Because she has broken my trust by witnessing to my kids behind my back, I need to be carefull not to give her additonal opportunities to do that. Oh yeah, my kids are 12 and 7.
Kist,
What I did with my mom, after getting over being really pi$$ed off because she didn't submit to my will (typical JW mindset...lol), was I compromised. My kids quit sleeping over and she came over to my house or I went to hers once or twice a week just so the kids could see her and spend time with her. This, of course, was supervised (couldn't let her sneak in any of those demonic videos...lol). Or I would meet her at the park and go for lunch with her. The kids enjoyed that.
I am so thankful that I got my head out of the box. I have an even stronger relationship with my mom. I think she sees me as like the prodigal daughter, now...lol. If you are prayer then pray for your mom and study, study, study her religion...and yours. But I would try to avoid talking about it...but if your mom is like the average dub, she won't be able to contain it. She will have to talk about it. Know your stuff and how to make her think about what she says to you. Is your mom aware of WTS history? Just curious. A lot of "newbies" are not. The only reason I found out anything about them was because I'm on the internet...and I looked for stuff.
I wish you the best. It is a toughie...but I wouldn't break my kids off from seeing her entirely. She could turn that against you later on ("oh, I wanted to see you kids but your mom wouldn't let me"...that kind of thing). Good luck to you. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to email me.
sadie