thank you one and all for the nice welcome after i posted yesterday.. i already feel like one of you.
i am so sorry as i have read some of the other posts of so many people who have been hurt in deep ways by the brothers, and although i can understand that a little, i can't understand why more effort isn't made to try to correct the situtation.
i could never undersatand why people were so concerned about going from house to house to visit someone who really doesn't want you there in the first place, and then neglect some brother or sister who whould really appreciate a friendly visit.
Another bit of good advice: Don't appear so needy for love.. because others sense that and they back away. Needy people tend to be possessive and controlling in relationships, and women HATE that. When you work on yourself, and learn to feel good about who you are, and aren't so needy, then love will find it's way to YOU.
RCat
well guys sorry i haven't participated much lately, i've been really busy.
but, i do have a question that i would really appreciate all of your input on.. it is no secret that young people are leaving jws faster and faster.
it is no secret that most jws are disappointed, and hurt by lack of prophecy fulfillment.. so here's what i was thinking: i'm going to post some very personal thoughts on what *i* think they need to do in order to stop the loss of almost 50,000 disfellowshipped and probably 4x that to inactivity.
Let's look at this realistically. Changing their practices and beliefs changes the ORGANIZATION and what it stands for. As Simon is saying, the entire foundation of this religion is on shifting sand, and you know what the Bible says about that. "A house built on sand will not stand."
There is no sense changing a few rules to make it better, when it's very base is of bad materials! BTW, I would NEVER GO BACK.
RCat
this is my first time on this board.
i have been a jw for over 40 years but currently am very discouraged and not very active.
i served at bethel for 4 years, 1963-67, spent most of my time at the kindom farms, s.lansing, ny.
I served as an elder and P.O. for many years. I had speaking and work assignments on the circuit and district level. I invited often by other congregations to give public discourses and I had many, many friends. Once I stopped going out in service and my meeting attendance became less than exeplarary you would think that I have the plague. There is even a rumor going around the circuit now that I am df'd.The C.O. visited our congregation this week and not a word. You would think that he would at least be interested in knowing why I am now inactive. Not a word. He and one of the elders called on another brother who stopped going to meetings even before I did but they never came to talk to me. Not a word. And as for the 'friends' that I served so long? Not a word.
Frenchy,
Believe me, they KNOW why you left.. they just aren't ready to face the truth for themselves! That's why they don't speak with you. You can bet that deep down, they KNOW. Hugs to you!
And to our newest member of the forum, Welcome! You will find warmth and acceptance here.
RCat
Edited by - Roamingfeline on 18 January 2001 19:59:27
hello my name is gene, i have been disfellowshiped for two weeks.why is it so wrong for brothers and sisters not to talk to me?
?im not apostate,ive never disrupted the congergation.my brothers an elder and i dont want to tell him or my family.. whats the big big deal???????????
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Hi Gene,
Can you give us a bit more rounded info? If you're a JW, you know the rules. DF'd person's are not spoken to or greeted until reinstated. BTW, welcome to the forum, Gene.
RCat
look!!
over 10,000 posts.. great place to meet and exchange ideas.
thanks for a job well done.. seven
Good job, Simon! You've obviously got a viable forum that WORKS! Very cohesive group, and supportive too! Now, if I can just find time to be around more often!
RCat
hi there, i am a mother of three, and am baptised, i would love to make new friend from where ever in the world.
i like to go out with my huband and children on days out, among many other things.
RHW,
Your daughter reminds me of myself at her age, lol! I never did smoke, use drugs, or drink much.. but I sure could sneak out and stay out until all hours! Freedom called.. lol. My own daughters were so close in age, they would aid and abet one another in teenage shenanigans. Those years were NOT fun! Especially as I was a single mom trying to cope with it all, lol.
RCat
hey, nice to see you again, kismet!!!
where ya been?
i do agree that the other thread was getting a bit long, and totally lost it's original purpose!
Welcome, Wayne. Glad to have you here. I'm certain with time you will have many friends, both online and off. Thanks for telling your story.
RCat
hey, nice to see you again, kismet!!!
where ya been?
i do agree that the other thread was getting a bit long, and totally lost it's original purpose!
Hey Kismet,
Glad things are going so well for you! Happy New Year to you also!!!!!!
Big hugs,
RCat
hey, nice to see you again, kismet!!!
where ya been?
i do agree that the other thread was getting a bit long, and totally lost it's original purpose!
It's Christmas season followed by New Year, same as yours.
RCat
just a thought.... in most of the publications that have pictures of people in the new order / new system / paradise earth - why do they have clothes on?
not only that, but they usually wear their national costumes !.
i guess the practical reason is that if everyone was naked then the watchtower would be classed as soft-porn and could only be sold from top shelves.... anyone have any thoughts on this?
Sing along with me larc: " I want a mansion... just over the hilltop.. in that bright land where we'll never grow old... and someday yonder, we will never more wander.. but walk on streets that.. are purest gold! Oh, Gag, pardon me while I go get sick...
RCat
Edited by - Roamingfeline on 27 December 2000 21:24:26
