Posts by FayeDunaway

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I'm 16 and I might be pregnant In a JW household

by NYsweet16 in

okay, i don't even know where to start.

i'm 16, i live in a strict jw household and i know if i am pregnant (which is a big possibility) ..i know i'm doomed to a life of misery.

not because of my baby but because of my family and the isolation and judgement from the congregation.

FayeDunaway

You are how many days late? You wrote your post 11 days ago....

im very glad your boyfriend is supportive! Did you move out of your parents house, by moving down south? Yes definitely keep us updated!!

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" See ourselfs as others see us"

by The Rebel in

jw
friends

the membership rule is simple, you join the organisation for life and undertake to serve for life.. my o.p is based on the poet robert burns who talked about the gift to " see ourselfs as others see us".

i think maybe the hardest thing for me to leave, the jehovers witness " organisation" was to accept how my family and friends will now "see" me.. so my questions are how difficult was it to leave:-.

a) knowing the reaction of friends and family?.

FayeDunaway

For a religion SO based on appearances and everyone constantly looking over their shoulder to watch their own back and to see who might be judging them at any moment....and being raised that way, yes, it's difficult to think about how old friends see us, and imagine they are probably shaking their heads. I know their perceptions are distorted but it does still bother me sometimes. I always tried to make everyone happy.

I wonder if they maybe remember the considerate things I did, or maybe they just remember the stupid things I occasionally said. I'm removed from them physically, which helps me forget about them and move on. My family tho, I don't see them much anymore and that hurts quite a lot. I know I'm the child that hurt her parents, my brother is the one they adore now, his kids get their grandparents attention.

But shoot of COURSE it was worth it.

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Heading to the Spain and the Holy Land

by CalebInFloroda in

as part of my journey as a sepahrdic jew, i am off on a journey that will take me to both spain and israel to apply for the right of return offered to me by both nations.. as such i will be absent from this delightful forum during this life-changing odyssey.

till that time we are together again, be assured you are in my thoughts and (for those of you who do not mind) my prayers.. please know you have contributed to me greatly and have helped me much, all of you.

it is rewarding to freely share, discuss, even debate issues here so freely.

FayeDunaway

That is fantastic, Caleb. I wish you a most fulfilling and also safe journey.

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Jehovah's people are the happiest people on earth!

by Coded Logic in

so this afternoon my roommate and i decided to go grab some dinner from the local chipotle and, as we live only a short distance from the franchise, we decided it was a good idea to walk.

little did i know that the j-dubs district convention here in sacramento was just getting out (the auditorium is literally smack in the middle of downtown and its attendees have to park in garages scattered a couple blocks away in every direction) so men in cheap suits and women in unflattering dress' were walking all over the place as though someone had antagonized their ungodly ant hill.

and, for sacramento, this of course is the complete opposite of the normative - that is to say, our streets are usually filled with well dressed, immaculately groomed, 'i know exactly where i'm going' government officials that monopolize the state capitol m-f. .

FayeDunaway

The only time I was happy in the org was when I was socializing with the few and far between other witnesses who had their own thoughts and weren't afraid to have them. All the other times were like being wrapped in plastic, unable to breathe.

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The local hall just got fleeced for $15,000!

by My Name is of No Consequence in

the local hall recently sold some property to the state for a road improvement project that is sorely needed.

they received about $20,000.

guess what?

FayeDunaway

Pretty soon the Borg will be after them for the other $5,000.

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Why Me?

by John Aquila in

do you ever wonder why out of all the witnesses, you are the one that woke up?

i wonder many times why me.

i know many men and women that are much, much better persons than me; either they are much smarter, more humble, kinder, more successful, or just better persons all around.

FayeDunaway

John thanks for turning me back a few pages to Magnum's post. Earlier it was too long and I didn't have time, but after your comment went back and read it now. Such good thoughts there.

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Why Me?

by John Aquila in

do you ever wonder why out of all the witnesses, you are the one that woke up?

i wonder many times why me.

i know many men and women that are much, much better persons than me; either they are much smarter, more humble, kinder, more successful, or just better persons all around.

FayeDunaway

I would venture to guess that most of us here who have woken up have a certain ingrained characteristic about us. Curiousity. We wonder about things. We don't simply swallow down everything we're told, we ask questions. We perhaps have always asked questions. Our 'Why?' stage when we were three years old was more prolonged than most.

some of us are still in that stage: 'Why me?'

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Meetings Are Really Getting Fun

by OneFingerSalute in

so last night i got to have some more fun at the meeting.. the serve us indoctrination session was thirty minutes of interrogation and answers about the "these words must be on your heart" video.. question three was, "what scriptural formula leads to the best chance of success in raising children?

" then before any answers the conductor had deut.

6:6,7 read.

FayeDunaway

OFS I just re-read my post and it sounds a lot different than I meant it, I wasn't criticizing you at all, I just meant if I was still a witness in your hall I would be so confused by you!!

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Meetings Are Really Getting Fun

by OneFingerSalute in

so last night i got to have some more fun at the meeting.. the serve us indoctrination session was thirty minutes of interrogation and answers about the "these words must be on your heart" video.. question three was, "what scriptural formula leads to the best chance of success in raising children?

" then before any answers the conductor had deut.

6:6,7 read.

FayeDunaway

If I was in your hall I would totally avoid you, your comments are scary, and everything I ever tried to avoid about being a witness. I was constantly looking for reasonable types to hang out with.

i hope you aren't 'encouraging' people to be even more extreme than they are!! I wonder if anyone stops and thinks, 'OFS doesn't ACT too zealous, the way he lives, but he sure gives strong comments!'

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Are There Good People Out There?

by LaurenM in

even though i'm no longer mentally a jw (i still technically am) i do recognize that there are some benefits to being raised one.

for example, the first (and only so far) wordly guy i was involved with had to smoke weed every day and got drunk all the time and that was his idea of fun.

i couldn't help but feel bad for him.

FayeDunaway

Yes Lauren, a resounding yes that there are wonderful people out there. Like I said in another thread, a couple from my church has adopted my kids as their grandchildren. We're going over to their house this weekend for football and pizza, and they're going to teach my little son all about football because he wants to learn. They needed grandparents, my parents unfortunately don't see them, they don't seem to care about my children since I left their religion.

You found a real doozy of a guy, superficial and dependent on drugs for a good time. Not that all drugs are necessarily bad, but dependency on them is dangerous and desperate. You can do a lot better, I promise.