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  Need advice. My inactive jw husband has been lured back.

  by ingimar in

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  perfect1

  OK, why whitewash it, unbelieving mate is just a euphemism for dead meat at Armageddon.
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  Happy Hogmanay Everybody

  by cofty in

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  best wishes for 2013. .

  here is a scene from last year's hogmanay celebrations in edinburgh... .

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  perfect1

  Speak English! American!
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  New year, new outlook

  by MsD in

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  hi guys, i'm new here.

  been a lurker for a long time.

  my back story is that i've been studying on and off with jw since 2003. i know it may seem strange but i guess is possible.

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  perfect1

  I am so happy for you that you saved yourself and your family a lot of heartache by not getting baptized! Congratulations on moving ahead with your life!
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  Need advice. My inactive jw husband has been lured back.

  by ingimar in

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  perfect1

  You need to toughen up and face this directly, do you really want to be married to someone you have treat like a spookable deer ? Fight for your husband, fight hard, and if you lose you have to move on.

  In this neck of the woods, it would be described as how to approach a deer. It is easily spooked, we know that. Put out a salt lick and sit quietly.

  I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS IS ADVICE!

  While I appreciate Hassans way of talking about the cult and natural personality, if it were that easy all of us shunned ones could just ask our families about their hobbies and be fine. Thats not what the JWs allow. They are intolerant.
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  Anyone with Happy Memories from being a JW born in, please post here....

  by SkyGreen in

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  first up, happy new year .

  hi everyone, ok i guess this is controversial, but im doing it as therapy for me - so im not bitter about the way i was raised.

  plus i want to see if i can be the op of an "epic thread"!!.

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  perfect1

  Sky Green:

  But in some areas, I do believe they get it right - common sense prevails, not that they necessarily think of stuff first. For instance, does anyone else recall the dangers of practical jokes being mentioned in the mags at some point? That kind of common sense couldve prevented some recent events in the UK regarding Aussie DJs from ever happening.

  Cognac: 6. Happy I didn't get an std or pregnant cause I was to scared to have sex.

  I know what you are after here Sky Green, and I will say most of my happy JW memories involve me feeling I was better than other people- other JWs or worldly people. Thats not really happiness, is it. I quote these two comments cause they stand out to me as remnants of JW brainwashing- that the orgs teachings can prevent tragedy in an immoral world. STDs and pregnancy, for example, are not that common if a person is responsible in having sex. But to be responsible you would have to 1) educate yourself and 2) be prepared with protection. As to linking the sucide of the UK nurse to the supposed common sense of a WT article, what are you suggesting, that if the nurse had a copy of the Mag she would be OK- that if Autralian DJS took the dangers of practical joking to heart they never would have called. The nurse had tried to kill herself before. It sounds to me like you are desperate to find the good in your experience, but youre still wearing the JW glasses, and seeing the world as a dangerous place, where the SOCIETIES ARMS protected you from harm. NAUSEATING
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  Random Thoughts on visiting China to understand Tibet.

  by fulltimestudent in

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  the cold war stills plays out on the international political scene in a few places.

  one of them is tibet.

  here is a summary list of some of the things i've learned, about which i shall post.. .

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  perfect1

  Dharamsala is a great place to visit to understand this topic.

  Tibetans have many deities, if the Dalai Lama doesnt like one, I dont see a problem with that.
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  So if you tell a JW they were raised in a cult...

  by NeverKnew in

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  yeah...it was wrong.

  i got upset and blurted this truth.

  seems kinda screwy that telling someone a truth could be wrong.

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  not to rub salt, but any updates, Never Knew
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  So if you tell a JW they were raised in a cult...

  by NeverKnew in

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  yeah...it was wrong.

  i got upset and blurted this truth.

  seems kinda screwy that telling someone a truth could be wrong.

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  perfect1

  OH, and nobody knows about me which yes, I'm insulted by...

  Dont put up with that. I saw your picture on another thread, You can do better!

  No matter what you look like, you deserve to be with someone who incorporates you into their life, shame free.
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  Need advice. My inactive jw husband has been lured back.

  by ingimar in

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  perfect1

  File for divorce.
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  So if you tell a JW they were raised in a cult...

  by NeverKnew in

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  yeah...it was wrong.

  i got upset and blurted this truth.

  seems kinda screwy that telling someone a truth could be wrong.

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  perfect1

  Hi Never Knew,

  Sorry to hear about this. I think you have made some assumptions here- but maybe look at it this way:

  You could ask your Boyfriend if there is anything the organization could do that would cause him doubts.

  The problem is, any faults or inconsistencies he attributes to IMPERFECT MEN and any good he attribute to being GODS ONLY CHOSEN PEOPLE.

  As long as you go poining out those inconsistencies he has a thought stopping cliche- acually several. You might trigger his awareness of his own indoctrinated mental process by asking him if there is any other possibility.

  It might be an interesting thought experiment to ask him if there is anything that would cause him to doubt. You might need to wait till the defenses drop. In the heat of the moment, its going to be so emotional for you both, and he will just be desperate to block your thinking.

  I think rather than say, IT IS A CULT (of course it is) you might have better luck with WHAT IF questions. What if this is not true.