butterfly,
Many many years ago, when I was an apprentice engineer we had one day off to go to collage.
One day when the teacher was writing on the blackboard, the boys through chalk etc at him, he turned round and accused me of doing it.
He marched me down to the head teacher who gave me an ultimatum own up and apologise, or be expelled, as I was innocent of this I refused to do so (I was expelled).
My wife and I were also innocent when we asked for answers about U.N. etc. had we apologised for seeking these and many more questions we would not have been dissfellowshipped.
We had certain principles when we joined the Org. (family ridicule) so why should we abandon those because of pressure from men (elders).
Jehovah loves you as an individual not as someone who jumps when told to do so !
KT PS when I was apprentic, because I didnt go to collage, I asked for money for working that day (and got it)