Thanks for your kindness and advice, I understand it will take time to heal.
A family member who I shunned because they didn't marry in the lord and then celebrated Christmas when they had a family was there because of nessary family business, we were having a chat about things and I took the opportunity to apologize for how I treated them for over 20 year's expecting them to tell me to f##k off , but they accepted my apologies and hopefully we can move forward I know it will take time.
Thanks again and take care