Posts by Xanthippe

Doesn't matter if they were just kingdom songs, if true, JWs using social media in their thousands to organize themselves to defy the Borg just for fun is epic.

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Family drama... a personal share.

by Princess Daisy Boo in

hi guys.

i was an active member of this forum many years ago and it played an integral part of my awakening and making peace with my decision to leave.

it’s been a while since i posted here.

I'm glad your dad's alright, that's all that matters. That religon can go to hell, you have your father with you. Most of them are in a hell of their own making, your sister is psychologically a mess. Who turns their own father in to cultists for staying alive!

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Everyone in a Cult, Doesn't Know They Are in a Cult

by The Bethelite in

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that's the one thing they all have in common.

because as soon as you are aware that you are in one, you would of course leave it,.

so millions of people all over the world are in them and but of course are ignorant of this fact.. i was asked many times over the years in field service, the question.

Xanthippe

To me a cult means having total control over people's lives. This has evolved gradually. We had Russell predicting dates that didn't bring Armageddon. I agree he didn't mean to start a cult but other leaders followed him and the end didn't come so they demanded total obedience, unquestioning loyalty in the face of failed prophecies.

The GB seem to think any loosening of the bonds of obedience to doctrine and lifestyle rules would mean the religon would collapse. Also rewriting the history of the Borg and getting rid of old literature so they're living in a time warp.

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Quick Story

by APieceOfShitNamedTate in

so one night i'm at a meeting.

it's the beginning of the meeting and a brother is up on stage introducing the parts for the night.

he's going through the parts and then he says, "...and apieceofshitnamedtate will be handling our bible highlights.".

Xanthippe

I used to sweat over those talks. Now I realise it's becasue I was trying to get that scripture outline they insisted I use to make sense!

Remember those four 'seven times' scriptures? I think you had to start in Daniel with Nebuchadnezzar going bonkers then you had to count days as years with another scripture and somehow arrive at 1914 with Jesus on a shining throne! Voila!

Trying to make sense of the Bible and WTS teachings for someone with a logical mind is enough to give anyone stage fright.

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Those that need to see a Therapist / and those that don`t is there a correlation of the two ?

by smiddy3 in

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there have been a number of threads / posts here over the years about ex jw`s needing to see therapists for what they are going through , and i can appreciate that.. obviously there are many ex jw`s on here that haven`t ever felt the need to see a therapist ,and i`m just wondering why not ?.

why does one feel the need and another does not ?.

is it to do with born ins as against those who were converts ?

Xanthippe

I would say most would do better to see a therapist even if they don't know it.

I agree, there's so many walking wounded ex-JWs who pretend they're fine. My inlaws mentioned earlier tried to act as if the 55 years they spent in the cult never existed. They even made themselves believe it up to a point.

At one of my daughter's birthday parties they said it's a shame we didn't have parties like this when our children were small, I'm not sure why. Perhaps it wasn't done so much then. I said it was because you were JWs remember? They looked at me bemused and said vaguely, 'oh yes, forgot about that'!

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2 Gallons of Coffee

by Solzhenitsyn in

that is how much coffee me and another elder went through as we camped out all night until 7 a.m. outside the home where suspected jw fornicators we're staying.

little did i know what a powerful contrast that would prove to be when as an elder i was faced with another case involving the allegation of severe child sexual abuse.

we disfellowshipped the couple based completely on circumstantial evidence of sexual wrongdoing because they simply "stayed the entire night".

Xanthippe

When I began to doubt the 'truth' I did something totally out of character, I looked for my husband's elders book while he was out. When I found it this was the page that astounded me, elders being told to camp outside a person's house all night if they suspected someone of adultery or fornication.

Talk about spiritual policemen! This was another nail in the coffin of that religion for me. No proof of wrongdoing just people staying in the same house, but the lengths they insisted elders go to, to get people disfellowshipped. All done out of love of course!

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Those that need to see a Therapist / and those that don`t is there a correlation of the two ?

by smiddy3 in

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friends

there have been a number of threads / posts here over the years about ex jw`s needing to see therapists for what they are going through , and i can appreciate that.. obviously there are many ex jw`s on here that haven`t ever felt the need to see a therapist ,and i`m just wondering why not ?.

why does one feel the need and another does not ?.

is it to do with born ins as against those who were converts ?

Xanthippe

nope--never needed that sort of help. but then I never believed in god
and all that crap anyway.
Stan that's actually very helpful because I've always suspected many JWs don't believe in God. If you really don't have any faith to be torn apart by discovering you've been raised in a cult then why would you need help?

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Those that need to see a Therapist / and those that don`t is there a correlation of the two ?

by smiddy3 in

jw
friends

there have been a number of threads / posts here over the years about ex jw`s needing to see therapists for what they are going through , and i can appreciate that.. obviously there are many ex jw`s on here that haven`t ever felt the need to see a therapist ,and i`m just wondering why not ?.

why does one feel the need and another does not ?.

is it to do with born ins as against those who were converts ?

Xanthippe

A lot of older people like yourself don't want to see a therapist smiddy. Stiff upper lip and all that. I've spoken to three counsellors since leaving the cult because it's not good to bottle things up and I needed someone neutral to talk to, simple as that.

When my husband died my parents in law refused therapy. They just carried on the way they always have, her with her OCD, cleaning, cleaning, cleaning. Him with his depression alternating with narcissism. Yeah, they were fine, they didn't need any silly talking therapy.

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Anybody been to the therapist to talk about the Jdub stuff? What did they think of it?

by nowawake14 in

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what was their view of jdub rules?.

what was their view on the dfing thing?.

did they get pissed and think it was a cult?.

Xanthippe

I've spoken to three counsellors but I was only lucky with one of them, her relatives were JWs. She said when they all visited her mother in law her children were made to play in a different room from the JW kids because they were considered bad associations! You have to keep looking if the counsellor doesn't have the right knowledge or experience.