Posts by FayeDunaway

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For all still in.... fakers. Help.

by Sofia Lose in

am i alone in this feeling?

i wish i could muster the cojones needed to tell my husband "i want a divorce, move away, not be a jw anymore!".

i find myself screaming these same words over and loud inside my mind, several times a day, and yet on the outside my actions could not be more opposed to these inner feelings.. sometimes i worry that this internal conflict will cause me to go crazy.

FayeDunaway

Keep working on your husband. And be patient. If you still love him.

Yep, some days of faking it are much worse than others. I'm sorry you are going through this now. I remember it. It's hell!!

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Is disfellowshipping as popular as it was years ago?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i seldom hear of people getting df'd anymore.

years ago it seemed there were a few per year in a congregation.

FayeDunaway

I know of a few people who were df'd in my old hall since I left (in recent years). Two for having affairs, another for being gay, one for fornication. These are just the ones I happen to know about, and im way out of the loop. I'm sure there were more.

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KH 1st timer, could use some advice

by rathernotsay in

jw
friends

hey people, .

i am soon going into a kh for the first time and i could use some advice around etiquette etc.

i know next to nothing besides the fundamental beliefs of jws, i personally dont believe in any religion, and that stance isnt ever going to change, however i don't want to come across as rude or disrespectful.

FayeDunaway

RTs, if you do go, point out all the weird stuff you see to your wife. Try to wake her up by what you observe with your own eyes, and that it's so much stranger than you imagined. This will at least let her know she cant be hopeful you're going to 'progress,' and might make her look at things with new eyes.

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For all still in.... fakers. Help.

by Sofia Lose in

am i alone in this feeling?

i wish i could muster the cojones needed to tell my husband "i want a divorce, move away, not be a jw anymore!".

i find myself screaming these same words over and loud inside my mind, several times a day, and yet on the outside my actions could not be more opposed to these inner feelings.. sometimes i worry that this internal conflict will cause me to go crazy.

FayeDunaway

Morpheus, you can feel so despondent and uncertain that you do not know what you are possibly going to do to get out of a situation. Before I was ever even arguing with my husband about witness issues, I was contemplating divorce, because I couldn't see how we could be happy in a divided family, and I thought I might run away and eventually try to get the kids. I was in a very bad and uncertain place. I think that's where Sofia is now. But she says her husband is a very good guy, as is, ultimately, mine. And I'm really glad I didn't do anything rash and harmful and the family is intact. And I'm really, really glad my husband followed me.

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For all still in.... fakers. Help.

by Sofia Lose in

am i alone in this feeling?

i wish i could muster the cojones needed to tell my husband "i want a divorce, move away, not be a jw anymore!".

i find myself screaming these same words over and loud inside my mind, several times a day, and yet on the outside my actions could not be more opposed to these inner feelings.. sometimes i worry that this internal conflict will cause me to go crazy.

FayeDunaway

Sofia I feel for you!!! You feel like it's high time you started living the way you want to. Life is too short. :(

i hate this religion that divides families like this.

...he might not lose his privileges if you leave the religion and stay with him. I don't think he will. He will however be ashamed of sorts and feel like he has failed as a spiritual head.

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For all still in.... fakers. Help.

by Sofia Lose in

am i alone in this feeling?

i wish i could muster the cojones needed to tell my husband "i want a divorce, move away, not be a jw anymore!".

i find myself screaming these same words over and loud inside my mind, several times a day, and yet on the outside my actions could not be more opposed to these inner feelings.. sometimes i worry that this internal conflict will cause me to go crazy.

FayeDunaway

I was scared to death. I knew I didn't want to be a witness anymore, but my husband was a believer and my kids. I was so scared that if I left, my kids wouldn't be able to talk to me anymore if they got baptized, and my husband would bring them to meetings. I thought we might get a divorce over it. To me they weren't separate issues. It was an extremely frustrating time. I didn't even come to places like this yet, so you are ahead of me there. I just internalized everything and wanted to scream at meetings etc.

thank god, I gradually was able to get my husband to at least feel neutral about the issue. Some other family circumstances helped, with their timing, to distract him. His mind faded away from the witnesses. Now he's completely out of it, and the kids too. Our family is in tact.

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"The Kingdom—100 Years and Counting" Video

by wifibandit in

aka how to gloss over/lie about your history.. hurd starts off trying to sell the idea that the bible students were unsure of what would supposedly happen in 1914. this is a double lie.. first, they were not in doubt.

but bear in mind that the end of 1914 is not the date for the beginning, but for the end of the time of trouble.

-zion's watch tower 1894 jul 15 p.226.

FayeDunaway

Be glad you nations with his people, gods kingdom is at hand

......rule from on mount Zion....

the gentile times have ended

their kings have had their day

rejoice in every land

......thats all I got. Is this no longer a song??

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KH 1st timer, could use some advice

by rathernotsay in

jw
friends

hey people, .

i am soon going into a kh for the first time and i could use some advice around etiquette etc.

i know next to nothing besides the fundamental beliefs of jws, i personally dont believe in any religion, and that stance isnt ever going to change, however i don't want to come across as rude or disrespectful.

FayeDunaway

Definitely stand your ground in the christmas/birthdays. However your children WILL be made to feel very guilty for continuing to celebrate them, so like I said, make sure you reach them that they have their own minds and don't need to be bossed around or made to feel bad by doing things differently than others.

your wife wants you to go to the memorial first because there's lots of visitors at the memorial and it's not so unusual for new people to be there. You won't make as much of a scene as going to a regular meeting.

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Prince Debuts Cover of Christian Rock Ballad 'What If' - This should be an instant disfellowshipping event

by paulmolark in

http://www.etonline.com/news/161150_prince_new_single_what_if/.

so prince sings a christian rock ballad with another young christian woman.

he has engaged in:.

FayeDunaway

Prince is a musical genius and an idiot in other matters.

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KH 1st timer, could use some advice

by rathernotsay in

jw
friends

hey people, .

i am soon going into a kh for the first time and i could use some advice around etiquette etc.

i know next to nothing besides the fundamental beliefs of jws, i personally dont believe in any religion, and that stance isnt ever going to change, however i don't want to come across as rude or disrespectful.

FayeDunaway

She was unfaithful cuz she liked the attention this guy at work was giving her.

RNS, I am concerned about your kids. You should start planting strong self esteem in them, and teach them to think for themselves.

omg, rural NZ?? LUCKY!!