesbians getting it on then going in the bathroom and beating off in a sock without telling your wife or the elders appeared to be worse somehow.

Stuckinarut I think maybe you are under the impression that I adhere to that train of thought, but I do not any LONGER. I always considered myself to be a person of high moral standards which is why listening to songs of a certain type caused me to want to repent before JEHOBO, I then felt so guilty that I felt unworthy to even pray. That circumstance sparked a change in me that caused me to look at why I felt that way.

There is no need to apologize for being blunt. It is a discussion board and I hope that part of the reason people come here is to express their opinions and possibly change them based on the experience of others. Pretty far-fetched I know.