Posts by rodnico

I don’t post very often to this board. Today I guess I am just frustrated and need some support. While growing up as a witness there was a family around the corner that my mother and I were very close to. They had 2 daughters, and I used to baby-sit for them frequently. My mother told me that both girls had been disfellowshipped they were very young at the time 15 & 17. The younger one came back right away but the older girl left home and moved in with a loser cousin. This was about 3 years ago, after a lot of fretting and research I finally was able to get into contact with the older girl.

At that time I told her she always had a place to stay here in Atlanta, and as long as she went to college (she has so much potential) she could live with me. Then I heard word that she was going to meetings again. And she was re-instated…ARGH. My mother told me again that she was disfellowshipped a second time. So again after a couple months of looking for her I found her email address.

I think I must have been a little too much to handle, my apostate anti-JW self. After a few emails again I extended her the offer to come and stay with me, and go to school. I haven’t heard from her since. It has been about 2 weeks now. So I have been sending web information to her, (she has not responded to any emails) because I fear that she still thinks it is the truth like I did at one point. I am at a complete loss as to what to do now. She has so much potential, and I feel so helpless.

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Our American Flag

by Vienna in

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doesn't it feel good to not be a jw at this point in history?

through the fear of the last few days, i do have comfort from scripture about my eternal salvation through jesus (as a witness you never felt secure with god--don't miss a meeting or field service for long or you're out), but also because my husband and i can display our american flag on our cars and in front of our house to support our country!.

as americans, we will not stand for terrorism and i'm proud to be in this country.

rodnico

I am so happy I am not a witness at this point in history. To be able to express myself anyway I want or the way I feel, without the fear that I have been "patriotic" in my comments. I wear a flag T-shirt (which I bought when I left the org.) and participate in the moments of silence. The flag represents what we are. It represents our pride. The physical representation of what we were denied to feel for so many years. I am patriotic, I love this country, and I will fight for my freedom. The JW rhetoric is true a flag will not bring people back from the dead or right the wrongs, but our flag, my flag stirs in me the pride to make a difference. It is this feeling of pride in country that WILL change world events. I will be there to wave my flag, and see the world events change for the better.

Nicole

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Bethelite crushes or should i say disasters?

by jazz in

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growing up in the truth i have witnessed this situation time and time again a family particularly the daughter in the family becomes attached to a bethelite from middle american you know those corn fed farmboy line backer types they attach themselves to a certain family sharing meals at the home of the family,going on outings with the family.but the bethelite takes it in my opinion a step to far when he shows the starry eyed daughter affection by buying her flowers when she makes all her pioneer hours,taking her out to dinner when she gets a g on the ministry school,having lunch every weekend after field service takes her to his hometown to visit his family and friends of course the sister feels extra special but then the bethelite hits her with a ton of bricks when he asks if his fiance can stay at her home when she comes to visit from kansas this happened to a sister in my congregation she was so devastated she went out with a guy that had been asking her out from the job,got pregnant ,disfellow, and has not been back since.

people can usually tell if someone has feelings for you.

so wouldnt you be cautious of your actions so you wouldnt hurt anyones feelings or making them think there is more there than friendship?

rodnico

The exact opposite happened to my friend. We lived in Corn fed white boy central. Utah. Although we were in the Spanish circuit. My friend had been dating this brother for a few months and then he went to bethel. They continued to date, having a long distance courtship. She would send him money, and gave him her phone card. When she went to visit him he introduced her to all of his friends and congregation as "the future mother of his children". After about a year he calls her on the phone and tells her he has fallen in love with an exotic south american girl...she was just Mexican nothing exotic about that. He called her from the new girlfriends house who lived in Spanish Harlem using my friends calling card to break up with her. It took her a long time to get over this. My friend married someone much better though...even though they are still witnesses.
Nicole

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Oppression of Women

by MrMoe in

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this is a bit lengthy, but is a very big issue with me, and that is the issue of women's rights.

i do agree with women allowing their husbands to make a final decision, being on how women think with their hearts and men think with their heads, making choices often times more logical ones.

but, the husband according to god is supposed to love his wife as his own flesh.

rodnico

In all the relationships I have ever been in with a man I have always been the "logical" one and the men are always the "emotional" ones. And I have always made more money. I completely disagree with you that in most homes men control all of the finances and such things. When one person in a relationship dominates finances, raising of children or whatever it sets the other mate up for a fall.

Getting off of Moe's neurosis and on to mine. I have had a problem in the past of expecting my partner to be the head/man of the house. I have worked really hard to wipe out the white knight syndrome from my brain, but it has been hard. Maybe this is what you are experiencing. Part of my JW conditioned brain said "men take care of women" "men are head of the house" and my feminist side of the brain said "I have to take care of myself" "I am the head of my own house". And to be honest I still struggle with this like Moe does.

Nicole

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get a life -- 10 facts

by joelbear in

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i thought it would be interesting for people to just post a few things about themselves so we can get to know each other just a bit.. try posting 10 facts about your life.. joel.

1. i was born and raised in south georgia.. 2. my favorite subject in school was math.. 3. i was in the fulltime service (bethel and pioneer) for 4 years.. 4. my favorite color is blue.. 5. mitch and i have been together over 12 years.. 6. we live in a suburb of atlanta georgia.. 7. we love to eat out and have friends over for dinner and board games.. 8. the only sport i was ever any good at is tennis.. 9. my favorite tv show of all time is the simpsons.. 10. we are both naturists and wish we could lay on the beach naked every day.

rodnico

1 - I am an only child
2 - I will be 30 in 8 days
3 - I collect toy cockroaches
4 - I live in a loft in downtown Atlanta
5 - Every time I have a party or someone has a party in my building someone jumps on the train that runs behind the warehouse I live in.
6 - I am trying to write my first novel
7 - My favorite authors are Chuck Palahnuik, Herbert Shelby, Bronte sisters, and Jane Austin
8 - My pussy's name is Chutney he is an American shorthair brown tabby
9 - I am in a committed relationship with a guy named Karl
10 - I am obsessed with sex

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Honey, I'm HOOOOOMMMMEEE!!!!!

by LDH in

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hi guys and gals.. not that you missed me, but we took an impromptu vacation to las vegas for a week.. my husband started a new job today and wanted to spend time with our daughter since she's been in ny over the summer.. it was all fun and games till the transmission on his '97 died in barstow, which is 4 hours from everything ha ha ha.. anyhow, we made it home fri night courtesy of a great big tow truck (thank god for triple a).. eden started 7th grade today, all grown up.

<<<sniff sniff>>> .

i didn't even get to drop her off at school because hubby has my car.

rodnico

Lisa-
I just sent you an email. I was worried about you! Glad your OK and back.
Talk to ya soon!
Nicole

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How do you find exJW groups in your area?

by Eyebrow in

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i was wondering if anyone could tell me how to find out if there are any groups in my area.

where would i begin to look?.

i am a little bit nervous, because i don't want to get involved with people who are looking only to berate the witnesses...but people who are getting on with there lives after leaving.

rodnico

This is kind of off the topic, but on the same one. If anyone knows where to find counselors/therapy/exit counseling. Is there a network of some kind?
Nicole

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Holidays: Do you celebrate?

by Vitameatavegamin in

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i smell something burning; oh, just me thinking again!!.

anyway, one thing i always missed were the holidays-christmas especially.

i know that this is an unproven celebration to say the least, but i have always loved the warmth and beauty of this holiday, although very commercialized in this day and age.

rodnico

I guess I am the odd one out. I don't mind holidays or birthdays, but they don't really mean anything to me. I have a take it or leave it attitude. It gets me in trouble because I always forget my friends birthdays. Maybe this will change if I have a family?

I do have a favorite holiday; Valentines Day! I like that day. The only reason I can figure is because when I was in school that was the only day my mother did not take me out. So I would watch as the kids gave each other cards/gifts/candy. And Halloween like bboyneko. Halloween is fun.

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the internet, does it really matter??

by astra in

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hi, i have been following some of the discussions about the internet and jw.

some people think that it seems to make a big difference, that it will seriously reduce wts ranks because people get access to all sorts of information and because they can get in contact with people who maybe have the same doubts and thoughts as themselves.. but how big a difference do you think that the net is making?

how many people do you think have withdrawns from jw because of infomation or contact achieved over the net?.

rodnico

My own personal experience. I had left the organization because of the JW men that I dated. I had no doubt that it was the truth, and I figured that when I found a mate I would eventually return.

And then I did a search on the Internet. It was not the expose that affected me, it was the personal experiences that I read of people hurt so badly by the WTBTS. And then the false reasonings, teachings, and quotes really got to me. Without the Internet, and the resarch of others who knows what I might have done later on in my life.
Nicole