Posts by FayeDunaway

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Does What We Say Here Or In Person Really Help JWs To Get Out Of The Religion?

by minimus in

jw
friends

if we are in the congregation, do you think our comments or questions actually reach elders or others in the congregation?

do our comments on this board affect witnesses to the point of questioning their faith?

FayeDunaway

I think it does. Definitely. But one thing I thought years ago, when I was still half a believer, was that many comments on this site matched the hateful slanderous attitude we were warned against. So that did turn me off. I preferred jwfacts and silent lambs back then. Outlaw I didn't like you back then, didn't appreciate the humor, sorry to say! I quite like it now that I've fully accepted the basic truths that inspire the humor.

I do think we shouldn't get too acerbic though, and remember to make our points in a fair light, so as to not turn off doubters with more belief than not. I need to remind myself of this too.

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Would you like to live for ever on earth?

by fulano in

i was discussing this topic with two friends of mine, ex jws, a few nights ago.

i think it would be boring after a while.

you can't smoke, have to drink with moderation (difficult in europe with all the wines).

FayeDunaway

I would like to first be in heaven, then be on earth. And forever sounds great. Seriously, there are so many things I want to do and enjoy doing that I will never get sick of. Just thinking about the massive pile of recipes I want to try would keep me busy for a long time. I'll never get to them in my lifetime, which is kind of depressing. But yeah. If it was under the elders rules and being told where to live etc? No freaking way.

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Hierarchy of Needs Revelation

by freemindfade in

in my quest to always understand why jws get so f%$@ed up (yes oubliette, lets review lol) i discovered something today.

in speaking with one of my fellow heathen friends from this site i was talking about maslov's hierarchy of needs in an unrelated subject but i had an epiphany.

witnesses are held at the third level and never make it to the oh so critical top two sections.

FayeDunaway

Freeemind...you could even say many are stuck on the second level. Security of family? Employment?

Family can be taken away from you based on decisions by elders. Many are unemployed/underemployed based on 'putting the kingdom first.'

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does us Bethel Rachel oily racially reflect the publishers in us

by poopie in

jw
friends

your thoghts racially not oily

FayeDunaway

Lol. I think this is a case of spell check interference.

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Carefully Examine the Scriptures like the Beroean

by FusionTheism in

these quotes might come in handy for some of you in certain situations:.

bearing witness (acts) book, pages 137-138:.

16 though the beroeans were hearing something new, they were not suspicious or harshly critical; neither were they gullible.

FayeDunaway

They want you to compare what the bible teaches with their beliefs using their own severely twisted propaganda, and that is the only materials they will accept.

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Some common words that are applicable in practical use with the Jehovah's Witnesses Organization

by Finkelstein in

i'll start the ball rolling .... .

coercive.

pretentious.

FayeDunaway

Delusional

Desperate

fascist

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What are Some of your best JW Questions they can't answer?

by 1tMakesNoSence in

i made a thread on reddit regarding questions jw's can't answer.

was wondering what you guys can add to it..

FayeDunaway

Agreed! Heck, as a witness, I used to feel guilty sucking on a paper cut!

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The Crappy piano music Replacement has begun

by 1tMakesNoSence in

im typing this while i'm sitting on the toilet in the kingdom hall to just skip a few seconds of the mumbling.

they read a letter just now they have started to replace the kingdom melodies with the orchestral versions.

all and all to make it look and sound better to the people outside.. id have to say though, that piano music sucks measuring up to church music.

FayeDunaway

No techno metal loving brother is ever going to be on the GB! The best you could hope for is someone who loves the Beatles, and it wouldn't even be the more interesting, later Beatles...it would be EARLY beatles. He might be young enough to like techno metal, but he won't like it, he will be an early Beatles fan.

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Where to go from here...

by Patrickday in

i'm new around here, but i've been browsing the site the last few days in hopes of finding the answer to the situation i've been going through, so hopefully you can help me.

i met this girl in highschool, but never really spoke with her until about a year after i graduated.

she's three years younger (however it's legal where i'm from, don't fret) and still a teenager.

FayeDunaway

I almost left when I was 19, but couldn't disappoint my parents. Decided to stay and do it their way. I hung on for 2 more decades. Then FINALLY decided to live my own life.

What im saying is, move on. Your paths may cross again some time in the distant future, and circumstances might be open for you being together. Who knows. But for now, emotionally move on from this girl. She sounds really messed up, more messed up than she was in the first years you knew her. I'm sorry your life too was affected by this cult. She needs to get out of it, but that is only going to happen when she's ready, and she's not moving in that direction right now. let her go.

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What triggered your doubts / awakening?

by Tornintwo in

i am sort of new here, used a different username for a while but things got 'difficult' at home so i've since been lurking.... what i would be really interested to know, if you don't mind sharing, is what it was that triggered your doubts and initial research which led to awakening, was it a bad experience, injustice, changed doctrine?

for me, it was seeing mistreatment of young ones in the congregation, they're under so much pressure and as soon as they go even slightly astray they are shunned, either informally (as bad associations which pushes them further into the 'world') or formally - with elders dying to throw the book at them so they even lose their family.... ...then reading about child abuse issues in the press.... ...which led me to silentlambs.

...then jw facts, this forum and coc, wham!

FayeDunaway

Sasha I enjoyed your story! I remember searching on the Internet years ago too for 'how to leave jw's'...at the time this fading approach was new. It took me a long time to find that suggestion from someone. But whoever it was, described it so well, I was like 'yeah! That's what i'll do.' And it suggested a move to aid the situation. It wasn't on a forum, I think it might have been on ask.com. Whoever it was, if you are here, thank you!!

Sasha, welcome. It sounds like your parents have sort of accepted that you are mentally out.