FayeDunaway

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  So Today Was My Wife's First Ever Birthday Party

  by dubstepped in

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  she turned one today, and 36 earlier this week.

  we planned a big party, big for two people that have never thrown a party before.

  we rented a church fellowship hall because 1. it was nice and big and affordable and 2. it was kind of awesome to throw a party in a place we would have never ventured in our previous life.

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  FayeDunaway

  Sorry, I have to tell you about my first birthday 'out'. It was miserable! My husband left the religion with me but didn't grasp the birthdays holidays thing yet. So I cried in the bedroom. My little daughter came in and saw me crying and went out and came back later with a birthday card. It made my day.

  The next year I threw myself a party! Invited some ex witness old friends I had reconnected with. Had a full on cake with candles ....even a pinata :).

  That year was a crazy year. Everybody needed a big first birthday party!! It was catch up time. I was worn out. But it was fantastic.

  I'm so happy for your wife and I hope she throws one for you too!
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  What would you like to have known about JWs before deciding whether to get baptised?

  by slimboyfat in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  if you could go back in time and tell yourself one thing about jws would you do it?

  and what would you choose to say to yourself?

  do you think you could have convinced yourself not to get baptised if you chose the right thing to say?

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  FayeDunaway

  "look, i know you feel obligated to go through with this to make your parents happy and to be a good girl. But you know in your deepest heart of hearts that this is a cult, even tho you have tried to make this work for you and convince yourself you agree with it, you know it's not really for you and it's not really true. If you go ahead and get baptized, you will eventually be separating yourself more from your parents than if you don't get baptized. I know it feels bad and rebellious not to, but it will actually hurt your relationship with them later, after you decide you really can't live with a few old men in new york telling you how to live your life. You will eventually read the Bible on your own, realize the witnesses have rejected Christ, and have to leave. If you get baptized all of this is more complicated!! Don't do it."
  
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  What would you like to have known about JWs before deciding whether to get baptised?

  by slimboyfat in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  if you could go back in time and tell yourself one thing about jws would you do it?

  and what would you choose to say to yourself?

  do you think you could have convinced yourself not to get baptised if you chose the right thing to say?

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  FayeDunaway

  Gah! Double post
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  Fundamentalism Vs Radicalism

  by freemindfade in

  1. social
  2. current

  i had a thought this morning and i am putting it out for discussion.. when a christian is a nutjob we call them fundamentalist but a nutjob muslim is "radical".. doesn't one detach the person from the religion while one puts them square at the root?

  shouldn't we call radical muslim terrorists "fundamentalist"?

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  FayeDunaway

  Radical | Define Radical at Dictionary.com

  www.dictionary.com › browse › radical

  thoroughgoing or extreme, especially as regards change from accepted or traditional forms: a radical change in the policy of a company. 3. favoring drastic political, economic, or social reforms: radical ideas; radical and anarchistic ideologues.
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  Fundamentalism Vs Radicalism

  by freemindfade in

  1. social
  2. current

  i had a thought this morning and i am putting it out for discussion.. when a christian is a nutjob we call them fundamentalist but a nutjob muslim is "radical".. doesn't one detach the person from the religion while one puts them square at the root?

  shouldn't we call radical muslim terrorists "fundamentalist"?

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  FayeDunaway

  I haven't personally read the Koran, tho I've heard that most of the scriptures encourage peace, and there are a few that encourage killing.

  My witness family often referred to themselves as fundamentalists and said it with pride. The only area we weren't fundamentalist was the literal days of creation thing, saying each creative day could have been thousands of years. It's an insignificant difference compared to all the other ways they are fundamentalist. What makes them radical is saying they are the only religion approved by God (not every Christian religion, only theirs), all others will be destroyed, letting people die without blood, not celebrating holidays, disfellowshipping, college aversion etc. Yes, I think Jehovah's witnesses are both fundamentalist and radical. Good thing the Bible doesn't say to actively kill those who don't believe, or Jehovah's witnesses would be doing it (not just looking forward to that day.).
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  Sixty People Murdered in Nice Terror Attack

  by cofty in

  1. social
  2. current

  crowds celebrating bastille day in nice, france have been targeted by a terrorist driving a truck.. initial reports of 60 dead and 100 injured.. i am losing track of how many similar attacks there have been in europe in recently..

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  FayeDunaway

  I can't imagine what must go through a terrorists head. Their brains must really be clouded by their ideologies to not see the faces of the people they are about to kill...the children, the elderly, the pregnant women...they must be so blinded by their strange thoughts, that they can't see what they are doing, they have lost their humanity because of their training. They must be brainwashed.

  How sad for France and for the world. This seems like the worst one yet for Europe. I curse the people who are enjoying this, for whatever reason. Whether they are also religious extremists or Zionists hoping for retaliation or whatever. I don't really believe in hell but if you idiots think you will be greeted by virgins, I hope it is actually pigs shitting on you.
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  Won't get fooled again .....

  by The Rebel in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  having left the witnesses i hope i won't get " fooled again".

  yet life outside the organisation seems one big advertistiment telling me how useless i am.

  these advertisements tell me i am physically ugly, which can only be corrected by buying the advertisers " answer to my prayers" product.

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  FayeDunaway

  I once heard a black male speaker (not a witness) say to a group of inner city teenagers regarding name brand tennis shoes and the sports stars who make a lot of money advertising them:

  'You've got to really see who the players are, and who's getting PLAYED."

  It made a lasting impression on me. These corporations trying so hard to show us we are not enough, we need their product to be happy, loved and successful, a better sports player, more respected. They're playing us. Don't let them have control over you. Be stronger than that. They only care about their bottom line. The watchtower is just like them and a corporation too.
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  LifesNotOver - Part Four

  by LifesNotOver in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so ... i don't know if any of this is even of interest any more, i know i'm getting kinda bored with it :) so many other more interesting stories out there.

  anyway, limped my way through 17 years being a jw until now.

  not a good jw mind you.

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  FayeDunaway

  Best wishes for survival when he is home all the time! Hopefully he finds another job SOON! Meanwhile utilize the library to come talk to us sometimes.

  My husband used to yell a lot when we were witnesses, now he is much calmer and happier. He felt a lot of pressure back then. But I feel like in your case and what he has said to you, there is definitely a lack of love and respect. Glad you've contacted counseling services, and start saving and socking sway some money in case you decide you've had enough.
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  LifesNotOver - Part Four

  by LifesNotOver in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so ... i don't know if any of this is even of interest any more, i know i'm getting kinda bored with it :) so many other more interesting stories out there.

  anyway, limped my way through 17 years being a jw until now.

  not a good jw mind you.

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  FayeDunaway

  I'm so sorry you're going through this. Life truly isn't over! Don't give up, you will find a way with time.
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  Kids continue to leave in droves - so what is the organization's grand plan? This

  by sir82 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  jws have one of the worst, if not the worst, retention rates among their kids.

  i've seen numbers from 65% to 88% who leave, never to return.. you'd think this would be a priority amongst the leadership, right?

  where do tomorrow's leaders come from, if the vast majority of kids leave the organization?

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  FayeDunaway

  Yes I totally agree with you, toes. The whole Caleb and Sophia thing might work on little kids, but when the preteen years hit this happens: exposure by media and in school to loveable gay people. Homophobia is the new racism. It's embarrassing and backwards and wrong. My raised witness (but left with me) kids are extremely ethically sensitive to this subject, even tho they are straight. I can't imagine what youths think who are sitting in the halls, listening to the vitriol towards gays that we heard when we were in.