As a male victim/survivor of domestic abuse , when I meet with the elders was told to be more assertive in my marriage they wanted to study with us,even though she had meet with them before I did and admitted to them the things she did they did not view it as domestic abuse and they refused to look at approved domestic abuse website NHS, police etc, and said I was lying .
It took me years to leave because had dependant children, but had been in contact with agency's for many and been advised to leave many times.
The tactics domestic abusers use is basically the same as the witnesses use to control and manipulate people.
Many people male& female are trapped in toxic relationships if you know anyone be kind and listen and encourage them to leave at their own time unless in imminent danger of physical harm.