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  Question for Women.

  by spectromize in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  why is it so hard to read what a woman is really thinking?

  and what are the no no's when trying to ask a woman for a date and how do you know a woman is interested in you?.

  i would really appreciate help, seems i lack in the right touch, tonight i was just told off by a cute lady, i honestly didn't recognized her and made the mistake of telling her so.

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  RedhorseWoman

  Somehow, after all this I find I don't miss the dating scene at all.
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  Gifts- bribery or an act of love

  by Kismet in

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  often i hear about guys who are in the proverbial doghouse with their girlfriend and/or spouse (though both at the same time is very messy and not recommended- lol).

  9 of 10 times the discussion then revolves around how to get out of the doghouse.

  flowers, candies, sparkling trinkets, trips etc are thrown out as the "accepted" way to gain forgiveness.

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  You guys have no idea....really. Or perhaps you've just met some very immature women.

  If I'm angry at my husband, he knows why....no sulking, no guessing (actually, he's the one who frequently sulks and won't talk....so, I'll ask what's wrong; he'll say "nothing"; I'll say "okay, it just seemed as if you were pissed" and walk off; he'll then follow me, complain I don't care, and then tell me.....seems like a lot of hassle to me....just state your complaint, please).

  Gifts don't really do it as appeasement. It really does feel like a bribe....I don't want a bribe....I want an apology and a change for the better.

  Gifts should be something special, something given because you want to please the other person and you want to give them something because you care. Bribes are demeaning.
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  "Witness" health disorders

  by Pathofthorns in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not to demean any who may genuinely suffer from the following conditions, but it seems that every time the society puts out an article on certain "illnesses", coincidentally there is an increase in the latest fad medical condition among witnesses.. the illnesses i'm referring to are chronic fatigue syndrome (cfs), fibromialgia, burnout, depression, and the latest from awake, multiple chemical sensitivity (mcs).. while there are many who genuinely suffer from these illnesses, it almost seems that people (usually sisters late 30's and 40's) delight in discussing which of these sickness they have.

  i figure, either a) if they genuinely have these conditions, a large contributing factor is the "truth" and all of the politics that go along with it as well as the routine.

  also stress from things like poor financial planning, also due to past policies of the society.. or b) these illnesses are often conveniently self-diagnosed or difficult to prove and provide nice excuses for staying away from meetings/service, and to take frequent vacations.

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  Interesting thoughts, Path. In perusing the Depression and Mental Health sub-boards on Wit.Net, I have noticed an awful lot of people with fibromyalgia and the other disorders.

  It could be that people with chronic, painful conditions are also more likely to seek out an easy answer...i.e. a paradise earth just around the corner.
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  Ho Hum, just another JW sex abuse case

  by Dubby in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  judge blasts church over sex offences .

  by michele tydd .

  a wollongong judge yesterday launched a scathing attack on the jehovah's.

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  It's obvious that change is coming as far as the blood issue is concerned.

  My thought is that they will just keep changing small portions of the rules, which most JW's will continually accept without question, until one day it will be understood that only actual consumption of blood (eating) is considered sinful.

  By that time, the gradual shift will have been totally assimilated by the devout Witness, and they will be totally stymied if someone were to bring up the previous ban on blood transfusions. As has been the case with so many other issues, they will simply state that it was always a conscience matter and that some JW's just took too extreme a stance on the matter....the Society NEVER prohibited blood transfusions....it was just that individuals didn't understand the issue properly.

  Just as the Society NEVER declared that organ transplants were cannibalism and should never be considered....oh, no, that was just individuals misinterpreting things.

  They have done this in the past, and I'm sure they will try to pull it off again with the blood issue.
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  Disfellowshipping, again

  by somebody in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i'm trying to gather every scripture used to imply that the practice of disfellowshipping among christians is scriptual.

  please notice that i did not say "to imply that the "idea" is scriptual, but the "practice".

  any input would be of help.

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  Frenchy,

  I think that the role of religion is to try to help people to become better people.

  Those who commit acts that are criminal are dealt with by secular courts.

  The process as it is right now just isn't working. It sounds wonderful to declare that the congregation is kept free of those who are morally corrupt through the process of disfellowshipping, but we all know that it just doesn't work out that way.

  Those who are good at lying can feign repentance, and those who have influence can have their indiscretions hushed up. Conversely, there are many who are disfellowshipped mainly because they made a mistake and didn't know how to grovel appropriately.

  What would be the horrible consequence to simply allowing nature to take its course, so to speak?
  Most people are aware of those who are not morally upright and would tend to avoid them on their own, without a congregation mandate. Likewise, most people can judge who has simply taken a wrong turn and who needs help.

  Those who do not want to play by the rules will most likely drift off on their own.

  Those who are in positions of authority should be removed from those positions if they are caught in reprehensible conduct.

  There are very few cases, in my experience, where disfellowshipping accomplished anything towards healing the person disfellowshipped. At the same time, it caused pain and suffering for innocent family members.

  The whole practice of shunning seems to have turned into nothing more than a PR slogan....Look at us...we don't tolerate wrongdoing in our midst like these false religions....look at us, we're spotless! Additionally, it's been used very frequently to get rid of potential rabble rousers.

  It's very effective. If someone is thinking too much and talking too much, what better way to maintain the status quo than to forbid everyone to talk to this person?

  Jesus spoke of forgiveness and counseled people to refrain from wrongdoing. I can't think of any scripture where he advocated a mass shunning of an individual.
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  'Deaden your body members'

  by Maxee in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i recently read a post on the net regarding how often men think about sex.

  i started to think about how often i did.

  i followed this up with a survey on antoher site and found i ranked low and they told me i had sexual problems.

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  RedhorseWoman

  Yes, it seems that if you truly believe in any religion (and especially JW's) you have to put up with a God who has an extremely macabre sense of humor.

  First He creates us all to be sexual beings, with a sex drive that is evident from the time we are infants. Then, in order to please Him, we must deny any sexual feelings until marriage...at which time we're allowed only minimal sexual experience.

  Then He creates about 10 percent of us with a sexual orientation toward those of the same sex....and declares that all such creatures are condemned to death unless they remain entirely celibate throughout their lives. Of course, He does give them the option of a loveless, frustrating marriage with a member of the opposite sex.

  Seems to me that somewhere along the line there's been some massive misinterpretation of the Biblical guidelines.
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  One for the road

  by Pathofthorns in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i've been trying to slowly fade away, just going to meetings on sundays, and even then its been hit and miss.

  i figure the daniel book is a write off with 607 figuring prominently along with all the "fulfillments" based on it, and since i'm not going out in service, the tms/sm is a waste of time.. even sundays play out like a broken record, the wt study articles show no sign of real change, but a clinging to power and a re-defining of wt history.

  the public talks are sheer fantasy.. the sad thing is, i like the people, and perhaps even the concept is attractive.

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  Seafood? Hmmmm....there are quite a few seafood places in Newport, so I'm having trouble placing this. Have you ever been to Salas' Dining Room?

  I haven't been there in quite awhile (terminally cheap husband), but the food was always excellent and the portions were substantial.

  Pilgrimage? Well, yes, I guess you could say that. Before we left, we packed extra food and water and sleeping bags just in case. Then we notified family members and sent a copy of our itinerary to the Town Hall....in case a search needed to be initiated. Can't be too careful you know!
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  One for the road

  by Pathofthorns in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i've been trying to slowly fade away, just going to meetings on sundays, and even then its been hit and miss.

  i figure the daniel book is a write off with 607 figuring prominently along with all the "fulfillments" based on it, and since i'm not going out in service, the tms/sm is a waste of time.. even sundays play out like a broken record, the wt study articles show no sign of real change, but a clinging to power and a re-defining of wt history.

  the public talks are sheer fantasy.. the sad thing is, i like the people, and perhaps even the concept is attractive.

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  RedhorseWoman

  Brick Alley? I've been to the Brick Marketplace in Newport. Not the same, though, I suppose.

  If you know anything about Rhode Islanders it's that we generally refuse to drive to anyplace that is more than 10 minutes away.

  Now, I've been several times to the covered bridge in Foster. AND, I once visited Slater Mill, but then again, that's when I lived in Mass.

  But wait, but wait.....I went to Green Animals once.....really, I did....and I traveled 45 minutes to get there.
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  One for the road

  by Pathofthorns in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i've been trying to slowly fade away, just going to meetings on sundays, and even then its been hit and miss.

  i figure the daniel book is a write off with 607 figuring prominently along with all the "fulfillments" based on it, and since i'm not going out in service, the tms/sm is a waste of time.. even sundays play out like a broken record, the wt study articles show no sign of real change, but a clinging to power and a re-defining of wt history.

  the public talks are sheer fantasy.. the sad thing is, i like the people, and perhaps even the concept is attractive.

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  Oh, my....I am so typically Rhode Island. I'd never heard of Greenwich Bay Clam Company. Of course, every time we take the horses out we drive within a half-mile of the place. LOL

  Again, as is typically Rhode Island, I haven't had a good clambake in ages. Just reading about the ingredients was making my mouth water, but, boy are they expensive!!! (again typically Rhode Island....we are such cheap b*st*rds)
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  One for the road

  by Pathofthorns in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i've been trying to slowly fade away, just going to meetings on sundays, and even then its been hit and miss.

  i figure the daniel book is a write off with 607 figuring prominently along with all the "fulfillments" based on it, and since i'm not going out in service, the tms/sm is a waste of time.. even sundays play out like a broken record, the wt study articles show no sign of real change, but a clinging to power and a re-defining of wt history.

  the public talks are sheer fantasy.. the sad thing is, i like the people, and perhaps even the concept is attractive.

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  RedhorseWoman

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