They will mark you at the very least if they know about it before you are married. Once married they can't do anything about it but they will still want to meet with you and when they do, do not meet with them.
/\ /\ /\ This. /\ /\ /\ Stay under the radar as much as you can. Don't give them ammunition to use against you. Use the same advice you would receive about dealing with cops. KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. I am not yelling, just stressing how important it is to never say anything to the eldurrs. Avoid the eldurrs like you would a highly contagious person with a terminal illness.