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  JW marriages

  by Realist in

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  since jw are not allowed to live together and cannot have sexual relations before they get married are many jw marriages unhappy?

  i hear that they think jw marriages are much happier than normal marriages...can anyone verify that?.

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  I do think many jw marriages are phony, in the sense that either one or both are "in heat" and need to get married to avoid fornicating.

  I can recall at least four couples that got married right after high school or meeting each other because they wanted to have sex. I know because I was told by them. That's not to say all of the JW marriages are for that reason though. I just know it was common in our Hall and the surrounding halls. Oh, and I think...yeah, they're all divorced by now.

  I grew up in a household of two parents that I wished had separated or divorced years ago. Though I think many of the pressures on my dad as well as my mom from the organization are partially to blame for the tension between them.

  The claim which the WBTS puts out, that they're the happiest group of people on this earth is a load of crock. I won't even go into other areas of family, but marriages themselves rarely seemed to last in my congregation. If they did it was only "for the childrens' sake" or because divorce was highly frowned upon and sometimes cause for DF'ing. By the time I left people were getting divorced left and right so apparently either the cheating rate when up or the rules on divorce started to soften.

  I myself am very grateful I never married a JW, and in fact am not married now. I honestly believe that it is very difficult to learn and get to know the person you possibly may marry if you don't live with them. I have moved in with some exes in the past and boy am I glad I did. There isn't much a person can do to hide their bad habits and different traits when they're living with you.

  Anyhow, as much as I dislike JW's, it's not just them who have messed up marriages. Everywhere around the world they exist. What I think is inexcusable is when people let a religion rule their marriage and take away the individual thinking of each partner.

  Alicia

  Edited by - saltiest on 15 June 2002 1:50:36
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  I'm a Qualified Mixologist!

  by Windchaser in

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  i am the proud owner of a bartender's certificate stating that i am a qualified mixologist and americas bartenders, inc. also sent me a list of bars to be interviewed at (two of which are within a mile of me)!

  this is so cool.

  drinks are on the house!

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  BTW, if you can make me a Lynchburg Lemonade just the way I like em you'll have a best friend for life :) There's only one bar in Seattle that could make them well, and I haven't tried any places down here yet.

  Alicia
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  I'm a Qualified Mixologist!

  by Windchaser in

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  i am the proud owner of a bartender's certificate stating that i am a qualified mixologist and americas bartenders, inc. also sent me a list of bars to be interviewed at (two of which are within a mile of me)!

  this is so cool.

  drinks are on the house!

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  Congrats! I used to dream of being a bartender, longer before I even had a drink, lol. An amazing feat, Windchaser. I hope you have many tippers out there that tip like I did. :)

  Alicia
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  LDH:)(pics added)

  by Wendy in

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  you my dear are a genius!

  thank you so much for the help the other day.

  riley finally cut his first tooth yesterday!

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  Wendy,

  I have plenty of room for you to place pictures and/or pages of the little one.

  Just send me an email and I'll set up an FTP account for you.

  Alicia
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  SUICIDE IN KH PARKING LOT

  by Sabine in

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  last saturday, a former ministerial servant and pioneer committed suicide in the woodinville washington kingdom hall parking lot.

  he was disfellowshipped several years ago, and according to the old sister that related the story to me today, he was depressed because no one would talk to him.

  i don't know how i kept calm when she explained to me that "we couldn't talk to him...he was disfellowshipped.".

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  Sabine,

  I am from that area and knew many from the Woodinville congregation. Your email is private, so you could send me an email and let me know who this man was? My mom, still a JW, hasn't called me and will not talk to me when I call so I'm unable to find out.

  This is so apalling, and yet they (not all, thank goodness your mom doesn't, Mulan) shrug this away, as if one word "disfellowshipped" takes away a person's worth. I remember trying so hard to communicate to a disfellowshipped friend when I was a teen, yet I was counseled not to. But I knew it made a difference, for when I just smiled in her direction, her face lit up. They are so clueless. Not that I want more to go back to the borg, but if they only knew they should be doing the opposite, then fewer would leave them.

  Completely boggles my mind.

  Alicia
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  How about Home Schooling?

  by joannadandy in

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  ok first off this is the first time i have ever made up a topic.

  secondly, i was reading another thread about teen development and the borgs control over adolescents, and that got me to thinking.

  i dont know what anyone elses experiences were like in their congregations but 85% of the kids in my hall were home schooled their entire lives, or were taking correspondence courses instead of attending high school.

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  I remember in my congregation and actually many of the surrounding ones, dropping out of high school to get your GED was the BIG thing. I don't know how many times I was encouraged to drop out! I was known for skipping school, but sheesh, that was a bit absurd.. It helped that my parents didn't pressure me to be an A student and to enjoy the courses I was good at. Otherwise, I think I may have done the cop-out GED thing.

  It was scary, seeing 15 year old or younger dropping out of school, so they could Auxillary Pioneer. Oh, I shudder just thinking about it. In our area there was this one school that a sister worked at, some alternative school. She was one of the very few honest sisters, and I recall her quitting because she was overtaken by all the witness children at her school. I guess everyone needs a break from it all.

  Finally, I'm making it back to school this fall. My mom (still a JW) is always updating me on all those my age and who previously considered me their friend (of course, I have no interest in what they're doing now). Apparently going to community college is the IN thing now. Go figure. I leave and it becomes cool. Very irritating, but how things usually go with JW's, back and forth.

  Alicia
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  How many guys here wash the dishes?

  by ashitaka in

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  or do other chores?

  any here archaic and expect the woman to do all of the work?

  my mother taught me that women don't need our help, but we should give it anyway, to show our love.

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  A Cook that doesn't clean up is not appreciated as one that does the whole job. Only cooking is not the same as washing dishes therefore it doesn't count as a cleaning chore

  I'd have to disagree Imbue. At least in my situation. I hate cooking, and when my man cooks (every day) I appreciate it more than anything. We actually have the arrangement where if one cooks, the other cleans. And since he usually cooks, I end up putting the dishes in the dishwasher. Works for me. The kitchen turns into chaos if I attempt to cook.

  He has a pretty laborous job so I don't expect him to do much when he comes home regarding house work. After I give him a little time to relax then he's more than willing to help with our daughter. I discovered it is much easier to clean our place than try to get him to do it because even if he does help he doesn't do it the way I like it and I end up redoing it again.

  Alicia
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  Can't get away from them!

  by mrs rocky2 in

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  on my lunch break today i stopped in at a new little shop in our little town.

  was hoping to find some nifty little gift for my daughter who has a birthday coming up.

  mind you, i'm a fade away.

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  I don't know how many times when I was in Seattle that I would run into witnesses from my old congregation (or those around it). You couldn't go anywhere, especially Red Robin, without seeing one of them.

  I was hoping it would be easier down here in California, but apparently not. They are constantly walking around my apartment complex (it's huge, so probably don't do it all in one day), and as I posted before, they're even at the damn mall. We've seen them at Carl's Jr (praying at the table next to us, peaking out of their eyes to see if we were watching), at Walmart behind me in line, and at the grocery store. It's funny how just a clip of a conversation and I KNOW they're Jahosers (my boyfriend's favorite term for them).

  Turns out they have more than two congregations in this city...they have FOUR. No wonder they're everywhere! Scary thought.

  Alicia
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  nothing

  by Mulan in

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  marilyn (aka mulan).

  "no one can take advantage of you, without your permission.

  " ann landers.

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  Thank you Marilyn for sharing the link to Bill's store. I will definitely be buying some candles from him later this year for birthdays and the holidays. Just like with his silentlambs cause it looks like he puts all his heart into his candles as well.

  Alicia
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  Dubs don`t like to Tip

  by OUTLAW in

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  a post made by alanf just made me remember about going to restaraunts with dubs.for the most part they don`t like to tip.my parents and the dubs they went out with were not poor people.my mom would have a fit if she saw my dad tip.most dubs i knew were the same way.did the dubs you were around,like to tip?...outlaw

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  I've always been one to tip when I'm able to. There are times when all I have is enough money for the pizza being delivered, but usually I try to give two dollars, though I'll give one if that's all I have. At a dine-in I try to leave some money for a tip and will order accordingly. Yet if I get crappy service, that waiter or waitress will get a low tip. Of course, I don't take out messed up food on them, since I know it's the cook's fault.

  I remind myself every time I go to tip, or if I'm considering not tipping, that the person with the job does need any tip I can give. If someone didn't need the tips given, then they woudln't be working a waiting job. That, and I believe in Karma, so I need to do what I can do or it will come back and bite me hard.

  Alicia