the PO is on the committee!!!! I guess my time is up, and I have just been pushed off the fence. But as my wise brother said to me, its time to move on and start living now!
Chok,
When the elders have a one of their "after the meeting" get togethers, the PO will inform the other elders that "it has been reported that so & so has....", he'll then "assign" two elders to investigate the matter or he'll state that they need to form a JC. Wheather or not he's on the JC, he's the one to call if you want to "buck the system."
You can call him and mention that you were never contacted, etc...etc. His neck is on the line if it ends up that you are being df'd w/o following procedure should you decide to call the CO or the Society. If you decide to make fight it, it really comes down to how much of a hassle will it all end up being for the elders and if they have the balls to for it.
In my particular case, I had stepped down as an elder (after having a crisis of conscience) and stopped going to the meetings. A year later I was called before a JC because I had joined the YMCA (my JW wife tattled on me). Anyway, I didn't want to be a JW but I wanted to have a little fun with the local elders. To maked a long story short, I enjoyed making the local PO look like a fool in front of the appeals committee. In hindsight, it was childish behavior but at the time, I enjoyed it.
Well, good luck with whatever you decide to do. Something to remember though. A short time from now, you'll look back and see that all of this disfellowshipping business was such a minor part of your life, you'll wonder what the big deal was.
roybatty