I'm with giordano. Volunteer! Join clubs! For me, a new church brought the most friends tho, and it's not controlling, there is so much open mindedness and freedom of thought and expression it was actually shocking to me. But like you said, research doctrine and see where you stand before choosing one. I think you will be ok. Take a couple more months and either turn in fake time (I never could do that, but do what you can do. It's all meaningless anyway) or do return visits with other people or go on someone's study. Spend spare time researching doctrine and looking into organizations/clubs/classes you are interested in and you will meet friends there! But don't rush it. PM me if you want to talk.
FayeDunaway
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(Not)Preaching advice
by paradisebeauty inhaving recently had an "awakening" - not from reading awake .... i realize i can not preach doctrines i do not believe anymore .
but i do not want the elders to start following my every move, because i also have plans to check other christian denominations.. so i am thinking, should i chat for an hour or two with an old visit and report the hours, should i tell the elders i have some doubts and i do not want to preach for now or should i just stop reporting and avoid the elders attempts to talk to me?
what do you think is the best sollution to get away with this?
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Are J.W's obsesed with their statis??
by karter ini went to a j.w funeral and saw some people i used to hang out with many years ago and they all seemed to want to tell me if they or any member of their family were elders,m.s's,pioneers ect.. karter..
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Introvert WHY do you want back in? Look around first, try other options. -
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List of changes in last 5 years
by paulmolark inis there ea list anywhere of the changes that have taken place in last 5 years.
i ask this because in what i consider some form of "hail mary" my elder father who has not spoken to me in a forever tells me he knows that tone of my hangups was the fact that there were a lot of changes.
he said that as far as he knows that there have only been 2............................... i am aware of a number of them but is there a comprehensive list anywhere on the net?.
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I didn't know about 21 and 22. That is total ageism! Many people, especially these days, are still doing great in very old age. Why do they need to set some stereotypical number limit?? -
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Nothing Says, "I Love You!" Like Institutionalized Shunning!
by Oubliette inwhy disfellowshipping is a loving provision.
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may 15, 2105 watchtower, pp.
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This is so bizarre. You would think they would have drawn the disfellowshipped one in black and white and the rest in color...what a strange decision!! And to give her such a beautifully colored dress, too. I'm thinking whoever drew this does not agree with WT policy!! -
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12 signs you are a modern day Pharisee
by Zoos ini was reading through this list and was struck by how accurately it describes the watchtower royalty class.
not exactly a professional doing the writing but i think he captures it pretty well.. http://frankpowell.me/12-signs-you-are-modern-day-pharisee.
for those who cannot access the link:.
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FayeDunaway
Data dog, I had never heard the term 'legalism' while I was a witness, only after coming out of it, talking to other Christians, when they described witnesses as 'legalistic.' Pharisees can't see what they are, and what they are missing, until shown. -
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(Not)Preaching advice
by paradisebeauty inhaving recently had an "awakening" - not from reading awake .... i realize i can not preach doctrines i do not believe anymore .
but i do not want the elders to start following my every move, because i also have plans to check other christian denominations.. so i am thinking, should i chat for an hour or two with an old visit and report the hours, should i tell the elders i have some doubts and i do not want to preach for now or should i just stop reporting and avoid the elders attempts to talk to me?
what do you think is the best sollution to get away with this?
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Today's Watchtower Study, from Feb 15th " Jehovah Guides......."
by BluesBrother innot a full critique but some points astounded me .
after decades of hearing them say how terrible the "critical times" are that we live in today.
i now hear :.
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FayeDunaway
Wow dw and ofs!!! Almost makes me want to go back to the KH to see if anyone is answering like that where I live :). That is so hilarious, I can't believe you got away with it, :D and seriously, those elderettes will nod at ANYTHING won't they??
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The poor and deprived life of JW children.
by Esse quam videri ini find it hard to believe that adults on this forum make such a big deal about not celebrating birthdays, x-mas, easter, halloween, etc, etc, etc.
i grew up as a jw kid and it actually made me feel good, being different from the other kids in school.
we went to meetings.
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FayeDunaway
Ak, I feel the same way. It's frustrating when your children DONT dive in to school and want to do all the activities, even when they have the freedom!! At least I've got one who is getting older who loves to act in plays, sing in choirs etc! Finally I will get to live high school vicariously :). -
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Would you call JW HQ???
by DATA-DOG ini have a friend who is still in.
this friend is a partaker, but has serious doubts about the org.
this friend wants to stand up as a man, and wants to call wtbts hq.
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FayeDunaway
Your friend seems a bit delusional. The GB do not sit by phones all day taking questions from witnesses...'anointed' or not. Actually I don't believe they have EVER talked to a witness over the phone to answer a question. That's like saying 'get me Putin on the phone...there are things I would like to change about Russia.'
Your friend will definitely be 'watched' for even attempting this. I admire his courage and his integrity tho.
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Would you give your life for those that shun you?
by Esse quam videri in'no one has greater love than this, that someone would lay down his life for his friends.'.
many have been hurt by the practice of shunning.
family members, [former?
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FayeDunaway
Me neither. It's their religion I can't stand.