Oh, I am so sorry to hear this! I wouldn't wish this situation on anyone...
I will do everything in my power to teach my children the truth about the non-truth
IMO... I think that this *may* come across as a threat to her, and we all know how JWs react to "threats"... the sympathetic ears in the congregation will tell her that "Satan is using him to test you" and all of that garbage. Someone has been filling her head (e.g., that condom-nonesense). I wish I had more to offer; maybe you could try telling her that you didn't marry a cult member, but that's what she's turned into! (yeah, that will go over really well...)
So sorry, you're in my thoughts...
Reagan
I am the master of my fate/I am the captain of my soul.